to wonder what the fuck to do now? (Immediate financial problem)

[Margaritte]

We are on a very tight budget for the next couple of months. We know this, and have got advice from StepChange & I posted a thread on here for recipe /shopping advice.

However, today our card declined trying to pay for £22 or so worth of shopping. We were not expecting that, and now I am very worried and starting to panic

We have some food in for dinners. No packed lunch food though, for ds1 & 2 and dh. We have no milk (well, enough for a bottle tonight for dd) and are down to 3 nappies.

Payday isn't until end of next week, so have to do something until then.

Although I don't doubt the kindness of SW, she came across as pretty self congratulatory, l'm your cyber PA, I'm the Queen of eBay, I'm posting you a food processor. Could you not tell OP that on the phone, or did you want public recognition? Even when it was ignored by posters, you went on to give instructions to make coleslaw using 'the processor I gave you'. Sorry, but I found it particularly creepy when you got very angsty with the OP on here when she hadn't picked up the phone...

Buxton I think that is what most people see.

Its all very sad/unfortunate - I really don't know how to describe it.

But I do think SW is a very decent lady.

Maryz but sadwidow brought the conversation here herself, in her now deleted post.

Ah, so this is the 'Margaritte' that SW was referring to on the other thread that got deleted because SW linked another thread which also got deleted.

Exactly, Fair...it's like all these weird little seeds are being planted everywhere, and it makes no sense.

I am now lost. Completely confused by linking and disappearing threads. Going to sit quietly with a cup of tea. Will see if this thread goes too later on. It would be a shame because there are some really good ideas from lots of people.

It would be a real shame if another thread, especially one asking for support, was deleted because of all this

Whilst I have no idea whether sad widows intentions are genuine or not, I think mnhq need to have a discussion with sad widow re boundaries, for her own sake and protection

Can we all move on, as this seems very unfair to this op and the other op whose threads were deleted

Now this thread is the definition of batshit.

It's one of the most FUBAR threads I have seen on here.

FUBAR?

This is bonkers.

Sadwidow you are so overly invested in this, and other people going by the other threads. You have a mobile phone especially for MNetters, which in itself is madness and also dangerous. I don't doubt you're trying to be genuinely helpful, but take a step back and look at your previous posts. You've been very domineering and controlling. I'm sure Margaritte appreciates it to a certain extent, but your message saying she hadn't called you when expected and that you tried to call her but she didn't answer, is a bit patronising.

Maybe it's time to step back.

"fucked up beyond all recognition"

That was to Sansoora

Thanks

I want to know what's happened to everyting SW got sent on 'Margarites' behalf if 'Margarite' never got a package?
Or did i miss something?
Seems like SW was acting as a middle man for sending things on the OP and yet OP says she never received anything?

Yes, you did miss something Seeyou.

Its SW who has said she sent the packages - of items sent from her personally.

Hello.
I really think that a lot of confusion is going on here. Please let me try again to clear it up.

I havent been receiving weekly or monthly parcels. However, I also didnt claim anywhere that SW hasnt sent me any. She has indeed, as mentioned way up thread, at the timeof sending/ receiving. SW kindly sent a food parcel (along with recipe ideas for the food) I also recieved a potty for my dd, in which she included some treats for my DS's - and of course the food proccessor.

I dont know where anyone is getting the idea that Im still receiving tonnes of nappies and food shopping from MNetters? I cantsee where it says that I am? Justto confirm, Im certainly not receiving either of the above.

Im certainly not starting begging threads, as mentioned. I also really did start this thread in the hope of getting pointed in the right direction of help.

Im sorry that this is upsetting people now for various reasons, just really, some of the reasons arent even real (ie me still accepting food shops etc)

I feel a bit and very that this thread is becoming what it is. I really enjoy coning on to MN, and has been a fantastic source of support to me in some of my darkest times.

An happy to try and answer any other confusion / annoyance / upset that anyone has, although I didnt get to see the other thread, so am unsure on all the details of who claimed what.

As Maryz says

And I'm saying that because I've seen from other threads that Margaritte has suffererd from PND, and I know that when in the grips of anxiety or depression it can be very difficult to make good decisions, and become over-ruled and overwhelmed by other people and their opinions, which can make a difficult situation actually worse.

Until all this kicked off, Margaritte hadn't posted on this thread since the beginning of October. I feel so desperately sorry for her being dragged into someone else's drama.

Im not sure why SW would have been sent anything on the OPs behalf since she was happy to send out her address for donations.

Margaritte

None of this is a reflection on you and you haven't done anything wrong, please don't stop posting

How are things for you now?

Thank you for this Magritte.

I havent been receiving weekly or monthly parcels. However, I also didnt claim anywhere that SW hasnt sent me any.

I think its really important that if someone is going to be hammered they are at least hammered based on fact.

I really do hope that things improve for you soon. xx

Margaritte, you have nothing to feel bad about. As far as I can see, you're going through an extremely hard time and the only thing people are questioning is sadwidow's involvement in all of this. She has ruffled a few feathers on another thread and then brought it over here, unfairly so.

I also hope things are looking up for you a bit now, please don't stop posting .

I think it would be sensible to turn down offers of anything other than advice and not to give your address out to anyone on the internet Margaritte. You don't know that person and you also don't know the people that the address may be passed on to.

People can seem kind and friendly on the internet but that is how grooming happens. I'm not saying that anyone is being groomed, or is doing the grooming, just that it should always be at the front of your mind when conversing with strangers online.

Again, this is something that we teach our children but how can we expect them to keep themselves safe online if we don't even follow these simple safety precautions ourselves.

Be savvy, be safe.

If there aren't multiple parcels WTAF is sadwidow doing then
Constantly updating and acting as a cyber pa?
Is it all in her imagination?
I'm beginning to think she liked the attention