To think dirty nappies should be dealt with in the bathroom?

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One of my close friends has a lovely baby daughter, around 10 months old, and I'm heavily pregnant with my first. The last two occasions they've visited me at home, the baby has needed a pooey nappy changing. Am I being unreasonable to expect her to do this upstairs in the bathroom rather than on my living room floor, with just a muslin between her dirty arse and my nice rug?! Not only does it stink but the baby is an enthusiastic crawler and flails around trying to escape, pooey bum in the air, while my friend gropes around for wipes etc. I haven't said anything (I now feel like it's too late) but have moved across the room to be further from the stench which has prompted my friend to say "you'll have to get used to this!" to which I've responded "I'm sure it's different when it's your own" even though that's not really the point since I don't plan to change stinky nappies in the living room, especially not when the baby is at an age when they're eating solids! I'm not even particularly houseproud so can't work out if I just don't get it because I'm not a parent yet?

Yanbu! The very thought of someone changing a poo nappy in my living room turns my stomach. I don't want to be subjected to the smell and it's very unhygienic. If anyone tried to do it in my house they would quickly get told to go to another room.

And yes I do have children, one of whom is still in nappies and I would never subject anyone to the smell, it's jus rude.

Op don't listen to those who say you'll change, you probably won't even when you don't bat an eye at changing one.

My own children did some hideous nappies, but other people's kids' stinkers are worse imo.

Smell. And lack of water for hand washing. And I'm not saying that people shouldn't please themselves in their own homes,quite the opposite in fact.

Culture I think the issue is about a) subjecting other people to the smell/view and b) soft furnishings. I don't think anyone has said that a changing table in the nursery is unhygienic.

Well a smell is not unhygienic, it's unpleasant (to some). And hand washing, would wiping hands with wipes, then hand sanitizing with gel then washing hands after disposing of the nappy not be ok?

Smell. And lack of water for hand washing

Smell isn't great anywhere tbh - but I open a window.

Lack of water - I change the nappy, put it in a bag, get ds sorted, take nappy out the back door, wash hands in the kitchen - how is this unhygenic?

What would you do if, like me, you didn't have the room in the bathroom to change a nappy?

'In all my years of nappy changing I never once got poo on the carpet/furniture/towel/whatever happened to be underneath the baby. None of my guests ever did either.'
Three children, two grandchildren and to date four foster babies and I can't say I have achieved this. I don't mean they end up making a mess every time, but I have had a few mishaps with wriggly babies from time to time.

This is why I had a downstairs 'nursery' for both my babies, even though they slept upstairs with us. All the nappies, cot-top changer etc were right there.

Do it in a another room-the spare room if I had one - of course. Just not a room where other people are. But I have never had a bathroom so tiny you couldn't fit a changing mat on the floor, even the one where I ended up on the threshold.

I wouldn't be happy about her only using a muslin on the rug. I used to use a fold up changing mat and would go to the bathroom in somebody's house unless they suggested otherwise.

I don't have any children, but I really wouldn't change a pooey nappy in a friend's living room. I really wouldn't be comfortable doing that, for all the reasons OP suggested. Ditto in my own house (also have a nice rug, haha).

I'm sure I would in my own house if I was really busy or something, but I like the idea of zoning the living room as a place for chilling out and socialising and 'company' and the baby's room or the bathroom as the place to change them and have all the bits ready.

Possibly naive on my part, but I can't see myself being anything but mortified at changing a shitty nappy on my friend's nice floor - apart from anything else, what if your hands slipped and you got poo on her rug? Mortified.

I stopped seeing a friend because she changed her baby on my new chair. It's no more acceptable than an adult taking a dump in someone else's living room. So YANBU all the way OP.

Barbarian, as i said earlier, i wouldn't change ds in front of visitors either. Our bathroom is bloody tiny though there is no way room for ds on the floor between the toilet and the bath, even with me outside the room!

my DD gets changed on my lap in my house and friends/families homes too. she's 17 months old. and if someone asked me to go upstairs I would tell them to piss off at the minute as I'm 33 weeks pregnant and have severe SPD so can't actually get up the stairs. they are more than welcome to change her arse for me though and I carry hand sanitizer wherever I am.

I am in awe of you having a lap to change a 17 month old on, at 33 weeks! I went straight from bump to knee at that stage!

I have never mastered the changing on my lap thing, I could just never do it at all!

In someone else house I'd ask where was best - and wouldn't near food.

However I told own changing travel mat. In own home had mats out for our and visitor use.

I never got directed to the bathroom - but I think I always manage to wash hands.

Depends on the DC - sometime catching the little ones or getting them to leave room to change can be a major achievement. Mind you when they were very young babies I did change when in laid down pushchair - as it was do that or find I would ended up not leaving the house that day - as other things would happen if baby got out of pushchair.

YANBU this is gross and selfish

And adding that the OP will learn etc is total rubbish- my friends fortunately all own bathrooms in their homes so I never felt the need to make a public performance of changing a smelly nappy in their front room.

This thread has left me like the chicken thread. I can't believe that so many people think it is acceptable to change a baby's nappy in the living room. In my own home Ds 2 gets changed in his bedroom on a mat on the floor. Ifell and damaged my knee in April and had to get him to climb on my bed as I couldn't get down but that is the only time I deviated. Out and about bathroom floor and I personally take the nappy out to their main bin. I too have had to use the car boot at times.

OP tell your friend next time she pops over in no uncertain terms. I once told sil off for putting a shitty nappy in my kitchen bin - she never wraps either.

Two children aged 2 and 5 here btw

hazey I have mastered the art of leaning back far enough to squeeze her on. she's still in 9-12 month clothing though so a teeny little thing. my bump is huge (apparently expecting a 9lber if you believe the mw)

To be clear, at any one else's house I would ask them where (and take my nappy away of course, unless they specifically said I could use their bin).

In my house I would change my baby where I had set everything up to do so ie in my living room, whether I had visitors or not. I didn't find that anyone was horrified or repulsed by that. Certainly visitors returned for further visits!

MrsPear, what is the Chicken thread? I haven't seen that one.

I have a baby changing station in my living room - tiny two bedroom flat.
YABU

My bathroom has 1 meter squared floor space, good luck to anyone trying to change a nappy in there!
Having said that I always change DD's nappy in her bedroom and always have done. It's not that much effort to go up the stairs! We have a beagle who sniffs around if I try and do it in the living room.
If I'm at someone else's house k always say 'where should I go to change her nappy?'

Barbarian you could get a changing mat on my bathroom floor but id have to sit outside!