To think less of my friend? (And to ask what puts you off a person)

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I have been friends with a woman for a while now, but recently, while in a cafe, she was awful to the wait staff after the service was a little slow (it was busy) talking to them like they were sub-human, and being rude and demanding. It was embarrassing! Ever since then I've thought less of her, and now not so sure I want to be close friends with someone who can be so unkind to others. She's always been nice to me, though.

AIBU to think less of her because of this one event? She wasn't having a bad day to my knowledge, and was perfectly pleasant to me both before and after talking to the waitress - as if nothing were wrong.

If IANBU, is there anything else that makes you think less of someone like this?

Someone who spends all day on Mumsnet. Unless they're ill. Get a life.

YANBU - I have a real thing about people talking down to people like that

LadyMaryofDownton - you have cameras in your kitchen? I realise if it's for work, not many people would go in there but I would be weirded out if I found out I was on camera at a friend's house. I can just imagine everyone in the garden and then I pop to the kitchen for a glass of water and adjust my knickers while I think no-one's looking.

Now I'm wondering how normal cameras are in the home, esp with nanny cams and so on...

Would you be put off by someone who pronounces broccoli (the veg) as brick-o-lie instead of brick-o-lee? I know someone who does that.

I think people who say "he hung himself" are also stupid. It's HANGED himself. HOW do people not know that?

People who:

Use the word "schizo"
Put other people down to uphold thieir own shattered self esteem
Talk incessantly about themselves
Interrupt other people talking
Constantly clear their throats /sniff/slurp
Confuse debating with arguing

Omg i didn't know it was hanged not hung!

Brock-o-lee! Brock-o-lie. Damn auto correct!

Non-readers, particularly those who are all ''I don't have time to read I'm so busy, oh, btw, did you see Corrie last night?''

I know it's hanged not hung but I prefer to use the incorrect word because it flows better. Sometimes I even tell people that I know I'm using the incorrect word. I also deliberately mispronounce the word twice because I don't like the correct way.

Nationalists.

Oh and I judge myself.

I find excessively pushy parents and "only the very best will do for my child" types terribly hard to get along with. And they do come creeping out of the woodwork as your child's school career progresses. Also, parent friends who can only talk about their children. Omg yawn.

rabid man haters (I will not dignify them with calling them feminists because they are not feminists they are more like female supermistists (sp?) even if they think themselves one, I belive in feminist ideals but the extreme man haters are not feminists )

The reason for this is I can not be friends with someone whom hates a group of people be it due to race/ religon or gender and the ex friend has posted a massive rant on about the new jassiric park as the main male lead is not depicted as a rapist / wife beater/ cat calling bloke and so is totally wrong and apprently a idilistic repersentation of Male as apprently she thinks every single male does this but woe betide anyone whom even attempts to generalise females in such negitive serto types when attempting to point out shes a bloody hypocrite etc

Drink driving, I look at people differently.

Casual unkindness.

Racism.

I,m mostly try to see the good. People can be cunts sometimes. Very few are cunts all the time. expect to be on The People Who Use Cunt Pejoratively List

thehumanjam "I also deliberately mispronounce the word twice because I don't like the correct way."

There's more than one way to pronounce 'twice'? Really? It rhymes with mice, surely. What do you say then, 'tweece'?

Someone who spends all day on Mumsnet. Unless they're ill. Get a life.

How can you tell, though purdie? PM medical disclosure forms? Why should posters tell you about their health?

Gruntfuttock, twaice, maybe?

Butterfly; It's the norm if you run a personal security business I did lol at the knickers part, even I've been caught doing that!

I agree with the not reading thing, I just don't get that. I love a good book.

Things that I have come across, where I have ended up thinking less of the person include:

Going on holiday to Dubai
Refusing to tip in a restaurant, when that decision is not based on personal financial constraints
Divulging personal information about others, even anonymously, particularly when it seems that person is trying to impress me
Believing in woo
Anti vax
Smacking their kids

There are other things that would make me think less of someone, but I haven't come across them (yet).

Narcissists
Bragging, talking about money never happy with what they have.
People who never have a good word to say about others.
People who use others for there own personal gain then move on to the next poor soul.
Anyone who takes advantage of a persons kindness, shatters there confidence and looks down on them.
Lying, cheating, stealing

All done by an ex friend who is evil to the core.

OP that would probably make me think twice about the friend. She obviously thinks she's better than those serving her whereas she might just be luckier!
I lost respect for a 'friend' when I realised that she really used her so called friends as free childcare. When they were no longer useful she dropped them. She was a thoughtless scrounger too. (From friends, not the state!!) she would always plead poverty but when we looked up her DH's pay scales (sorry we couldn't resist in the end) we found he earned more than any of our joint earnings! Lots of us started avoiding her calls as she always wanted lifts for her DC without offering lifts in return. Amazingly I think she genuinely has no idea!!

I couldn't be friends with anyone who can't spell 'supremacist'.

Grunt, there is only one correct way to pronounce twice but I separate the t so I say t (pause) wice. I cringe when I say it to people who don't really know me very well but I can't change the habit of a lifetime.

Thanks for clarifying, thehumanjam.