To think dirty nappies should be dealt with in the bathroom?

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One of my close friends has a lovely baby daughter, around 10 months old, and I'm heavily pregnant with my first. The last two occasions they've visited me at home, the baby has needed a pooey nappy changing. Am I being unreasonable to expect her to do this upstairs in the bathroom rather than on my living room floor, with just a muslin between her dirty arse and my nice rug?! Not only does it stink but the baby is an enthusiastic crawler and flails around trying to escape, pooey bum in the air, while my friend gropes around for wipes etc. I haven't said anything (I now feel like it's too late) but have moved across the room to be further from the stench which has prompted my friend to say "you'll have to get used to this!" to which I've responded "I'm sure it's different when it's your own" even though that's not really the point since I don't plan to change stinky nappies in the living room, especially not when the baby is at an age when they're eating solids! I'm not even particularly houseproud so can't work out if I just don't get it because I'm not a parent yet?

I always changed ds on the changing station in his room. Apart from bedtime, which was in the bathroom. Lots of friends changed their babies in my living room even though the changing mat was next door (in the bathroom)

If it bothers you to this extent, then why don't you just say so - "oh could you change him in the bathroom please?".

Have to say that after 4 children, 1 grandson and several dozen foster children over the years I have never yet changed a babies nappy in the bathroom. Always changed in the lounge or if upstairs in a bedroom.

I kind of understand where you are coming from. I remember being pregnant with my first and my SIL came round to my house with her 9 month old and changed her on my brand new, unused baby changing mat which she had placed on my kitchen table!!! I felt disgusted! However, after having my own baby I became a bit more relaxed about it all, you're going to end up with more than just s* on that rug.

For those claiming that there simply isn't room in the bathroom to change a baby (someone even quoted 1m sq) how do you bathe your children? Surely every bathroom has room for a bathmat (similar size to a changing mat) that you kneel on whilst bathing your child? Seems like a ridiculous argument.
My bathroom is too small for a bath (shower only) and you can certainly change a baby in there.
At the end of the day your house your rules. But in someone else's home have some consideration, not everyone wants to see a shitty bum.

I would never expect a friend to lay their baby on a bathroom floor to change a nappy. I wouldn't expect them to leave whatever room we were in tbh. I get the muslin between the shit and pretty rug though. However when my friends have had to change their child's nappy and they didn't have a change mat they just ask Me for an old towel or I offer one. job done everyone happy. And no one likes the smell of shit. You really will need to get used to it for your own arrival because you are being a tiny bit precious about that.

Not really ridiculous pig.

A bath mat is fine, add a kneeling adult, a wtiggly baby and nappies/wipes/cream/nappy bag then there really isn't much room.

When a baby is in the bath they aren't taking up floor space are they?

Can't believe so many people disagree so strongly about where to change a babies bum.

Wriggly*

People really don't have to get used to the smell of someone else's poo in their living room though. Because it's rancid.

I have to fold a bathmat in half to fit it next to the bath! Ds is 5, honestly you would have to fold him in half to lay him down on our bathroom floor!

When bathing the children, I sit on the loo.

I used to ask where to change if I was visiting somebody, it's not rocket science.
By 10 months they are quite smelly and much more than a tiny baby.
I agree it's not nice to do it in somebody elses house on their nice rug though.

I'm pretty sure that the OP won't be running up and down stairs everytime her baby has a poo.

And me hazey. Usually getting soaked thanks to their splashing.

No you are not being unreasonable. There is no reason why parents can't go into another room to change a stinky nappy. It is just sheer idleness.

I was going to say, '....sipping gin', passmethewine, but it seemed a little decadent!

Pig there is enough floor space in my bathroom for half a bathmat. I bathe toddler DD while sitting on the toilet. The new baby will have to be in a baby bath in another room.

You seriously find it so hard to understand other people live in smaller properties than you?!

I'm another who has to sit on the loo at bathtime.

YANBU. What people do in their own homes is up to them, but at other people's houses I think it's only polite to use the bathroom (assuming it is big/clean enough).

Whenever I've changed a nappy, I want to wash my hands straight away. The bathroom is the most convenient place to be as long as there's a changing mat in there so that the baby doesn't have to lie on a hard, cold floor.

I'm surprised she didn't have a mat with her, but I've had 5 babies and I don't think I've ever changed one in a bathroom.

Why didn't you say to her "please don't change her in here"? It's your house; what's she going to say? She clearly isn't a mind reader.

Please come back and update us when you have your own baby and go upstairs to change him/her every time

Ds, older and still in nappies, is too big (long) to change in the bathroom. In other peoples houses we always change him away from where people are sitting. It usually has to be the hallway or upstairs landing.

Weirdly enough, I've seen quite a few posters say they think it's disgusting to change a nappy in the living room but are ok with washing hands in the kitchen.

Whereas I couldn't care less if someone changed a dirty nappy in my living room but would be disgusted at them washing their hands in my kitchen

Come back and revist this thread in a year op I would probably ask if it's ok to change a shitty nappy in a childless friends living room but I have never changed a nappy in a bathroom! By DC2 it was just done wherever, even shock horror on my living too rug with no change mat! I'm now very skilled at changing a nappy with letting poo escape :)

I think yanbu. In your own house obviously do as you please. I think it's rude to change a nappy in someone's living room and without a proper mat.

If I had guests round I wouldn't even change my own child's nappy in the living room. Why would you expect them to tolerate the smell? Bizarre.

I wouldn't expect anyone with SPD to climb the stairs (there are limits even for me). In that situation I'd prefer to be happy to change the nappy myself or, if my friend preferred to do it herself, I'd provide a changing mat, open the window and spend a long time in the kitchen making a cup of tea.

Clearly, when it comes to poo in the front room, I have issues

well to be honest, if someone offered to take her and do her nappy then I would be grateful but it's just normal where I am to do it wherever we happen to be. (not on restaurant tables etc though, as people are eating food there and I don't know how clean the establishment really is)