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Aibu to think this is ungrateful control freakery?

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satine · 04/06/2015 22:30

Just saw on social media the happy news that someone has had a baby. Lovely.
Then it says "if you would like to make them a meal, ..."
Again, lovely idea. I used to do this when my friends were having their babies.

But then it turns nasty....
"please go to this website to register"
I click on the link in amazement and it's a website where you register and then pick the days you're going to cater, and then you have to say what you're going to make.
Ok - I guess no-one likes lasagne 6 days on the trot BUT then it goes on to say "all meals must be dairy free. Please use xxx brand of lactose free whatever, not Alpro. Please deliver meals in disposable containers and by 7.30pm each day. Please text to confirm your delivery on the day"
These last bits were actually written by or on behalf of the happy couple, not by the Control Your Friends and Famly website.
I mean I'm all for organisation but whatever happened to being bloody grateful for any help whatsoever and appreciating the time and effort that someone has gone to to make you any meal, even if it is the eighth tuna casserole that week.
Anyway, that's my rant over. AM I being unreasonable?!!

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satine · 04/06/2015 23:00

I know, mamiof3. And also, the birth probably wasn't completely out of the blue, so you'd think the couple might have prepared a few freezer meals beforehand!!

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satine · 04/06/2015 23:01

One person has signed up to prepare beans on toast, however. Smile

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Gabilan · 04/06/2015 23:01

"all meals must be dairy free. Please use xxx brand of lactose free whatever, not Alpro. Please deliver meals in disposable containers and by 7.30pm each day. Please text to confirm your delivery on the day"

Do it but charge them. Seems only fair.

Gabilan · 04/06/2015 23:02

I would love to see beans on toast delivered in disposable containers.

momtothree · 04/06/2015 23:04

How long does this service go on for? Texting friend for back dated casseroles and cake.

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 04/06/2015 23:07

And this is what happens when Bridezilla with the wedding website where you have to select your meals and read the dress code has a baby ...

GiddyOnZackHunt · 04/06/2015 23:08

Paper bags. Do they count as disposable? Soup inna bag?

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satine · 04/06/2015 23:09

I must be some kind of bloody SUPERMUM because I think I managed to make food after I'd had my first baby. Hell, I think I even went to the shops after a few days. Different times Hmm

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Timri · 04/06/2015 23:12

I'm also shamelessly place marking Grin

FarFromAnyRoad · 04/06/2015 23:14

Grin @ soup in a bag! Anyone would think she'd given birth to a full sized Sumo wrestler or something! When did this even become a thing? I ate toast for about six weeks after giving birth and loved every single slice! Baby was in a sling thing and his head was permanently covered in toast crumbs!

WannabeLaraCroft · 04/06/2015 23:15

Oh. My. God.

I've never heard anything so ridiculous.

I can't even........

Shock
MrsGentlyBenevolent · 04/06/2015 23:15

Please send it to stfu parents, I love how she shames such entitled people. I understand, having a baby is very tiring, but humans gave managed to give birth, then nourish themselves for thousands of years. It's unfortunate that your friends have seemed to have regressed into non-functioning creatures (or will soon become such), due to imminent arrival of what I can only assume us their precious first born.

The5DayChicken · 04/06/2015 23:16

Fuckin' 'ell, there are two of them and both are incapable of working a toaster/microwave/ordering takeaway? Wonder how long it took to register themselves on this site? I reckon they could have prepped a casserole in that time and divvied it up for the freezer later.

(I'm feeling particularly bitchy)

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satine · 04/06/2015 23:17

I haven't really looked but I bet the grabby happy couple can leave feedback on the quality of the meals. "Disappointing moussaka tonight. Alan and Maude may wish to try again if they wish to remain our friends"

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BabyMurloc · 04/06/2015 23:18

TBF If there ia a GENUINE dairy allergy it's much more of a bitch to cook as you CAN'T just "chuck a ready meal in the oven" but it's also REALLY easy to poison people with allergies if you've never cooked for it before. It is for this reason alone that as an allergy sufferer I NEVER let anyone cook for me unless I am SURE they understand my allergy. Otherwise it's a double dose of D&V for me and guilt for them.

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satine · 04/06/2015 23:19

God, would just like to point out that these people are not actually my friends - an acquaintance of mine put a message on social media about them having had their baby.
It feels important to stress that....Grin

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DancingDays · 04/06/2015 23:19

Fuck me, do they want to be spoon fed the meal too?

I would sign up, make the meal and then eat it, posting pictures on Facebook commenting that it was just so good I had to eat it all up.

They have a baby, how the hell does that stop them from pinging the microwave? or even washing up?

Love the beans on toast person.

UterusUterusGhali · 04/06/2015 23:21

Wow.

I thought a babymoon was weird...

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satine · 04/06/2015 23:21

Mrsgentlybenevolent I think it's safe to assume that this is their first baby!!

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BabyMurloc · 04/06/2015 23:22

In a seperate note wtf to that website? It's like a lesson in "how to sound like an entitled arsehole"

When a friend was ill after an op and struggled to cook a few of us cooked for her. We did it a traditional way. We texted her and said "do you want tea tonight woman, is lasagna good?" Is this passee now??

The5DayChicken · 04/06/2015 23:22

Me too satine...I was torn to bits during the foreceps delivery of a baby with a ginormous head, was drugged up to the eyeballs for weeks after and my ex was a useless fuckwit. I was still perfectly capable of cooking/warming some very basic meals and making sure we were all fed.

Surely this system is supposed to be set up by the friends/relatives of someone who's grieving?? Not by a pair of new parents who have decided they don't want to take responsibility for feeding themselves?

DisappointedOne · 05/06/2015 00:14

I batch cooked meals for the freezer while waiting for my overdue lazy baby to make an appearance. Took me 1 weekend and we had meals for about 3 months! How stupid and lazy are these twats that they couldn't spend 2 days cooking during their 9 months notice of their impending bundle of joy?

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 05/06/2015 00:51

Why was there none of this fussing when I had my Dc hmmm? I had to waddle about, arse stitched, hoover in one hand....etc. Yanbu btw! I hate this lifestyle marketing hoo ha. Its making normal life cold and corporate.

PenguinBollards · 05/06/2015 01:02

Did anyone comment to say what entitled, rude twunts they were being?

I'd have had to say something along the lines of 'You almost got me! This is a piss-take, right? Because I know you're actually really funny, decent people, which is why we're friends in the first place. I'm guessing you saw this website and thought it was as ridiculous as everyone else does. So glad you've still got your sense of humour despite the stitches, the engorged norks, and the sleep deprivation! I'll be chuckling about this for weeks...'

Go on - post something like that Wink

Andylion · 05/06/2015 01:05

I guess no-one likes lasagne 6 days on the trot

But they could say "Thanks" and put five of them in the freezer.

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