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To be really angry with each and everyone of you who has ever moaned about being 'fat'

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Lookatwhatyouvedone · 29/06/2015 19:39

I have daughters. I've worked for years at nurturing their self esteem, reassuring them. Loving them.

Still makes feck all difference to the voices in their heads that tell them that thin and flat, or better still non-existent, is beautiful and having curves is ugly. They are a normal weight. They exercise. They eat sensibly. They aren't happy with their shape. And I think it's all your fault. All of you. Every single one of you who's ever obsessed about your thighs or your tummy or your boobs. Ever single one of you who's bought in to the lie that we can never quite be good enough, could always lose a few pounds, tone a few inches.
Look at what you've done and you still keep doing it. Fat is the demon, thin is the goddess and not a thought for the destruction done. How many threads on here asking how you can reduce yourselves. Not because you actually want to but because you think you should. But it doesn't just harm you does it? It harms all of us and our daughters and our daughters not even born. We talk about the pressure society puts on women but that's bollocks. We are society and we do it to ourselves. You don't talk about being healthy, you talk about being thin.

I am so angry, SO ANGRY, that what I say can't outweigh the damage you've all done. Tomorrow I'm sure I'll be sensible and reasonable and calm and not like this but tonight I'm bloody angry.

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MegMurry · 29/06/2015 19:48

How bloody ridiculous.

Maybe some of us don't want to be fat because it is extremely unhealthy and not a good example to set our children.

CrystalHaze · 29/06/2015 19:48
Biscuit

GF

NickAngel · 29/06/2015 19:48

What an odd post? Heat exhaustion already?

MrsGentlyBenevolent · 29/06/2015 19:48

How rude/goady/insensitive are you op? Jeez, sorry you failed in letting your daughters know that there's more to life than being stick thin. Some people have genuine issues with their weight though, especially in keeping it off. It's not always about the media expecting too much of us - some people just struggle with weight. Truly fat isn't healthy, it's ok to ackonwlage that. I'm very sorry your girls do not know the difference between obese, and carrying a little bit of extra weight/being curvy. Maybe they can get therapy whilst your at you "misplaced anger" sessions.

babyiwantabump · 29/06/2015 19:48

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Allofaflumble · 29/06/2015 19:49

I understand you OP. I was a teenager in the 70s and a lot of the girls at my school took blues (amphetimines) to get thin. They were all normal weight.

breadstixandhommus · 29/06/2015 19:50

Well......that went well Grin

puffinrock · 29/06/2015 19:50

I tell my children if they eat too much too much they will be fat. Nothing emotive about it is the truth. I never get what is wrong with saying that. Surely that is teaching them to eat normal portion sizes?

boltofblue · 29/06/2015 19:50

I do see your point, and I think some (most) have missed it spectacularly

babyiwantabump · 29/06/2015 19:50

Are you sure your daughters don't need to loose a few pounds though?

fairnotfit · 29/06/2015 19:50

Look at what you've done

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GiddyOnZackHunt · 29/06/2015 19:51

Well let's just hope you're not responsible for getting their social skills up to scratch then.

BabyFeets · 29/06/2015 19:51

Lol wtf Hmm

Sallystyle · 29/06/2015 19:52

Pahaha.

I was once fat. I moaned about it.

I lost weight because being it was healthier for me and I felt more attractive slimmer.

I am aslim but not at my slimmest right now and guess what? While I am not overweight I feel more attractive when I am a bit smaller.

Sorry if that offends you. I am not responsible for your daughter's self esteem, or anyone else's.

ghostyslovesheep · 29/06/2015 19:52

your kids - look close to home

I've never met your kids so it's fuck all to do with me :)

fairnotfit · 29/06/2015 19:52

Well let's just hope you're not responsible for getting their social skills up to scratch then

Grin
Sallystyle · 29/06/2015 19:52

Ack, typos!

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NoNameDame · 29/06/2015 19:53

op do you think maybe you should have done more to install some confidence and a better body image in your daughters??

Maybe if you weren't the kind of mother to get annoyed and think the best solution is to rant online or if you didn't blame others for things you have failed to do then you would have been more successful.

roundtable · 29/06/2015 19:53

You okay op? You seem really upset?

The delivery is off but I think I'm getting the gist of why you're upset if I'm reading between the lines correctly.

Maybe try reposting asking for help and support?

HopeClearwater · 29/06/2015 19:53

OP. Leave the UK. Go and live with your daughters in a society where food is not plentiful. Problem solved.

Stealthpolarbear · 29/06/2015 19:54

Op I'm sorry you sound like you're very stressed. I have a daughter. I'm on a constant diet and fwiw I agree. However the reason I initially lost weight was because I woke up feeling certain my obesity would lead to a heart attack within a decade. So I lost weight and that was the right thing to do in that situation.

Battleshiphips · 29/06/2015 19:54

Really? You're angry about that. Have a Wine and a piece of Cake. Always helps me simmer down.

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