To get married in jeans?

[SusiePaloozie]

I'm 42 years old...we're getting married in a hot country (DHs home country) and it won't be a formal affair...it will be in the garden..not during the hottest months but in Spring. I'm too old for floaty hippy style and the affair will be too relaxed for any of the wedding dresses aimed at older brides.

I thought I could wear some really nice jeans and a gorgeous white top...maybe a flower in hair and some fabulous shoes.
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Essentially the whole day will be a BBQ with friends and family....I will feel daft in a formal dress....I hate those 50s style tea dresses...and don't really want to buy a long or formal frock when I will never wear it again!

I have a good figure and look nice in jeans...I have no desire to be a princess for the day ...I've worked as an actor for years and have had loads of chances to wear big dresses....AIBU though?

Anyone else spotted there is now a thread about this on the feminism chat board...
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/2410437-Wedding-dresses-are-a-Feminist-issue

That just leaves the Houskeeeping and Telly Addicts boards to be informed of the OPs' big day.

Purple well they have now! Don't worry about it though...I'm not about to discuss those issues on THIS thread. There aren't enough people with anything interesting to say

Bit disingenuous to imply you were slammed for not wanting to wear a dress.

Jeans are fine, but do you usually wear them when it is very hot?

Omg I am almost 55 and I wear hippy stuff all the time! Am I too old then ! Is everyone laughing at me behind my back??
I think you should wear whatever you feel comfortable and beautiful in; something which you won't regret having worn when you look back at the photos.

Oh Op, you've made yourself look a right tit with that thread, sorry.

I actually wondered if it was a feminist issue here in your own thread, so perhaps you could have discussed it here when it was raised by me instead of implying we are all a bunch of brainless barbie dolls, all about our "speshul" day

I wear dresses just to do the school run in, go to do the weekly shop or just potter around in at home..

Everyday is a "speshul" day for me

Wow. 3 threads!! One asking aibu to wear jeans on your wedding day. One asking what top you could wear with jeans on your wedding day. One moaning about people saying you shouldn't wear jeans on your wedding day (which isn't true). JUST WEAR YOUR JEANS. NOBODY COULD GIVE A FLYING FUCK. Your attitude has made people stop caring.

I loathe dressing up and have turned down invites to 2 weddings next month on that basis.
Whilst I always look well turned out, I hate the whole dress, heels and hat malarkey. I would just look ridiculous. And as I am not stock size, the outfit would be expensive and never worn again.

If I ever got married again, it would be very casual and lowkey.

Oi! Denimzilla. You were not slagged off here for not wanting to wear a dress. Not remotely. You were slagged off for acting like a prima donna diva disingenuous drama queen.

Love the idea. Honestly. Do whatever makes you happy. It's your day after all. Congrats

I retract my advice. I now think I don't give a shiny one and not sure why you posted this thread.

Wear whatever you like

I wore jeans and a parka (well with a tshirt underneath - a Smiths one), but then we also wen to Pizza Hut for our 'reception' (it was just me and dh)

I have a feeling the op didn't want to post to ask an actual AIBU question though, but to make a 'statement'

OMFG How needy are you Ms 3 threads? I am a 65 year old feminist and my original post still stands.Jean's are not a feminist issue.

I'm a feminist. I have plenty to say on feminist issues. But I don't think I would find a debate with you very rewarding.

Heyyyy back here now after visiting your other considered and well-thought-out thread OP!

'Speshul', you sneer?!

I was trying to think of one word to sum you up, and I just couldn't quite get there... so thanks.

Erm ... OP do you think that MN is divided up into folks that only read and post on one board and folks that only read and post on another?

You think the ''people 'on' S & B'' are very kind, the ''people 'on' the feminist boards'' are very intelligent, and the ''people 'on' AIBU'' are daft and mean

FYI: It's a public forum with the public on it. All over it. We're all the same people ...

Thankyou for letting us know you are wearing jeans to your wedding OP

Actually I think I'm coming round to the idea.

It could even be your wedding 'theme'. Instead of wedding cake (too trad, and probably misogynist too) you could have muffins, in little blue denim-pattern cases, and they would ooze out over the top of the cases a la jeans 'muffin top'. Brilliant.

Sylvanian like these beauty's?

You could always get married in this.

Wear jeans if you want but please stop describing yourself as too old or an older bride. You are neither of these because if you are, I am. And I'm not

You really are tremendously out of order here, OP. I take particular exception to your summary (on the Feminists Board) of this thread as I think people just can't take the idea that not all women need "to feel like a princess" on their Speshul Day. Quite frankly, you are making an asshat of yourself and quite unnecessarily too.