To ask if your teenage children swear? And do you mind?

[MrsFring]

I have three teenagers; Dd1 (19), DSL (17) and Dd2 (14). I swear. Quite a bit when I've got my dander up. The older two swear in extremis but not very much, their choice. Dd2, however, has started to swear much more frequently and 'cunt' is her currently favoured word. She tends to use it when upset by something on the news or when fighting with her brother (which is most of the time). She assures me that she never uses it at school when a teacher could hear her.

She is a very principled, passionate girl and does tend to get a bit carried away. DH is more bothered by her swearing than I am, I suspect that he considers it unladylike but would never dare to say that to me.

What do think? Would you mind?

I think that was justified Peppa

It's the "do you want an effing cup of tea or not" type of swearing that I don't like. That is just aggressive.

As usual creep I agree with Pagwatch.

Swearing I can cope with (as long as it's not constant or c**t) but I will not stand for sexist, racist or disablist language or using words that look down on others due to class/money ie chav.

Ds1 (15) swears every now and again. We first discussed swearing when he came home from school aged 8 telling us that on his last day in their school a boy had called their teacher a 'fucking bloody bitch'. It not normally very regular with him, it's been more recently because of some troubles he's been having, but it's all in context and never infront of his 8 year old sister or baby brother.

DD 1 & 2 (12) I've never heard DD1 swear. I don't doubt she has, but not in front of me. DD2 swears occasionally. The first time was when she stood on a plug.

I swear occasionally (fucking, shit, bloody - not cunt, twat) so I don't give them grief for doing the same, but it's never in front of the youngest two, never at each other (don't tolerate name calling at all) or other people and not just randomly in general conversation.

DH never swears and the children don't swear in front of him. Ds1 did once in a rant about something and apologised right away so I'm quite happy they know when it is and isn't appropriate. I think it's better for them to learn appropriate use than to pretend that they won't ever hear, or use, swear words when with their friends.

My DC swear but would never use those or other derogatory words about people. They are very politically correct and I love that about them.

Just to clear it up, it wasn't my DS using disablist language, it was his friends at the sleepover. When I heard, I let them know in no uncertain terms that they were not to use those words again and why. What me most was that they have friends with Down syndrome and CP, they should know those terms are unacceptable.