Calling DP 'hubby' when not married?

[stqueen]

This is winding me up far more than it should be. I have a friend (actually one of my oldest friends who is lovely) who refers to her DP, in person & on social media, as her 'hubby' or 'hubs'. FB status posted at the weekend referring to her 'lovely hubby'. They are not married & never have been ! Many couples consciously choose not to marry & it isn't a big deal these days simply to have a long term DP. They have 2 children together so I suppose she feels married but I feel it makes a mockery out of those who ARE married! I have asked her why she does it, she simply says she feels married & he is her DH in all but a marriage certificate. As I said, this is winding me up far more than it should be, perhaps I have too much time on my hands noticing these things but she's done it for years & its really starting to get on my nerves! AIBU?

No, there is a huge load of law and case law about the distinction between employed and self employed. Employees pay their tax via PAYE. They are entitled to SMP, have unfair dismissal rights and a raft of other differences. There are massive differences between the two - ask any self employed cleaner you know about the differences as they operate at all levels of the income chain. Big difference. I am not employed and if I told someone I was I would be lying or else a bit thick.

What has it got to do with you? She can call her other half what she likes. Me and my oh sometimes do this (been together 14yrs). We have not marrie yet and the reasons for that is no ones business but ours. I often meet people who judge or assume that our relationship or union is somewhat less commited, which baffles me and actually I find it offensive too.

We will marry, but until then we are just as together.

'my man'

Oh please.

lotus- there is life outside the law.

To be "employed" also means to be engaged, busy or making use of time.
Dictionary definition "be employed in something to have one's time and attention devoted to it."

So although I am self employed legally, but technically I am a employed doing my tasks.

Sometimes it pays to take your blinkers off lotus.
Human life is not defined by law alone.

No, but this the heart of the thread.
You could equally say a benefits claimant or housewife is employed.

If someone is saying I am wrong for saying I am employed when I am self employed, choosing to pick up on my use of English then I am entitled to explain I am not a lying benefits claimant caught out in a malicious lie pretending to be a successful professional when I am a lay about but that you can be not employed because you are self employed, particularly on a thread which is all about legal precision and how important are words.

Clarity of language aids communication and I would go as far as to say it even resolves conflict and helps world peace. So it is crucial we bring up the next generation to understand clarity of speech and words really does matter. It is not a "posh test" which gets young people good jobs, but the ability to communication really well and speak and write very well and if that message can be got through to those who think because their teachers and parents don't manage it very well, that in fact for the purpose of jobs it does matter then we have done our work.

but the ability to communication really well

It is not a "posh test" which gets young people good jobs, but the ability to communication really well and speak and write very well and if that message can be got through to those who think because their teachers and parents don't manage it very well, that in fact for the purpose of jobs it does matter then we have done our work.

One of the most inelegant sentences I have ever read. It is almost unreadable.

I call my boyfriend just that. Some people say it sounds childish but partner is worse and we aren't married so he's not my husband.

I find it weirder when people call their boyfriend/girlfriend partner when they've been together all of 5 minutes.

Unreadable is right. A garbled mess championing the importance of clear communication. Oh dear.

Not really.
It is easy to firm views which are weakly held.

And therefore insignificant.