My new boyfriend didn't stand up for me

[TheWhiteFlag]

I'm going though a really tough time at the moment with a lot of serious personal problems, so maybe I'm overreacting and being over sensitive here.

Something minor happened today but it's left me feeling sad and disappointed.

My new boyfriend and I were on our way back from the cinema. We got on a crowded bus and I saw an Isle seat spare and directly in front if it was a teenage boy sitting in an Isle seat with the window seat spare. So I approached him and asked if he could move along so I could sit down (intending boyfriend to sit behind me). He said "no problem, I'll move" and got up and went and stood at the front of the bus. I was confused as I'd only asked him to move along, but proceeded to sit down and my boyfriend sat next to me.

All through the journey an old man who was sitting nearby stared at me. Then later on he got up and as he was leaving he leaned over my boyfriend and pointed his finger in my face and said "I wouldn't have moved for you. No way would I have moved for you." And walked off the bus. Two women sitting behind us started gasping in shock and told me not to take any notice. Boyfriend just sat there. He did nothing. I'm feeling vulnerable at the moment due to serious issues in my life and he did nothing.

This is not a case of me wanting chivalry. It's a case of someone who professes to love me, standing up for me when he knows I'm currently very vulnerable.

AIBU to feel sad and disappointed, even worried that my boyfriend is not the kind of guy I thought he was.

[l12ngo]

These sorts of things escalate quite easily. If your BF had started doing anything physical to get the guy out of your face, there's a fair possibility the old guy would get agitated and then all it takes is some young guy to turn around (not seeing what's happened earlier) and see you BF having a go at some old guy. He then steps in to protect a poor old guy getting bullied by some young lad and the next thing you know there's a brawl on the bus.

[AnotheBloodyChinHair]

Give me a whoop whoop for the lovely teenager who gave up his seat for you. Old grumpy man was mean and nasty. Balance is restored.

[Yarp]

Another

True.

[SoleSource]

This thread appeared on the Matthew Wright show!

[CrystalHaze]

I'm confused by this thread in light of the OP's other thread

[SumThucker]

Curiouser and curiouser, Crystal

[CrystalHaze]

Oh, ok, have re-read both and think I've got the full picture now.

[Whatthefucknameisntalreadytake]

I'm a bit confused too

[firesidechat]

It could all be true I suppose, but goodness, what a mess.

The op has more to worry about than unsupportive boyfriends it seems.

[BadLad]

Presumably new boyfriend is the man that the OP is having an affair with, as she describes on the abusive husband thread.

[Floggingmolly]

God almighty! I'd think a hell of a lot less of anyone who decided to get aggressive with an elderly man in a misguided attempt to defend my honour...
The only thing for anyone (including yourself) to do in that situation was ignore.

[fearandloathinginambridge]

BadLad - did you really need to point that out? It adds nothing to the thread and looks like a blatant attempt to provoke.

[fearandloathinginambridge]

Not BadLad I meant CrystalHaze.

[BeenWondering]

I'm confused now...

[BeenWondering]

SoleSource I'm sure they must stalk the talk boards for themes as the thread about getting married in jeans was also featured on the show this week.

[Bellebella]

Well if he is not really your boyfriend and is instead the man you are having an affair with, is it a possibility he did not want to make it obvious you were together? if he knows about how your husband can be.

To be honest though, I can't see what else he could have done anyway.

[pinkyredrose]

Wow OP just read your other threads. The guy on the bus us the least if your worries! Is this guy really your boyfriend or just a work colleague you're shagging while you split with your abusive husband?