To want to be down as "Mrs" on my honeymoon booking?

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Just booking our honeymoon. On the day of flying I'll be Mrs so I put that down as my title and he said I should put miss because I am

Isn't it just as 'anti feminist' to retain your 'fathers' name than switching to your DHs name.

Surely the only way to go is to create your own new family name. That's what I wish we had done.

I was happy to drop my maiden name as its a crap name and my Dads a wanker. I do love him but he is a wanker.

Telling people you are going to enlighten them sounds very patronising.

Wandering, that has been already been debated upthread.

Yup, some people need to be enlightened. Consider it an act of kindness (or patronising, if you like)

Once again starlight, how is telling someone that something isn't anti-feminist the same thing as telling them they shouldn't do it? I presume the fact that you don't mention anyone having actually told you that you shouldn't have changed your name is because you know nobody did. And has anyone said you, or anyone who name changed, has done nothing anti-feminist? Several of us have said the exact opposite in fact: that having done something anti-feminist, such as name changing, doesn't preclude you from being a feminist or doing other feminist things. I assume most of us would consider Mrs Pankhurst to be a feminist, for example? Or Shirley Williams. Their feminist credentials certainly knock mine into a cocked hat despite not having retained their birth names. I would also be genuinely interested to hear your explanation for why name changing isn't anti-feminist. Or anyone's, for that matter. The best people usually come up with is the suggestion that because they chose it and they have a vagina, that somehow overrides everything else.

Wandering, that argument only works if you think your surname is your father's but your DH's is his own. I can imagine there are a few occasions where that's genuinely the case, since there are a smattering of men out there who create their own new names before marriage. But basically if you think a woman's surname isn't her own because it came from her dad, you need to apply that to men too.

Well said, yet again, Chicken.
Putting the feminist/ non feminist issue aside for a mo.
My sister is seeing a recently divorced man. She told me she plans to take his name when/if they marry. Her reason is because he has an ex wife (kept her own name) and 2 daughters whom he sees a lot of in their own home. They still have outings together, etc. She feels it will give her more of a 'claim' (her word) on him.
I think she is insecure in the relationship and a little bit peeved by his good relationship with his ex.
Everyone has their reasons and that's her's. Whether it will actually happen or not is another story!