to wonder what the fuck to do now? (Immediate financial problem)

[Margaritte]

We are on a very tight budget for the next couple of months. We know this, and have got advice from StepChange & I posted a thread on here for recipe /shopping advice.

However, today our card declined trying to pay for £22 or so worth of shopping. We were not expecting that, and now I am very worried and starting to panic

We have some food in for dinners. No packed lunch food though, for ds1 & 2 and dh. We have no milk (well, enough for a bottle tonight for dd) and are down to 3 nappies.

Payday isn't until end of next week, so have to do something until then.

Surely we've had enough snarky comments about how much the OP has received and how invested sadwidow is, no? MNHQ say they've looked into it and are speaking to both parties and that everyone appears to be genuine. So why is the nastiness continuing?

People can choose to give Margaritte as much or as little as they like, whether that be advice, moral support, nappies or Christmas tinsel, and Margaritte can choose what she's comfortable accepting. Think she's gotten her fair share? Fine. Go make your contribution elsewhere. But please stop with the berating and shaming. She's felt enough of that already ("My face burns for every MNetter I have said yes please too. The food offers, the nappies, the clothes for DD. My I feel myself getting all hot, and my DH is also very ashamed, I know. Its such an overwhelming feeling, both relief and total embarrassment...") For the love of God lay off the woman for gratefully receiving the nappies people so kindly offered so that she could cross one fear worrying that she might run out again in the future off her list.

As for sadwidow's level of investment, size of lists and/or parcel shipping frequency, that is of concern to sadwidow and the OP. No snippy dissection from the peanut gallery required.

Margaritte, sending you and a whole heap of Christmas cheer. Bah humbug to the rest. You're on the right track.

Pedantically I'm going to point out that I said you were pendantic...I'll get me coat, think I've taken this too far

I'm right behind you.

Hopefully the help Margaritte is getting will continue.

MNHQ are satisfied that Margaritte and Sadwidow are genuine. This thread has been an excellent source of information for lots of people frugaleering and it has been very cheering to hear the updates as Margaritte works her way down the list of things within her control to help her situation.

The gossiping and negativity over the last few days is going to derail the thread. I really hope that doesn't happen.

It was sadwidow herself that linked this thread to another and said people were calling them scammers, which wasn't true at all, Serendipity. But by doing so, she's created suspicion where there was none. There's still been no clarification about it all. She also accused someone else of being a troll because they didn't want to ring or PM her. The whole thing is bizarre and considering it's playing out on a public forum, people are wanting to see some sort of resolution I think. Hopefully in a positive way for everyone.

I think it was a case of SW trying to clear up a few points raised on another thread that made her link to this one in her defence. It backfired and its all very ugly.

Well I think we should be able to have an opinion on the craaazy turn in this.
None of it makes sense

I saw the other thread...there were no points. No one brought up this OP's name except sad herself. I worry, as Bore says, that there are one or more vulnerable people in this situation. When you read the whole of this thread back it makes for very reading.

It's weird that we're all assuming there were parcels though. Has anyone sent anything? Hands up who has....?

Perfectly possible that we're all just reading a weird fanfic written by either one or two people.

I just do not get why sw was speaking for magaritte. Asking for things?

The origanol OP has always been pretty vocal and eloquent, she doesn't strike me as needing any help articulating herself.

Maybe SW has good jntentions but I feel so uneasy that she is promoting herself as the saviour of magaritte.

I use myHermes to send 15kg boxes to Margaritte each month - that costs me £9.99

Posted by sadwidow on Friday 6 November at 17.53

I saw the other thread...there were no points.

Okay, so there was a saga unfolding and SW brought another thread into things by way of explaining something and it had the opposite effect to what she was hoping for.

Is that better?

Personally I think if people want to help someone its no ones else's business as its not their pocket the help is coming out of.

If its not genuine they can learn from the experience. And if its then hopefully they'll continue to help.

Mary, yes, you make a very valid point Im actually now scared to use that word

It appears that SW sees herself as Margaritte's virtual PA and presumably Margaritte herself is happy with that. Indeed, we haven't seen any evidence to the contrary.

Y, y Maryz I completely agree.

Sansoora but she really didn't need to. The only thing people were querying or about was her owning a second mobile for Mumsnetters and how safe that is for her/them. Then she kind of went mad linking threads and throwing out accusations and dragging named posters through the mud...including the posters she claims to be helping.

Sanoora I made the original mistake of posting weekly instead of monthly but you suspect I did it to make my post more "juicy"? How fucking dare you insinuate I am gossiping on a thread where all sorts of vulnerable posters are leaving themselves open to being taken advantage of.

I thought the post re the parcel was made on the now deleted thread and posted quickly from memory. I did come back and correct when I saw that the original post still stood so I don't appreciate the snark.

Italicised fail.

Whether the parcels were weekly or monthly kind of pales into insignificance beside the fact that according to the OP herself, they don't actually exist.

Rusty my apologies for that and for missing any post you made rectifying your mistake once you'd realised.

Thank you Sansoora, I appreciate that