To think less of my friend? (And to ask what puts you off a person)

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I have been friends with a woman for a while now, but recently, while in a cafe, she was awful to the wait staff after the service was a little slow (it was busy) talking to them like they were sub-human, and being rude and demanding. It was embarrassing! Ever since then I've thought less of her, and now not so sure I want to be close friends with someone who can be so unkind to others. She's always been nice to me, though.

AIBU to think less of her because of this one event? She wasn't having a bad day to my knowledge, and was perfectly pleasant to me both before and after talking to the waitress - as if nothing were wrong.

If IANBU, is there anything else that makes you think less of someone like this?

Selfie-takers should be forced to work with the facially disfigured.

What weirdo doesn't ever talk about sex with their bezzies??

How is taking selfies offensive? If it makes someone feel good then great. You don't have to look.

Some of the reasons on here are so bloody stupid

I didn't say it was offensive; it shows a puerile narcissism that I couldn't tolerate in a friend.

purdiepie
Yes, my children's names are totally "pedestrian", by which I assume you mean common. As are mine and dh's. I would be hard pressed to think of a family of 4 who have more common names (for their era) than us.

Strangely enough, I don't feel defensive about this. I just think you (meaning a person not you personally) must be a monumental arsehole to think less of someone for choosing a common name.

Think less of someone for being a snobby judgemental twat, yes, but for their name choices? Well ... it says more about you, as they say.

I've never had a conversation about porn with any of my friends.

I used to have some colleagues who were sacked on the spot for getting caught forwarding pornographic e-mails at work. My opinion of them nose dived.

...and not everything we do to make ourselves feel good is 'great'.

Purdie how? It's not narcissistic, if someone kept captioning it with LOOK AT MY PERFECT FACE then yeah but just a normal selfie? Not really. Maybe they thought their outfit was nice. Or felt confident that day.

Either way it's a stupid thing to get annoyed about

I didn't say it was offensive; it shows a puerile narcissism that I couldn't tolerate in a friend.

I'd have to agree.

Mintyy, I guess I just feel that to saddle your child with a ubiquitous name is a little uninspired. It seems lazy to me when there are some beautiful names to be had. Mind you..there's no accounting for people's taste. I had a baby last year and was desperate to give her my all-time favourite name: Queenie. The lashings of pure hatred that tumbled from the tongues of my family and good friends was so astonishingly awful that I bottled out and called her Nancy (which I now adore). I'm pregnant again now and will use Queenie this time if it's a girl. Fuck 'em, innit.

Lashings, I don't get as annoyed with vacuous selfie-takers as you have got over my post.

Funny that.

Purdiepie LOVE Nancy!!! I wanted to call dd Felicity but couldn't as everyone hated it!

Belle, Felicity was in Malory Towers!

Oh, and thank you for the compliment.

Not annoyed I just find it weird that people judge others for such minor things.

Trying to think of anything minor I judge people for...I dunno all mine seem reasonable to me, but I guess all ours seem reasonable to us

I couldn't be friends with someone who didn't think women should have full access to abortions in the first half of pregnancy for any reason whatsoever.

I love judging people. It's my absolute favouritestest part-time and is the sole reason I set my alarm to watch Jeremy Kyle on my 84" plasma telly before donning my tracksuit and shuffling to the job centre with my can of Monster.

*part-time = past-time. Sorry, I was changing Alphie's nappy.

"If you want to see what a man's really like, look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals."

Yes, that! Also the quote above about how you treat people who you get nothing from. I think that sums up why I'm put off the friendship.

To me though there is a massive difference between genuinely being put of a person (which I am with my "friend") and judging someone ... I hope!

Or maybe some people do genuinely want to be friends and we get on well and have a great time, but decide to give up our friendship when they find out I read Harry Potter / have an I-pad / took a selfie once etc?

purdie, I LOVE Queenie. I have commented on a Queenie thread here, positively. Love it! Go for it! And congratulations!
Mintyy, as purdie says, its just so dull to name your child something top ten, and I think it's so boring for a child to be one of ten Olivers or Amelias. Those names are done to death, yawwwwwn. There are hundreds of fabulous name, why on earth pick something so commonplace? Feel free to scathe at me!

purdie re bill-splitting, I am tee-total too, and whilst not poor, we are budgeting for something life-changing, so I don't see why I should subsidise someone else's steak and lobster and see my dream take another few years to accomplish.

You might be onto something with the name thing. I'm doing a project at work at the moment with 3 Sues and 3 Andrews working on it out of about 10 people. It's bloody confusing!

My DD has a top 10 name and my son has a name that isn't top 10 but is very common around here so it wouldn't put me off really but sometimes wish we'd gone for something rarer.

Arf. I know so many little Nancys.

oh I've got one! I find it weird when people breastfeed toddlers. Looks wrong. I don't look down on someone for it though, I just think "God her boobs must be sore"

I'm probably going to get some shit for this

Felicity was my favourite name for DD too. It means good luck and happiness. DH vetoed it. I'm not sure what's not to like about it.

I have a friend who will seek revenge on anyone who upsets her, even minor upsets she will do small subtle things to make her feel like she has got one over on that person.

She thinks its funny, I have distanced myself from her.