To get married in jeans?

[SusiePaloozie]

I'm 42 years old...we're getting married in a hot country (DHs home country) and it won't be a formal affair...it will be in the garden..not during the hottest months but in Spring. I'm too old for floaty hippy style and the affair will be too relaxed for any of the wedding dresses aimed at older brides.

I thought I could wear some really nice jeans and a gorgeous white top...maybe a flower in hair and some fabulous shoes.
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Essentially the whole day will be a BBQ with friends and family....I will feel daft in a formal dress....I hate those 50s style tea dresses...and don't really want to buy a long or formal frock when I will never wear it again!

I have a good figure and look nice in jeans...I have no desire to be a princess for the day ...I've worked as an actor for years and have had loads of chances to wear big dresses....AIBU though?

A hazard suit? Especially in a size or two larger? White obviously, but with room to breathe? Space to have a slice of cake, type of deal? You could go all out on your hairdo then

Not from round where I live mitzy

Pumpkin I can never understand why people say that. Is it because they get called out on their rudeness and feel silly so try to excuse it?

Having rtft now this farcical. Several posters have tried to make good suggestions but been totally ignored and op seems intent only on arguing with people. So, in keeping with the ridiculous nature of this thread. Here's a suggestion op, I'm sure you'll look well classy. After all it worked well for this couple-and most of their friends I'm quite sure are "artistes and performers" don't say Justin and Brits are no longer an item?!

Oh dear Lord I want to go to at least one wedding during my lifetime where the Bride, Groom and guests are all attired in Britney's 90's clothing. It would be the best day ever.

I feel a bit ashamed that I got married in ivory now, hadn't considered the possibility of denim at all. When I marry Benedict Crunchybum I daresay we'll do it in Vegas in our jeans. That'll have to be my denim wedding.

glittz l'm typing on a phone. It's obvious to me.
I was looking back at some of my posts from a few years back (different name) l have a whole different on-line character!

Well, as I said before, I am no frequenter of S and B, but even I can tell that the outfits Nabuma kindly shared with us, are a very subtle and classy style of dressing for one's nuptials...

Okay that bit about the pearls looks wrong now I've typed it

Jeans are way too casual and probably too hot for Australia in spring.

I live here, btw, and have also lived in the UK for years. I don't think Australia is hugely more 'casual' than the UK. Certainly nobody I know has ever got married in jeans. I don't care if you spend hundreds on designer jeans; they still say 'minimal effort'. It's like saying 'I want to get married in flip-flops, but don't worry - they'll be havaianas, not Tesco cheapies'.

I think it's going to look tacky. Sorry, honest opinion.

Awww Britney and Justin should still be together.

I think jeans personally even white ones look terrible at a wedding but hey it's your day...

You could wear any number of other options listed in this thread. Jeans to me just scream 'I don't care' even if they are VB ones... with added sprinkles on.

I also feel you may regret this afterwards the non dressing up part - not in a big puffy dress but just something nice.

I'd be very pissed if I expected a dressy wedding as a guest but then you say your guests are also casual so they won't mind half my friends are film/arty too but even they'd draw the line at jeans

having said that my mum wanted to wear jeans to my DB's wedding (smart affair but not casual), I dragged her to the shops to get a decent pair of trousers and a snazzy jacket and she looked great!

White denim is a bit Liz Hurley.

Wear your jeans. I think the AIBU mob have had a ball on this thread.

You handled them very well, OP.

And I doubt Liz Hurley is a thesp that the OP admires!

I really don't get the "tacky" or "too informal" thing though, if you're having an informal wedding.

No one batted an eyelid at DHs jeans, it was a quick registry office thing and a meal afterwards for about a dozen of us. I just wore a nice off the peg pink dress, choice was limited as I had a big bump I think all the male guests had jeans on (apart from my dad!) It was just nice, relaxed and low key. I don't think DH could even tell you if asked, what he or I wore. We are still very very happily married.

Or is it different if it's a woman wearing the jeans?

Liz hurley could actually be one of the 'artists or performers' attending OP's wedding. Hope they don't both turn up in white denim

No fear. I think Liz always wears one of those slashed to the nethers type of evening gowns when she attends weddings. She's very demure you know.

I agree with you Purple. You should do what you want at your own wedding. If I were the OP I don't think I'd have come on AIBU at all. She clearly wants to wear jeans, top and heels and why ever not?

It's your wedding wear and do what ever makes you happy...its a day that's all about you!

....but maybe go to a few stores try some different outfits on. John Lewis has a personal shopper that might give you some ideas. You don't have to tell them it's for a wedding if you don't want explain yourself.

Have a wonderful day!

Yes, absolutely - wear what you want to your own wedding. But why ask if YABU if your mind is already made up?

The other thread on S&B has been worded differently, which in turn makes a difference as to what replies will be received.

I don't understand why OP told a poster on this thread that she didn't want to divulge the country where she's holding the wedding, yet on the other thread in S&B, told posters there it was in Oz.

Aren't we speshul enough?

Yes, that is true. No point in asking if you have already decided. Maybe she just wanted to see what others thought but once she heard it galvanised her idea. Anyway, I know what she means. Alot of the traditional wedding thing confuses me but other parts of it I think are great. I guess we are all diffferent.

Pumpkin - I asked that earlier, and was told to "stop being invasive and lawyer-like"

So no, we're clearly not speshul enough

Evans...no I did answer you. I decided that I actually wasn't bothered about revealing the location...I thought I was...then decided I wasn't...not enough info to be recognised anyway. that good enough for ye?

It's your day so you can wear whatever you want obviously

But

It seems a little sad to me...jeans, a nice top and heels is what I choose to wear on a night out to the pub not on such an important occasion in your life.

You are also not too old for a hippy style...42 is not old! Also, if you do want to wear jeans, then don't wear blue...white jeans are lovely and it sounds like you have the figure to pull them off.

If I was you, I'd dedicate a whole day to shopping and try on everything! Dresses, skirts, trousers, jeans, even stuff you'd never normally consider...you might be surprised by what looks good.