To not tell my OH his car was stolen?

[Yulia989]

We went away on holiday last week and took my car as it’s bigger than OH’s sports car.

We returned late Saturday night and after we’d unloaded the kids and cases I went to park my car at the end of the street. OH had left his car there for the week thinking it was safer at the end of the cul de sac rather than outside the house.

When I got to the end I noticed that his car had gone. I knew he’d left it there and nobody else had access to it so it was either towed (not likely) or stolen.

Now I’d just driven for 3 hours (OH slept) after a 3 hour flight with kids, and really didn’t want to go through the hassle of waiting for the police to visit when we could just do it in the morning after a nights sleep. I know that OH would have done it immediately though but then he wasn’t as tired as me!

So I said nothing and we went to bed. In the morning he went to the car and obviously it wasn’t there, went through the process of calling the police and it still hasn’t turned up. I feel a bit guilty about lying to him, but did it really matter in the end?

I don't think anyone said 'tell him the truth now'. It sounds like the car situation is the least of your problems and I would use this event to discuss really why you would have not told him in the first place.

I hope you are ok. My dad was/ is like this and I still have bad anxiety now- our family phrase is 'are you ok' because we worry all the time. No life for kids is it?

As someone who lost her dear friend and said friends beautiful 2 year old daughter when a reckless driver slammed into their parked car you are being so unbelievably unreasonable driving when so tired. You could absolutely destroy someone's family. So utterly utterly selfish!!

lyla have you even read the bloody thread?!!!

I would have told him in the morning. It makes no difference to finding the car to wait overnight. You could have broken it to him gently.

I've RTFT. And I still think it's unreasonable to drive a car while actually falling asleep. There were children in the back and she could have killed any number of people if she'd lost control entirely.

If the H is abusive and she was therefore scared of his reaction (rather than simply being too tired to stay up and deal with the police), she wasn't unreasonable by not telling him his car had been stolen.

Yes I have read the thread and I stand by what I said. There is absolutely no excuse for risking other people's lives. None at all.