To think dirty nappies should be dealt with in the bathroom?

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One of my close friends has a lovely baby daughter, around 10 months old, and I'm heavily pregnant with my first. The last two occasions they've visited me at home, the baby has needed a pooey nappy changing. Am I being unreasonable to expect her to do this upstairs in the bathroom rather than on my living room floor, with just a muslin between her dirty arse and my nice rug?! Not only does it stink but the baby is an enthusiastic crawler and flails around trying to escape, pooey bum in the air, while my friend gropes around for wipes etc. I haven't said anything (I now feel like it's too late) but have moved across the room to be further from the stench which has prompted my friend to say "you'll have to get used to this!" to which I've responded "I'm sure it's different when it's your own" even though that's not really the point since I don't plan to change stinky nappies in the living room, especially not when the baby is at an age when they're eating solids! I'm not even particularly houseproud so can't work out if I just don't get it because I'm not a parent yet?

I think whatever you want to do at home is your own business but I certainly wouldn't change a pooey nappy in a friends living room. I made this quite clear when my sister brought her child round ever since being born. A wee is just about ok (although her husband does absentmidedly start chucking the nappy around like a ball dropping on the floor ) but no need for a poo. You need to wash hands etc anyway so need to be near the loo.

That naice rug of yours? It's going to see some hard times. Not so much when the baby is small, but once crawling, it's probably going to be far less naice.

And you are extremely unlikely to always change nappies on the bathroom floor.

Ha ha ha ha ha!

You're gonna climb the stairs every time?

Right.

I always change babies over my lap, so I've always just done it wherever my lap happens to be. 10/10 times it's on the sofa in the lounge.

I never changed DD in a domestic bathroom. Was bad enough having to change her on the floor of ladies' loos that had no changing table.

At home she got changed on the footstool, sofa, floor, bed, on my lap, in the garden. I might have changed her on the cot top changer once or twice.

I've never expected anyone to change their baby in my bathroom either. It's weird.

We got given one of these when DD was about 6 months old. Absolutely brilliant.

www.amazon.co.uk/Rabbitts-Safety-Changing-Mat-Cream/dp/B000UEPTMU

I don't think it's unreasonable to want your friend to change her child's shitty nappies in the bathroom.

YANBU. I have an 18 month old and I think it's gross, rude and lazy. If she wants to change shitty nappies in the living room then fine do it in her own home.

In 18 months when at home I have only ever changed DD in our bathroom or her room. And when visiting friends I always ask where I can change her and respect their wishes. I don't just assume.

shitebag - I said I wouldn't let them crawl across someone's carpet with poo all over their bums..... fresh air when they are clean is a different thing altogether.

I really don't see why it's odd to change the nappies in the bathroom, in your own home
As far as I'm concerned, that's where the changing mat lived, the nappies, the wipes, the cream (when used) the toilet (in case it was a solid one you could flush) and the sink for washing your hands. What's to be gained by carting that stuff into the living room ?

Scarlet - yes, we always did (have 3 dc) - as did anyone who brought their baby into our house, and anyone whose houses I visited. It really isn't that strange.

The reason people don't have carpet in the bathroom, That's why I wouldn't change my baby on a toilet floor. If there's a changing table, fine, but otherwise no thanks.

That said, I do always ask when I'm out where is best to change a nappy never been directed to a bathroom floor yet and I don't think she's right to have done it with only a muslin underneath without asking if you had a mat she could use.

I rarely use a mat at home now but am always cleaning my carpet because nappy-free time invariably ends up with a puddle somewhere. Oh to have a child prone to nappy rash!

I always change dd's nappies in the living room and have done in other people's homes. I'd ask where to change her if it was someone I knew less well I suppose.

People must have bigger bathrooms than me, as there would be very little room on the floor in ours - it would be extremely awkward. And we have hard flooring in the living room which maybe makes it seem less of a problem.

Yanbu. Unless a person has mobility problems then it is only courteous to change your child's nappy in the bathroom when at someone else's house.

Do what you like in your own home - although if you have guests it would also be nice not to subject them to the sight and smells of your child's nappy.

YANBU, I always asked if at a friends house the best place to change a nappy - esp if baby is on solids and you know it's a pooey one. If at a friends house with a 10 month old with poonami I definitely wouldn't attempt to change them on a rug with just a muslin for protection!

Living room nappy changers - where do you go to wash your hands? You must need to leave the room to do this, so why not leave the room to change the nappy?

Oh come on people, don't tell me none of you made any comments/judgements when you were pregnant that you've had to admit were rather naive?

Lay off the OP a bit.

I remember thinking that my friend was totally pfb for not trying hard enough to give her ebf 5 month old a bottle so she could come to a birthday meal with us, you can imagine her face when I finally managed to get out the house for more than 3 hours when DD was 13 months because she liked to breastfeed every 2 hours and wouldn't take any bottle or cup until then! :o

I always wash my hands in the kitchen afterwards. Id have to go upstairs to change her in the bathroom. Even when I lived in a flat and had no stairs I still changed her in the living room.

I swore I'd never hold my baby up and sniff it's bum to see if it needed changing..... grin

Same! I still think it looks absolutely revolting but I found myself doing it anyway!

I had a changing station upstairs for pfb but soon got an extra mat and everything I needed for downstairs too. Had it set up on the dining room table!

However, I would have taken a ten month old to the bathroom to change a pooey nappy in someone else's house. A wet nappy or a really tiny baby is one thing but older baby/toddler poo is grim and smelly!

Well Minty, I don't leave the soiled nappy in the living room...the nappy bin is in the bathroom. But changing DD in the tiny bathroom would be problematic. She doesn't have access to the bathroom so gets fascinated when we're in there and gets grabby Not a chance she'd stay still.

Hum. I usually say "where can I change the baby?" And they either say, "here is fine" or direct me to bathroom or bedroom. I have my own changing mat.
Or if they are here I say "you can change him/her in the baby's room if you like, there's wipes and bags in there"
I agree it's not the best.
But you will get less anal about things like this in months to come...promise!

Mintty, we used hand sanitiser gel, and I never found I got my hands covered in poo tbh.

Mintyy I put the nappy in the wetbag then wash hands in kitchen or of its a pooey one I run upstairs flush/rinse, run back down and wash hands in kitchen.

Sounds like a lot of effort but the living room/kitchen/hallway are our only changing options as bathrooms to small and definitely not changing on a bed.

Agreed Culture.

This is a big bathroom stealth boast thread

So you don't wash your hands after changing a pooey nappy?

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Wonder if its a regional/'class' thing?

I have honestly never met anyone who uses a bathroom to change but I'm a poorer end Glaswegian :o