To think less of my friend? (And to ask what puts you off a person)

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I have been friends with a woman for a while now, but recently, while in a cafe, she was awful to the wait staff after the service was a little slow (it was busy) talking to them like they were sub-human, and being rude and demanding. It was embarrassing! Ever since then I've thought less of her, and now not so sure I want to be close friends with someone who can be so unkind to others. She's always been nice to me, though.

AIBU to think less of her because of this one event? She wasn't having a bad day to my knowledge, and was perfectly pleasant to me both before and after talking to the waitress - as if nothing were wrong.

If IANBU, is there anything else that makes you think less of someone like this?

People who've forgotten where they've come from. My dads sisters are like this, grew up in a council house with barely a bean to rub together but now they've got naice houses in naice stuck up areas they think they are better than everyone else. One of them was horrified when they heard that social housing was being built around the corner from them, my dad had to remind her of her roots.

I could never ever ever be friends with someone who does that snorting back of snot hacking thing bleurgh

I am a fair few of the above! :)
I don't like cats. They smell, they toy with poor wildlife, they shit in my garden. They are pointless.
I'm an atheist and a feminist. Don't really need to explain there!
I have woo leanings. (Not homeopathy though.)
Loads more. Oh well.

Absolutely loads of things make me think less of someone.

• Religious people.
• People who call themselves animal lovers, yet don't stop eating animal flesh (so, you are a dog fan, say that. Or cats. But all animals? No.)
• People who eat animals
• Smokers
• People who have more than two children
• People who want to split the bill evenly, when one of you has had a significantly cheaper meal/drinks than the other
• Mothers who didn't breastfeed. 1% can't. The rest, pah.
• Those who drank during pregnancy, or ate risky food (soft cheese etc)
• Parents who use disposable nappies
• People who don't recycle where possible
• Tories/ukip
• Those who voted no re Scottish Independence
• Cheats
• Those who read trashy magazines, sleb magazines, Hello etc
• People who watch stuff like Big Brother, I'm A Sleb Gemme Outta Here, Eastenders etc
• People who fawn over slebs
• Royalists
• People who give their children a top ten name
• People who give their children a filler middle name
• People who don't use Rear-Facing carseats for their kids under 25kg
• People who waste NHS resources

I reckon no one reading has escaped being on my list! :)

Jeeze HaveIgotviews!! Have you got any friends? That's a long list.

HaveIGotViews I do hope you get on well with the ten or so people who don't fit your criteria.

Why on earth do you think less of people who use a top ten name how bizarre

And using a forward facing car seat for 3-4 year olds is probably 99% of parents in the UK. Do you have any friends??

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I think less of those people not necessarily to the extent I don't have them among my pals.
I don't have loads of friends, no. But it's quality not quantity, no?
Like I said, people think less of me for various reasons too.

Top ten names are just dullsville. I like a bit more variety with babynames.

Altinkum, the current top ten. So if you are having a baby in 2015, I'd think less of you if you called him/her something that has been in the top ten in the last five years.
I don't think less of the child with the pedestrian name - of course they didn't have a choice.

Haveigotviews, YABU. You have got to be lying when you say you have friends. Are they prize cunts, too?

I agree with you about those shite top ten baby names, though. Oliver, Sophie, Alphie and Charlotte? So uninspired.

Giraffe, it's new; I just changed! :)

Ah, the feminist-hating atheist-hater. You didn't like me anyway!

Any others you agree with, purdiepie and which ones are you?

I went off a friend because she kept having affairs with older married men ( whilst also in a relationship with Much older mad hol who left his wife for her). She just seemed to have no scruples about it. And was nasty about the wives the men were cheating on and smug that she was sooo much hotter. I cut her out of my life in the end.
I hear She is now engaged to a man closer to her own age. ( kind of hope he cheats on her when she is older). Karma can be a bitch.

Haveigotviews I quite like you!
(Despite the cat/pregnancy things)

Maybe I'm a prize cunt though.

I have a nursery-mum friend who is chatty and friendly, would offer me a lift during the winter when it was raining, was the first person to strike up a conversation with me when DS started there.

But over time I have realised she bitches about the other parents. Examples so far include telling me another mother at the nursery "seems a bit slow". And almost everyone is snobby in her eyes. She recently tried bitching about another mother who I like and get on with really well. I completely ignored it. It's definitely made me step back from her. She isn't the sort of person I want a friendship with.

Aw, LiDL.
Yeah, I still like a lot of folk, despite the things that make me think less of them. Can't all be perfect. :)

Intolerance in all forms live and let live!

A friend didn't tell me that one of our mutual friends (who now lives abroad and I only speak to occasionally) had cancer. She said she was too shocked to say anything. I found out another way, and the first thing I did was contact her. I'm finding it very difficult to forgive this.

My best friend and flatmate at the time told me to pull my socks up and that I didn't need anti depressants. I was later diagnosed with psychological episodes due to massive thyroid swings with Graves. So, it wasn't all in my head, then. Subsequently she told me that I was settling for the man I married. We don't talk anymore.

Loud parenting is just incomprehensible to me. Do those who do it not notice the physical cringe it induces in others?

Boasting about money, or worse, judging people by how much money they have. Especially awful when you sit in church every Sunday looking extremely pious!

Believing in woo. Especially in relation to autism. I have witnessed the most awful abuse inflicted on children with asd simply because their parents couldn't accept the condition and would go to any lengths for a 'cure'. Counselling for them would help the child a whole lot more!!

Oh how grateful I am not to have to cross paths with HaveIGotViews other than randomly on the internet.

No doubt you are perfect HIGV .

People who take advantage of the good nature of others, so the favours all go one way, and then get shirty when you decline to be a doormat any longer

People who preach and don't know when to shut up, apparently assuming that I have never thought about, say, veganism before.

People who judge you on what you've got rather than on who you are

People who twist and distort the facts to suit their own agenda.

Oh, I could go on. I'm getting less and less easygoing as I get older. I will be a right grumpy old bag by the time I hit 60.