To think dirty nappies should be dealt with in the bathroom?

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One of my close friends has a lovely baby daughter, around 10 months old, and I'm heavily pregnant with my first. The last two occasions they've visited me at home, the baby has needed a pooey nappy changing. Am I being unreasonable to expect her to do this upstairs in the bathroom rather than on my living room floor, with just a muslin between her dirty arse and my nice rug?! Not only does it stink but the baby is an enthusiastic crawler and flails around trying to escape, pooey bum in the air, while my friend gropes around for wipes etc. I haven't said anything (I now feel like it's too late) but have moved across the room to be further from the stench which has prompted my friend to say "you'll have to get used to this!" to which I've responded "I'm sure it's different when it's your own" even though that's not really the point since I don't plan to change stinky nappies in the living room, especially not when the baby is at an age when they're eating solids! I'm not even particularly houseproud so can't work out if I just don't get it because I'm not a parent yet?

So many things you will learn.. With babies you should just go with the flow.. However I would ask if at someone elses house.

No Mintyy, I usually moved straight onto food preparation and handling my child's toys...

But seriously, I used hand sanitiser gel, then would tidy away the nappy bag etc, and go and wash my hands in the kitchen. With anti bacterial hand wash too!

Christ what is wrong with people, that is absolutely rank. I'd vomit. I have honestly never subjected my child's poo smells on anyone if at all possible. How fucking entitled.

OP YANBU

With dc1 we were a one place nappy change family because it was easy. DC2 I would change anywhere. And most homes, it was a short move to wash your hands in the kitchen sink or cloakroom.
Babies on solids tend to have less 'fluid' poo than milk fed babies so actually easier to clean up.
Every parent to be has things they're going to do. They might do it for PCB but by the time their dc2 arrives? Most niceties have gone

This is really interesting. I always took DC upstairs to change, mainly because we were mostly using cloth (& so i'd want to drop the liner down the loo) and we never thought to keep nappies, wipes etc downstairs.

I would always go to the bathroom/another room in someone else's house (usually would ask where was best).

I don't know why, I just did.

I found that the first few months of my DSs life really inured me to the horrors of poo, wee, vomit etc. Having been peed on, pooed on, vomited on etc so many times I can't summon up much enthusiasm for getting het up about these things.

I certainly wouldn't vomit myself, as that would hardly help matters!

Yanbu, it is polite to ask the person first, or ask where you can change the baby. I always did.

I can wherever (use public toilets when out or the boot of the car etc) and never use a mat either. I don't even have a changing mat. If I'm in someone else's house, I would always ask where they wanted me to change a child's arse though.

YANBU. I've had 4 and I would never change them on the carpet on someone else's floor. It seems a bit rude to me in view of the smell and the likely possibility of poo ending up on the carpet.

I always used to keep all the nappy stuff in a 'trug' like plastic box, and had one of those giant plastic wipe clean mats. This I would throw on our double bed, and do the honours there. I did the same at other people's houses - used a bedroom most often.

Our bathroom isn't big enough for much more than the usual ablutions.

nappies do not need to be changed in the bathroom (I used to do it where ever I was at the time)

Though there are certinally places you do not change nappies eg a table in a restraunt that I saw last week when out to celbrate my birthday kinda put me of my meal

I surprised at these answers. My daughter is 10 months old and has always been changed in the bedroom, where we had a changing station set up. I had a section but could still manage the walk. At friends' houses I ask where I can change her and opt for anywhere wipe clean as she often weed during changes. Out and about it can be anywhere she had a few park bench changes when tiny.

Yeah, another vote for yes, I carry him up the stairs every time he needs a change' - just like I walk up to the bathroom myself to go to the loo and don't have a potty in the living room for my convenience....I am amazed how many people do deal with nappies on carpet/in their main living space/away from a sink!

yabu about changing in living room in general - it's not the worst thing in the world to do. yanbu about someone not asking you if it's ok. I'd never do it in front of a childless person without asking!
mind you maybe OP's friend was subtly trying to demo some of the aspects of parenting...don't know the back story!

YANBU since she was visiting in your house so she should check what you would prefer her to do. At 10 months it would be no big deal for her to take the baby & gear upstairs / to the bathroom for a nappy change. In someone else's house I would always take the baby away to a bedroom or bathroom to change them and use a proper changing mat while doing so.

In my own home, I have changed nappies on my living room floor but I use a wipe-clean plastic changing mat. In the early weeks when they poo every time they feed you'd be run ragged otherwise if you took them upstairs every single time!

If you choose to change DCs on your own living room floor that's one thing - someone else's living room floor is another matter unless you ask them first.

Um well YABU to think nappies should only be changed in a bathroom, with my own DC it's either our living room or in their bedroom or on my lap if it's the middle of the night and I'm doing a night feed.

However, in someone else's house I would always ask where they would like me to change them so in your own house YABU, although unless you have a massive bathroom with space a bedroom is more practical.

Sorry in your own house YAnbu. Stupid autocorrect!

I've never trekked up to the bathroom to change a nappy
I think you might be in for a shock when this baby arrives, do let us know how you get on

In someone else's house I will ask "where shall I change his nappy?" At home I change it in the living room or bedrooms. I also don't mind visiting children having their nappies changed on the living room floor.

Yanbu. I can remember a friend visiting with her one year old when ds1 was a month old. She changed her in the living room and, oh, the smell.

It was like a burglar had left a dirty protest and the green fug hung around for ages.

When I went to visit friends, I'd always ask where I could change the baby. If they didn't have kids, I'd go to the bathroom.

When I was at home I always always went to the baby's room to change their nappy. Do you all live in enormous palaces? Why wouldn't you walk a few extra steps to the changing mat, with fresh nappies, wipes, fresh clothes in nearby drawers if required. With DD2, I tended to bring DD1 along.

I find it really hard to believe that everyone just changed pooey nappies downstairs. Especially toddler ones when they've had real food and so it's really just like an adult shitting in your lounge.

At someone else's house I would always ask. And always use the mat from my own nappy bag.

YANBU op

I wouldn't change my baby on a bathroom floor as it's just not hygienic. I always have a small change mat in the bag when out and about but never use one at home and manage to change nappies ok without getting mess everywhere.

I do have a friend though who is a bit precious about having to change children in her bathroom when visiting but will let her kids run round in shitty nappies for ages before changing which generates a far greater smell in my experience.

Gosh it wouldn't even occur to me to go to the bathroom?

Not to disparage my friend's levels of cleanliness or my own but bathroom's can be a bit grimy?

My older DC hasn't had any accidents whilst having his nappy changed for as long as I can remember and even younger DC (4 months) is pretty reliable in that respect too.

I do however carry a travel changing mat with me most of the time so I'd use that?

We have brand new cream carpets throughout and even I'd not expect a guest to change a shitty nappy in my bathroom. I would give them one of my changing mats though.

Oh and as for the smell, older DC can bring tears to my eyes and make me gag with his offerings.

Dont think either of my sister two where ever changed in a bathroom. Usually where we were as easier if in her house. Wait op....you see....