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to ask if this is an OOH job?

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jorahmormont · 23/05/2015 11:43

Long story short, months of agonising stomach pain. Back and forth to doctors constantly, told they suspect an ulcer. Been taking tablets so now I get say a week pain free followed by a week in agony.
Doctor told me to book a h.pylori blood test. Can't get through to the phlebotomy service, have been trying for 4 weeks now. Just started a new job and in the middle of training so can't take time off anyway.

Yesterday the pain was so bad all day I felt constantly sick, it was right up in my shoulder as well as my stomach, dizzy, unable to focus, everything. Got worse when I got home from work, couldn't regulate my temperature, had a fever and was in so much pain. My stomach has swollen and it feels like there's a solid lump when im standing up, its literally rock solid. Today I feel marginally better but I'm still stuck in bed, temperature is fairly high and I am in pain. My heart is still skipping beats and jumping all over the place.

I don't know if out of hours could do anything for me. DP is adamant I don't need it but the pain has never left me like this before.

WIBU to go to out of hours? They'll be so busy this weekend :(

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FabULouse · 23/05/2015 21:54

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BoreOfWhabylon · 23/05/2015 21:55

OK jorah - how about you ring 111 and talk through your symptoms with them?

lucjam · 23/05/2015 21:55

She's not been to A&E and seen a Dr and had the correct tests. She saw a nurse. The surgeon on here suggests she sees a dr in A&E.

Gruntfuttock · 23/05/2015 21:57

Well there was no point in this entire thread then, was there? You're simply not going to go to A&E and that's it.

lucjam · 23/05/2015 21:57

Jorah you can't ignore it. Doesn't sound like it's going to resolve on its own. Get yourself seen.

VelvetRose · 23/05/2015 21:57

I totally understand Jorah. it is a horrible situation to be in. This is when you need an assertive partner to take charge. You don't seem to have that so let us support you instead.

Gabilan · 23/05/2015 21:59

"She's BEEN! Appointment at 2 pm, and reported in at 2:17 pm! Bottom of page one! Current issue is getting prescription filled!"

And since then at least one surgeon, one person with emergency experience and a GP have said she should go back again.

Even if you go to A&E it doesn't mean you've been correctly diagnosed. Sometimes clinicians make mistakes. More often, because disease is a process rather than an event, they make a diagnosis that is likely at the time but that may change as the symptoms change. Thus they'll send you home with some sort of fact sheet or other list of red flag symptoms that mean "dial 999 now".

I can understand the OP's wish not to bother an overstretched NHS. But as someone who spent two years call handling for an OOH service and took 1000s of calls, the OP's would stand out as one of the more serious sounding ones, certainly not one of the time wasting ones.

DragonsCanHop · 23/05/2015 22:04

I understand the feeling of fear and being scared.

I think your feelings of fear are making you miss how important it is that you are seen tonight.

Fear your partner finding you collapsed or your DC finding you.

I'm sorry but that is where you are at now.

I used to be an emergency medical dispatcher. I've helped children try to drag their unconscious parent onto the floor and breath for them, not knowing what number flat they live in apart from it being 75 steps up the stairs.

You posted because you were concerned, because your partner can't empathise, we can and most here are much more qualified than you and I and all are saying please go to A&E.

Gabilan · 23/05/2015 22:05

"I am really scared, im sorry."

Sad I get that, I too avoid doctors if I can. But if people who are clinically qualified are advising you to go, won't it be less scary to go, and be there with people who can help you?

ipswichwitch · 23/05/2015 22:06

I do understand you're scared. Many of us would be in your situation. What you have to tell yourself is that if it is bad it will only get worse if you leave it untreated. You are not being a baby over this pain, and scary though this may be, knowing what is going on will enable you to get the right treatment. At the very least, if this turns out to be nothing serious you can save yourself a lot of worry.

MrsDeVere · 23/05/2015 22:07

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notapizzaeater · 23/05/2015 22:07

There's being scared and being dead ! Doctors are telling you to go to a and e, which is worse ?

