My fiancé and I are in a long distance relationship at the moment- we haven't seen each other since the end of March but will be together again permanently in August 
. He works in a big city abroad where he basically has no close friends, only colleagues. One of my old female friends also lives in the same city. I put them in touch and they met up for a coffee recently and got on well. I was really pleased for my DP because I thought it was nice that he had met a like-minded person at last- I knew they'd get on as they have a lot in common.
Anyway, tonight my DP went to an event also attended by my friend. I knew they were both going and messaged my friend asking her to give DP a hug from me. She did so. DP was pleased, as he has found it difficult only having 'professional' contact for so long. We are both pretty tactile people- I hug my friends and family all the time, and I can't imagine not having a hug for months.
When I told my mum about this, she was horrified. She said that I was 'throwing them together' and 'encouraging them' and lots of other things which really upset me, because the thought of anything going on between my female friend and my DP had never even entered my head. AIBU to think my mum is a loon? Or am I being naive here?
AIBU?
To ask my friend to give my fiancé a hug?
PollyCazaletWannabe · 09/06/2015 23:03
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It's got nothing to do with being huggy people, it's a well known turn of phrase round where I live. You don't necessarily take it literally, but if you do, it certainly doesn't mean you want to shag the person you're asked to hug.
I'm going to add another here for good measure.
If OPs fiance is a tactile, huggy type, then he has probably been hugging people all the time while he is away, or had people hugging him. There is not really a need to get someone to hug him on OPs behalf.
What I want to know is,.. Did the fiance get anyone to hug OP for him?
It IS possible to survive 5 months without a hug.
I think your mum's a loon. And so are three-quarters of the posters on your thread
oh bluejeans , you old cynic you.
I think the op's weak point is youth.
Right that's it polly you are seriously too bloody nice. 
There was I an old miserable cynic and you have convinced me.
Hug away people
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If my dh was away and my friend was nearby I'd be really happy for them to meet up and hug. It would be great for both of them and I'd be happy that they were able to comfort each other if they were lonely. Doesn't mean they'll jump into bed with each other. 
Grumpyoldbiddy you belie your name! I totally agree
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