Sponsoring DD

[DisappointedOne]

DD is 4 and had her first ever sponsored event this week. It was quite a challenge for her and her little legs in terms of distance and hills, but she did it and is very pleased with herself. She understands that it's to raise money for the school and has asked the neighbours etc to sponsor her, which they've been happy to do. She's raised over £50 from neighbours and my side of the family (not including us).

DH's family: DD's grandparents, 3 uncles, 2 aunts and 5 cousins have sponsored her the grand total of £5. She obviously has no concept of this being a kick in the teeth, but I'm fucking fuming on her behalf.

We'll be driving the best part of 600 miles in one day next weekend to attend a christening for one of them. WIBU to spend the grand sum of 41.7p (£5/12) on a card and gift?

I can't imagine why the in-laws don't like the OP.

Bloody hell how much did you expect them to sponsor a 4 year old? Surely your dd has no concept of money anyway.

Grow up

You should do a sponsored drip feed OP. You'd raise thousands.

BadLad

arf at BadLad and LOL at sponsorship from pets and teddies!

we do the £10 from us, but write a list of various names so DC feel better, but no pets or teddies on the list. neighbours 2 kids used to come and ask for sponsorship,we would give £1. never been asked to sponsor cousins/nephews etc. Do sponsor adult friends doing marathons etc.

can i just say i hate when schools do the 'prize for the class that raises the most in sponsorship' because that is so unfair as there will always be the few very rich kids and the pushy like the OP parents, and it is not fair for a child with several siblings and few family members/parents on low wages, they still all do their best at the event.

OP, you really don't sound like a very nice person, or you are putting yourself across badly. I really hope you manage to hide your loathing of DHs family from your DD so she does not grow up sneering at them like you seem to be.

I have agreed with my close friends and siblings and Dh's siblings that when our DC are doing something sponsored we can add their name on the list and add whatever amount of money we think fit, we do not collect the money from them, just put in a bit extra ourselves. Similarly when their DC do a sponsored hill related event or similar they add a bit extra and put our name on the list. The only people who actually give them sponsorship money are us and the grandparents.