Watching, this is not a nice man.
He doesn't care about your feelings or priorities.
He denies your reality.
He makes excuses at every turn for not doing the things that are important to you.
He wants you to distance yourself from your mother. (FWIW, I think your mother has him sussed, he's recognised that and he doesn't like it.)
He turns his failings into your problems.
He may well be lying about the practical reasons for the delay.
He uses emotional blackmail ("if you loved me, you'd..." / "if you trust me, you'll...")
He has no intention of doing anything other than what he wants, meaning you're the one who has to compromise or give in.
He seems like a particularly unpleasant mix of apathy and control, and that's not a recipe for a healthy relationship. What would you say to your daughter if she described being in a situation like this with a man like that?