To think less of my friend? (And to ask what puts you off a person)

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I have been friends with a woman for a while now, but recently, while in a cafe, she was awful to the wait staff after the service was a little slow (it was busy) talking to them like they were sub-human, and being rude and demanding. It was embarrassing! Ever since then I've thought less of her, and now not so sure I want to be close friends with someone who can be so unkind to others. She's always been nice to me, though.

AIBU to think less of her because of this one event? She wasn't having a bad day to my knowledge, and was perfectly pleasant to me both before and after talking to the waitress - as if nothing were wrong.

If IANBU, is there anything else that makes you think less of someone like this?

purdie, do you realise you spelt Alfie incorrectly?? After saying that you "couldn't be friends with anyone who can't spell "supremacist'."?

People on this thread actually.

Some make sense that you would think less of someone for, adultery, racism etc etc. But some are plain stupid and say far more about the person themselves than the person they are busy looking down on.

I hate that OP it really puts me off a person hearing them speak to staff somewhere like shit.

Happened to me recently at a restaurant with one of DPs friends and we had a bit of an argument about it (me and rude man) and its really changed my opinion of him.

Obviously some people think they are above others.

That's one heck of a list HaveIGotViewsForYou

I've got 3.5 of the things on your list, so not doing too badly I hope!

poster HaveIGotViewsForYou Fri 19-Jun-15 20:05:21
Altinkum, the current top ten. So if you are having a baby in 2015, I'd think less of you if you called him/her something that has been in the top ten in the last five years.
I don't think less of the child with the pedestrian name - of course they didn't have a choice.

There are no words or phrases permissable on Mumsnet which would allow me to express how I feel about this post from you HaveIGotViews. Suffice to say it would be extremely scathing.

Haveigotviews, I also agree with you about bill-splitting but I'm teetotal and poor as fuck so have reason to be a tight bastard. What's your excuse?

HaveIGotViewsForYou Fri 19-Jun-15 20:05:21
Altinkum, the current top ten. So if you are having a baby in 2015, I'd think less of you if you called him/her something that has been in the top ten in the last five years.
I don't think less of the child with the pedestrian name - of course they didn't have a choice

There are no words or phrases permissable on Mumsnet which would allow me to express how I feel about this post from you HaveIGotViews. Suffice to say it would be extremely scathing.

Adultery is probably the one thing guaranteed to put me off someone.

Believing in ghosts, or worse, insisting on having seen one.

People who don't like animals. It's strange and makes me instantly wary.

Shadow, sorry, I was thinking about the Beckams' nipper, Alphie Romeo.

I'm probably biased, as I have a child with a top 10 name (a family name, meaningful to us, and I didn't see why we shouldn't use it just because lots of other parents liked it too).

But I tend to think less of people who are bending over backwards to give their child a very unique name just for the sake of being different and unique. I'm thinking about people looking well outside the top 100 here. Especially if it involves deliberately misspelling well established names.

Mintyy, wow. That's some reaction. One can only assume you have a child with a pedestrian name.

Okay, that makes sense purdie.
I was wondering if it was a case of spelling being (wrongly) autocorrected by your tablet / smartphone.

Pictish, yes! People who believe in ghosts. Idiots.

Ha, those of us who have read Harry Potter will be familiar with the line which has echoed the view of several people on this thread:

"If you want to see what a man's really like, look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals." (Sirius Black, HP and the Goblet of Fire, on Barty Crouch and the house-elf Winky)

I'm too poor to own a tablet. I write using the blood of feminists.

I've noticed that not a single poster has mentioned the use of porn as putting them off a friend..

I couldn't be friends with someone who had an abortion for social or selfish reasons,people who huff and don't tell you why,people who are shallow or materialistic,health freaks who try to tell you what to eat, snobby people and dog owners who smell of dogs and wear fleeces covered in dog hair;

Not one of my friends has told me they watch porn, I would find that a very odd conversation.

Over sharing on facebook. And facebook bragging.

Porn tends come up in conversations outside my friends boundaries.
As is their sex life.

Posting a lot of selfies on fb. Double whammy if they're all in the same fucking pose.

Oh and people who don't like children