AIBU to think that charging a child rent whilst they're still at home and in the last year of A-levels is wrong?

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Happy to be corrected but I personally feel this is a bit off. Thanks.

Mrsjayy I thought it had been scrapped?

Pretty sure they did scrap it. And it is now compulsory to stay on education so I guess incentives aren't required.

Just googled, only scrapped in England.

That was a good thing too

Oh im scottish

Sorry off topic- but can't anyone leave school at 16 any more? Absolutely nobody? Is this for England?

I genuinely hadn't of this
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No. poor child. It's not the end of the world, but it's not kind either. The results of A levels are disproportionately large in the overall path of life and a child doesn't need to have to work on top.

After they are over, yes, its reasonable to expect them to look for a job and pay some degree of rent.

SaucyJack yes you can still leave school at 16. The law only states that you have to remain in education or training until 18. It doesn't actually specify where you need to be receiving that education. You can still leave school and go to college instead or even start an apprenticeship.

I'm pretty sure you can even still get a full time job at 16 as long as there is adequate training that meets the education or training guidelines.

saucy- you must be in school, at college, in apprenticeship, or job. However, the job has to include a significant element of training. (20% I believe)

Cheers ears.

So what happens if a 17 year old isn't
in education or training?

Does it actually just mean that they can't claim JSA, or will the parents be prosecuted for allowing truancy in he same way that a 15 year old's would be?

Sorry for the twenty questions- but they kept this bloody quiet.

Yeah they can as long as they go on to do something somebody in dds year had to go back to school till he was 17 because his apreticeship fell through.

YANBU

We don't take anything from DS2. He has a P/T minimum wage job, too but he doesn't earn a lot. He pays for nights out, clothes he wants, has bought a car and saved over £1k for uni.

Yanbu

Not something I would do.

And what happens to that £25? How do you know it's not going into a bank account for the child towards a car etc that they don't know about?

I don't think it is reasonable but then I would discourage my children from doing paid work in their final year or study anyway. I bet the parents themselves didn't do well at school either don't see qualifications as that important or don't understand that their child would do better in their studies if they didn't have to work to pay rent.

or of study

My parents charged me £200 a month from the minute I turned 16. I stayed on at school doing A Levels full-time so took a job at our local supermarket, earned £260 a month and had to hand over £200 to them. I resented them enormously (both had well-paid jobs; no mortgage 4/5 holidays abroad each year, new cars and no financial difficulties).

I moved out as soon as I hit 18 and house shared while I was at Uni. They divorced immediately and my Dad put down the deposit on my first house. No idea if he would've done it if he'd still been with my Mum but I suspect not; she saw it that the minute you turn 16 you're on your own financially, emotionally, every which way. It did a large amount of damage to our relationship and taught me masses about how I want my own children's teen years to be.

Personally I'd rather my kids spent their time studying and got the best grades they could rather than worrying about working on top just so I could take it off them again. plenty of time for them.to he treated like shit for crappy money and hand it all back out again in the work world afterwards. if they got temp jobs in the holidays then it would be nice if they used some of it to contribute to living expenses but the last thing a stressed teen needs is the worry of finishing assignments in time to go work half the night just to stay in a bedroom. that's hers anyway

NEET's (Not in Education,, employment or training) 16-19 (it's a little flexible) are seen as vulnerable/ at risk and various training schemes exsist that can be useful for reengaging with some form of skills development.

I never charged my dgc rent until they were working full time. If they got Summer jobs when they were students that was pocket money for them although all five chose to chip in with food shops and all helped in the house.

saucyjack JSA is only paid to under 18s in exceptional circumstances. They are now expected to remain in education or training. If not they have to get a job.

It depends if the family really need the money, if the child is earning loads, or of the parents are actually saving the rent money to give them for university/ a car or travel.

YANBU. I was charged rent. I was unable to complete my A levels as I couldn't afford the bus fare to get there.
I received EMA but my mother told me that EMA was money the government took off my parents and gave to me so I should give it back to her.
In my opinion charging rent shouldn't start until a child is out of education.

meryn have you discussed this financial abuse with her since?

meryn that's awful

precisely why I couldn't do it. exams are stressful enough. I can't imagine removing the option to go out with friends once in a while to let their hair down. when your studying it's vital that you take breaks and you sleep and you have that down time. or you'd burn out. how awful it would be if they had no money to go see a film or go swimming or go choose some clothes because mum and dad had taken it. how tired are we as adults with such full schedules .working and studying is exhausting and one suffers. I'd hate to take the chance that it's the study that suffers.