To get married in jeans?

[SusiePaloozie]

I'm 42 years old...we're getting married in a hot country (DHs home country) and it won't be a formal affair...it will be in the garden..not during the hottest months but in Spring. I'm too old for floaty hippy style and the affair will be too relaxed for any of the wedding dresses aimed at older brides.

I thought I could wear some really nice jeans and a gorgeous white top...maybe a flower in hair and some fabulous shoes.
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Essentially the whole day will be a BBQ with friends and family....I will feel daft in a formal dress....I hate those 50s style tea dresses...and don't really want to buy a long or formal frock when I will never wear it again!

I have a good figure and look nice in jeans...I have no desire to be a princess for the day ...I've worked as an actor for years and have had loads of chances to wear big dresses....AIBU though?

If I ever need surgery I hope my surgeon puts on a fresh pair of scrubs for the procedure.

Is it standard practice to leave the operating theatre, nip out around the town, then back to operate on someone else without taking a second to whip off your scrubs ?

No it's not as per my previous post. Good point!

No, when I worked in theatres we werent even meant to leave the theatre complex in scrubs let alone the hospital building.

Maybe I'm using the wrong term - neither is a surgeon. I mean those usually blue/green uniform trousers and tops commonly worn by hospital medics.

Like this

www.templetonuniforms.net/var/m_b/b2/b23/393660/533505-nurse-scrubs-uniforms.jpg

Loiterer But I can't see why anyone would want to wear "special" clothes, I don't understand that either, if you're comfortable in a particular set of clothing, why don't you wear it all the time? And if you're not comfortable in a particular set, why would you wear it all?

I can understand the fairy princess wedding dress, and the tails for the man, that's a uniform and wearing a uniform to events is understandable. If you don't want the uniform though, then you wear what's comfortable surely, which for a lot of people is jeans. (Just please not white ones... or a jump suit if any future wife of mine is reading)

OP, having recently started my first AIBU, I learnt pretty quickly that if the general view was that you were BU then to suck it up and accept the advice you have asked for. If you don't want to hear others views - don't ask!

Banging on about how mean everyone is, is unlikely to calm the situation and just turn into a bun fight, which is where I fear this thread is heading....

Just read through your thread, Susie - no-one has been twatty at all, IMO (as you've said on your thread in S&B, which I've also just read). Some people responded to your unnecessary rudeness, which began on the very first page to the first two posters trying to offer suggestions.

I would also like to know why you point-blank refused to divulge the venue of your wedding here (some other nice ideas for clothing might have come, if people knew where it was, eg, a pretty ethnic top for SE Asia). Yet on S&B, you've revealed it readily. Most odd.

Hope you find what you're looking for. I'm personally very reluctant to offer any suggestions, as I'd get very cross if you were as rude to me as you have been to some others. (Although, in fairness, you do appear to have adopted a far nicer attitude on the other thread). So perhaps lesson learned, eh?

Best wishes for your wedding.

FGS can you really not see the difference between your S&B thread and this one?

In S&B you're stating you're getting married in jeans in Australia and ask an actual question - for suggestions as to what to wear on top. You are then mostly pleasant (though not particularly warm!) in your replies.

Here, you're just asking if you're BU for wearing jeans to get married in a location that you refuse to reveal. You are then nippy to anyone who gently says you are BU and rudely shoot down any suggestions for alternative outfits, which people thought you were after because why else did you post?

I actually think Style and Beauty is far more terrifying than AIBU.

As you can probably tell from my user name

Evans Someone on here already asked why I didn't reveal the location here...I decided it didn't matter...that's all...stop being so invasive and lawyer-like! It's frigging Mumsnet! "I would like to know why you point blank refused..." blah blah! You sound like you're discussing a murder not a wedding!

A murder? I'm sure nobody is thinking of that

S&B is pretty terrifying, Purple.

MorrisZapp: 'Do you mind me asking why you started this thread OP'

OP: 'no...I don't mind you asking.'

you really have no manners at all, do you? Carry on being surprised at the answers on here - what people are responding to is your obnoxious attitude. I call...

DENIMZILLA.

I love MN! Especially when it's like this.

My friends cousin did just that then went to mcdonalds. She and her DH are very no frills people.

OP, wear what you like. I can't stand people feeling they have to do this or have to do that at weddings. It's your and your partner's day and you should both do what you want. I think it's odd that people are saying that you are "just trying to be cool" and similar. Why? Because it's a bit different? You're not trying to be anything as far as I can see, you're just doing what makes you feel comfortable.

I'm getting married next year, I'm very girly, love vintage dresses, so I'm going to do that and go all out with fantastic hair and make up. I'm a few years older than you and don't think for a minute that I'm too old for it. My wife to be is very boyish and is going to wear smart jeans and a gorgeous shirt. I don't give a toss if anyone thinks that's strange or not! It's what we want to do at our wedding. I don't care what the guests wear either. Just wear your jeans and have a great day.

Denimzilla :) Spot on.

Ok seeing as you're ruder than Katie Hopkins with PMT, I'll be the first to say... jeans to your own wedding? What a cop out. You'll look ridiculous. Worst idea on the planet.

Did they supersize their meals Tali? Seeing as it was a special occasion.

Definitely cringiest thread of the day

Perhaps they did Mitzy Not sure on all the details.

Too long to rtft but has anyone suggested a playsuit? Can be quite versatile, will get worn again. I don't think 40's.os too old for anything really. It's all.in the way you wear it/hold yourself/confidence.

I've obviously missed something! No.one is giving suggestions anymore! How about.... a DENIM playsuit?!

Are you posting from a phone, OP?

Sometimes when I encounter a poster who seems rude, abrupt and dismissive, it turns out they're posting from a phone.

I saw Carey Mulligan sporting a really rather fetching 19th century denim dress in Far From the Madding Crowd recently. It was absolutely gorg, full length and all. If I was committed to getting wed in denim, I'd go for something along those lines.

stop being so invasive and lawyer-like

Pure gold - I've nothing much to add!

JEANS ? Are you on glue ? Have some pride.

Come now maras. A touch of an overreaction there!