To put dd 7m into nursery so I can go to the gym?

[Vijac]

I've just started putting her in for an hour two times a week. The first sessions were ok but today at her 4th session her face just crumpled when I said goodbye which wrenched my heart :(. She obviously realised I was leaving her. Am I mean putting her in just so I can go the gym. I just want to get fit and lose some weight finally. Will I damage her according to attachment parenting? Thanks.

I dont live anywhere near my family either, or dhs. I have made my own family from friends and like minded people.

My mother may say she loved every precious minute of being with her children, but we (the children concerned) certainly didn't! She was not well suited to being a SAHM and was much happier when she returned to work, though she still holds forth about how wonderful it was to be at home when we were little.

I have made my own family from friends and like minded people.
My childminder was one of my friends till she moved away.
The creche manager became a friend

My kids are still friends with kids who were in the gym creche with them

I would prefer it if people just looked after the children they had brought into the world, or didn't bother having them in the first place if they are just going to get someone else to look after them.

I'll happily rely on my friends for childcare when they all start school - however it's a bit more full-on when full-time care is involved.

That's reminded me actually, we need to set up a plan for looking after each other's kids during holidays.

So much so that i home educate them, all 5 of them!

Christ, I love my children to pieces but that is my ultimate idea of HELL.
Just goes to show everyone is different.

or didn't bother having them in the first place if they are just going to get someone else to look after them.
ROTFLMAOPMPL

Part of letting kids grow up is letting them find out who they are away from you

I would prefer it if people just looked after the children they had brought into the world, or didn't bother having them in the first place if they are just going to get someone else to look after them.

So.... if I spend years trying to build a professional career for myself and it doesn't lend itself to breaks, I should give up any thought of breeding? And if I do choose to breed, then the career I've built should be immediately dismissed as something I did to pass the time whilst waiting to fulfil my glorious destiny of motherhood?

I would prefer it if people just looked after the children they had brought into the world, or didn't bother having them in the first place if they are just going to get someone else to look after them.

that's all right then.then . All the lone parents can give up work to look after their dc's .

It doesn't surprise me that a seven month old does not want to be left with strangers. However the baby will get to know the nursery nurses and they stop being strangers.

If a mother is expected to always sacrifice her happiness to her family then she becomes a martyr. A healthy family unit makes sure that everyone's needs are met. Sometimes the temporary happiness of baby needs to be sacrificed to meet the needs of the mother. Having a mother who is happy will make the child happier in the long term. Keeping everyone in the family unit happy means compromise.

Even Dr Sears warns against burn out. If leaving a baby in the gym crèche for an hour prevents burn out the it's a price worth paying.

They stop being "strangers" though, the nursery staff are great friends of mine now, part of the family basically.

I remember a relative was quite when my aunt got a divorce and then deliberately applied for (and got) a well-paid job; the relative thought that aunt should stay at home and look after her kids. DAunt patiently pointed out that they'd have to survive on (minimal) benefits if she did that, which the relative also didn't approve of. Apparently the relative's face was a picture

My aunt is fab.

Surely if you can afford gym membership and the creche, you can afford some home fitness equipment? I had a 3yo and an under 1yo, and I lost over 3 stone (over the course of a year) by walking with the pram, and using a rowing machine and weights at home.

My 2yo is booked in to go to nursery one session a week - she didn't want to go last week, because she said it makes her sad. I don't know what I will do about it this week, but I sure wont be taking her there and leaving her upset when I don't have any pressing reason to be away from her, other than wanting 2 and a half hours to myself . At the moment I get up at 6am so that I can do my fitness work before any of the DCs get up, before I have to take the older ones to school. There's no martyrdom in it.

keep you're pissing in the wind here

As for the rude name calling above, "crank" really? count me in along with the rest of them then!

vvega well basically she shouldn't have got divorced. The total breakdown of her respectability began there

She's remarried now. To a divorcee

I'm a SAHM to 3 kids, soon to be 4, and my next DC will be put into the gym's crèche for an hour 3 times per week soon as I am able to resume exercising. Dc3 used to go too before starting school last September. It gives them a chance to socialist and do all the messy play we don't do as much of at home, and me a bit of 'me' time that has nothing to do with being 'mum'. Perfect for my sanity and fitness! Do it, a happy mum is a happy home

Yeah daryl, I've been biting my tongue here - if you're not going to appreciate my good manners then I might just as well not bother!

Btw junction I love that you send your kids to nursery to be socialists are you ideologically opposed to it at home?

keep just interested- did you leave your children with your DP/DH at all ever? My DS used to cry when left with anyone else -including DP. I would have loved to spend every precious moment with him but thought feeding/clothing providing a house was better especailly as he would be with his father who had also brought him into this world

fragile yes my kids enjoyed being with their father.