DragonsCanHop · 23/05/2015 22:09

Lovely post Mrs

Justusemyname · 23/05/2015 22:10

I know of someone who was scared to go to the doctor. They aren't here anymore. Please just go. If you're fine, GREAT! No harm done. If you're not then it might not be such a happy ending.

VelvetRose · 23/05/2015 22:11

You're not being a baby! Listen Jorah, if this turns out not to be serious you will be so relieved and you might feel a tiny bit embarrassed and tired from your trip to a and e. That's it. That's all that's going to happen. If it is serious you'll get treatment.

lljkk · 23/05/2015 22:11

oh nuts, I didn't see the update about seeing the Nurse Practitioner. This thread is so confusing. Hope you feel better soon.

FrankTurnersGuitar · 23/05/2015 22:17

Please go, I get that you are scared.
Lots of medics have advised you to go.
I didn't want to go when I was in a lot of pain and a temperature I was really scared of hospitals, it was sepsis I was lucky to be in hospital.you really do need to go. You won't be wasting anyone's time.
At the very least Ring 111 and see what they say.

yellowdinosauragain · 23/05/2015 22:51

Please go love.

I don't belittle the patients I see who are clearly well with a list of negative tests as long as your arm. I certainly wouldn't belittle someone with red flag symptoms like yours, even if they turn out to be nothing serious. Anyone who would is a twat.

It could be nothing. But if it is a perforated ulcer you could die. Please go.

MiscellaneousAssortment · 23/05/2015 23:00

Sweetheart please ignore the shouting, it comes from a good place but it's probably making you feel wretched.

I had horrible stomach pain on and off for two years, was ignored and belittled by myself and others, a few mentions to HPCs who were not interested and it turns out failed to diagnose an absolutely big standard (but serious) problem.

and then it got really bad, still just hoped to get through it somehow... It didn't go that time. I ended up with a midnight ambulance and weeks in hospital. Stupid thing was I phoned a friend who persuaded me to phone 111, & by that time I couldn't even breathe I was screaming with pain... And they ordered an ambulance agajnst my wishes. I thjnk I'd got stuck into denying it as was terrified. I've never been so scared in all my life.

I wish I'd had the confidence push for proper medical help earlier.

Sooo, I totally get where you're coming from, so I won t shout or get cross at you. I will say please keep an eye on it and maybe start making notes every hour or so on pain out of 10 and any other symptoms, then you can see if you're getting worse.

And if you do, please pick up that phone and call 111

SoupDragon · 23/05/2015 23:14

Why was the prescription not filled this afternoon? Why the angst about finding a pharmacy open on bank holiday Monday when it was Saturday afternoon?

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jorahmormont · 23/05/2015 23:21

I had no idea where the out of hours pharmacy is and ours opens until 12 on a Saturday. Not thinking straight.

Should know better than to ask AIBU. Thanks to everyone who has given advice and for your understanding. I know I'll only end up there tomorrow but not tonight.

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BishopBrennansArse · 23/05/2015 23:28

Tomorrow might be too late.
Honestly please just do it.

VelvetRose · 23/05/2015 23:36

If you call 111 they make the decision for you.

MrsKCastle · 23/05/2015 23:39

Jorah, I understand how scared you must feel. I know you just want to go to sleep and hope it'll all be better when you wake up so you won't have to go to the hospital.

But, can you honestly say that the pain has got better this evening? That the symptoms aren't as severe? If they have got worse, or even stayed the same, please go tonight. If the nurse was right, you can have the diagnosis confirmed, get the prescription and be tucked up in your own bed in a few hours without any further anxiety. You can post and tell us all that we were whinging for nothing.

And if the nurse was wrong... Well, you said your daughter is asleep. Do you want her to wake up in the morning to a tired mum, or in the early hours to a paramedic knocking on the door?

SmillasSenseOfSnow · 24/05/2015 00:35

OP, do you understand that people are suggesting that leaving it won't necessarily be stupid because you'll 'only end up there tomorrow' but rather because you might become so ill that you never make it there? I understand you're scared. And it might not happen. But if it does, not having gone because you were scared or didn't want to make it fuss is not going to save you.

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