"A boy? You won't know what's hit you"

[SoggyBottoms]

I have a DD aged 22mo and am pregnant with DC2 who I have just found out is a boy. I am sure I am being hormonal and oversensitive but I'm finding the things people say really annoying...so far I've had...

"A boy? You won't know what's hit you"
"OMG you have no idea how exhausting boys are"
"Boys are so different to girls - they never sit still...prepare yourself..."

And loads more besides. I know this is all very well intentioned but as someone with a DD who could best be described as a total livewire - is always climbing something, jumping off things, sticking things into plug sockets, running around like a mad thing, bashing things, swallowing pebbles etc - I'm finding it really annoying!

Who are these people who think little girls sit there angelically playing with dollies? Do they seriously think I've just been sitting back relaxing for the past 2 years sipping from a wine glass while she looks after herself? (I wish)

And does anyone have a good comeback that won't make me sound like a total nark?

I have a dd and 2 ds - at this point there's no difference between them really. Except I have more fun dressing my girl - loads of choice and gorgeous outfits. Boys clothes tend to be a bit dull.
All three are fairly laid back so far with no obvious gender differences yet, but oldest is only 4.
My dh is one of 4 boys and his mother says they never stopped wrestling each other and even now as adults one of them will often fly at another one and knock them to the ground in a head lock! I can honestly say my sisters and I never ever wrestled each other. But we are always falling out with each other. This is just my limited experience.
There's an old saying about how 'boys wreck your house and girls wreck your head'. Fairly insulting to both genders!!
Op - enjoy your gorgeous baby. People make small talk - they don't mean to be offensive. I can understand how annoying it is and think the best response is to say that you just want a healthy, happy baby which is, of course, the truth.

I've had this, so much.

People actually stop me on the street to empathise with me having a boy. They're so difficult, and so full of energy aren't they? So hard to keep up with. They watch Dc jumping around and reassure me that boys are easier as teenagers and I'll be glad I don't have girls then :). Teenage girls are a nightmare after all.

Then I'll say "oh yes, she's always been full of energy, it's just the way she is".

They look at me as if I've grown an extra head, or am somehow very stupid. The more intelligent ones realise their mistake, others actually try to correct me, I've said "she" instead of "he".

No, she's female. I think I'd have noticed.

I really, really hate gender stereotyping.

My boy is the well behaved one ha!

my boys are definitely like labradors. full of love and affection, happy go lucky, love food, walks and snoozing on the sofa

Pah! I have twin boys, and a girl. My god the boys were far easier, even though I had two at once (in some ways I think that helped)
My girl is a bundle of energy, she literally does not sit still, or shut up!
Even when I do manage to get her to sit down she is always 'active', fiddling with her clothes, or her hair, or rubbing my arm, gently pinching it etc (she doesn't do it to hurt, it's just another fidget)

Gender stereotypes pee me off! Big time.
And I don't think it matters whether you have a boy or a girl, some are energetic, some are more laid back. That's it really.

my boys are definitely like labradors. full of love and affection, happy go lucky, love food, walks and snoozing on the sofa

Oh, this makes me miss my boys who are back at school today! My oldest is just about a teenager so not as lab-like as he was a year or so ago. A bit more like a poodle these days.

I can't believe people do/say these things!! Do they have nothing better to say?

"Wonderful, I can't wait!" accompanied by a HUGE smile and a swift change of subject or farewell... That should cover it.

FWIW, I have a placid, calm and sensitive son and a highly strung, exuberant and loud daughter. It's not a gender thing at all; there's so much more to their personalities than that. What I get is "aren't you lucky to have one of each?" Not sure luck played a part there, but apparently this means I don't need to carry on extending my family.

My friend recently found out she was expecting Boy#3... They're delighted, but only got the gender confirmed so they could stop all the 'are you hoping for a girl?' questions which were coming daily (pretty much) when she announced her third pgcy. I find that really sad.

I am expecting a second boy in 6 weeks time, so I'll let you know how I get on ha!

DD is currently sitting next to me at work, being very loud and talking to everyone. DS would be mortified!

As for the Labrador comments above, my son is more of a Dalmation. All legs ha!

ridiculous. I have two boys, and they're chalk and cheese, and both different again from their boy and girl cousins.

You can't predict the type of kid based on their sex - they're all different.

I have 2DDs 16&14 and then had DS1 19 months ago, I had exactly the same comments. Boys are hard work, you won't know what's hit you after 2 girls and yes he is a whirlwind and always on the go but he is so much fun and I wouldn't change him for the world.