To think less of my friend? (And to ask what puts you off a person)

[MonkeyPJs]

I have been friends with a woman for a while now, but recently, while in a cafe, she was awful to the wait staff after the service was a little slow (it was busy) talking to them like they were sub-human, and being rude and demanding. It was embarrassing! Ever since then I've thought less of her, and now not so sure I want to be close friends with someone who can be so unkind to others. She's always been nice to me, though.

AIBU to think less of her because of this one event? She wasn't having a bad day to my knowledge, and was perfectly pleasant to me both before and after talking to the waitress - as if nothing were wrong.

If IANBU, is there anything else that makes you think less of someone like this?

Yes, dear Mintyy. Of course you do.

Haveigotviews, you're my new bezzie. I like the sound of you.

Cockbollocks that would put be off someone too!

It probably isn't good form to comment on PPs choice of things they don't like, but I'm not particularly a cat or dog lover as I don't like pets indoors.

But I don't have anything missing from my heart, thank you very much

Felicity is often shortened to Flick, which automatically makes me think of flicking one's bean.

I'm with most things on this thread apart from judging someone for not having an iPhone, I hated mine! I gave it to my neice and am now happily in love with my Nexus 5 phone.

What is flicking one's bean? [ignorant]

People who goad on internet forums because they think it makes them look big and clever.

People who shout at animals.

People who rant on Facebook SO MUCH that you know they just think what they have to say is SO important. Could you have said that in three fewer paragraphs?

Yy to people deliberately remaining ignorant.

People deliberately never telling their child 'no' and being proud of it ('oh she's the boss in this house'/ 'funny' anecdotes about tantrums)

And racism, sexism etc - find it somewhat more annoying if they continuously 'just don't know any better' rather than just being a dick. Well go learn, it doesn't excuse hurting someone.

self loving the lady way

And yy I hated the iPhone, never heard of a nexus phone though

I was just about to say "sure, sure" to Mintyy knowing loads of Nancys. Yeah right!

ShadowFire, you can be my friend too, 3.5 on my list is good going! :)

Ooh, this is the most popular I have ever been!

Often I find I struggle with people who either won't stop to think for a minute, or who lack the basic intelligence to be able to do so.

I would just say that Nancy is ranked outside 100 for girls names in the UK at the moment. Although I see that it is becoming more and more common every year.

When my dd was born, her name was also outside 100.

By the time she was 8, it had risen to number 2! So now she has a really common name . A name that you would think less of me for.

That's what happens folks! Your edgy and individual names catch on and become part of the Zeitgeist. Why else would there be groups of Johns/Sarahs/Chloes/Jacks/Amelies and Olivers in any given year group?

It is just SUCH a preposterously shallow thing to "think less" of someone for.

I know three Nancys age 2-13.

Oh, and a cat .

Oh dear I've got a few...
But they probably say more about me than the other people

• I'm not thrilled when people want to change their child's pooey nappy in my house and I offer changing mat in the bath room etc and they say no it's fine I'll just do it here and proceed to change straight onto my carpet in middle of my living room (and maybe then don't even wash their hands Ew Ew Ew)

-Also not crazy about when we're out and about with children who are older than potty training age and they need the loo and parent will encourage them to just wee where they are, against a tree, in a garden etc, especially when toilets are readily available nearby (DD is also shocked by this as she wouldn't dream of doing such a thing!)

• When you are having a picnic and food is put straight onto a (filthy) picnic mat.

Must admit I did used to have a mild OCD for cleaning, so this is why these probably bother me. Although I do know people who do these things, I would actually avoid becoming closer friends as this kind of behaviour does jar me so much.

People who smoke weed is a real turn off for me but I still have plenty of friends that do it.
I find it juvenile and a bit pathetic how they think they are such a 'chill' person or whatever for getting high.

People who get absolutley fucked every weekend as they clearly hve nothing more satisfying worth doing in their lives spend all day Sunday posting on facebook about how they are 'never drinking again' then spend the rest of the week on a countdown to the weekend. Find a more rewarding way of spending your time ffs.

I"m put off by...

-people who have no interest in travel - on principal I don't understand not wanting to see more of the world than your own neighbourhood.

-non-vaccinators

-the "party" and drink a lot set

-those who talk non stop about their weight, what they can and cant eat, what various food make their skin itch, breakout or look splotchy etc

Folk who just throw their little in the ground.
If you don't pick up your dog's poo.

Am am put off someone if they:

• watch 'reality' tv like TOWIE

• vote UKIP

• don't like cats (although I have several friends who don't, all my closest friends do)

• believe in homeopathy

• are really into fitness stuff (yawn)

How do you lot have any friends!?

people who don't understand what feminism is.

" I agree with you about those shite top ten baby names, though. Oliver, Sophie, Alphie and Charlotte? So uninspired. "

some might say 'uninspired' others might say 'classic'.
It is 'Alfie' btw as in short for Alfred.
so what do you think would be 'inspired' then? Lula-Mae? Satin-Tia?

disablist people
anyone who is mean to my disabled dd

I distanced myself from someone who left her husband for her best friend's husband. How could you do that to a very close friend?

I thought even less of her when she gloated (after weeks of dating) that she won't need IVF this time around. Her husband had fertility issues. In my eyes, she's a selfish, unfeeling specimen of a human being.

Oh, and she refers to her new love as "the best boyfriend a girl could wish for" and the "best boyfriend eva" all over Facebook. She's a professional 40 year old woman!

I've thought about this a bit. Some would mean a new acquaintance might not get very far, others avoid like the plague, others, just don't ever get into the subject with them.

People who talk about their diets. All the time.
Ditto their children
Homeopath believers
People with no books in their homes
Golfers
Fitness bores
People with no pets; just a bit odd

People who sniff. GET A TISSUE.