To be ashamed dh is voting conservative

[Jacobsmum1972]

I'm very left wing dh is centre right Aibu to not want friends or family finding this out.

Yanbu to feel the way you do.

But yabu really because you married a centre right person, so surely you knew this would happen?

I was a lot better off under Labour

No kidding! They borrowed sheds loads of dosh during the boom times, when they should have been saving and spent it on ... I don't know... stuff that they probably shouldn't have.

You want the Greens to get in! So we can borrow billions more and saddle our kids and grandkids with crippling debt and sky high interest rates for decades to come!

Sensible!

I sympathise. It's nothing to do with believing in democracy, it's to do with having shared values etc.

My family are radical left wingers. I'm centre left, so is DP but he's a bit more right leaning than me. But to my family, anybody who isn't as radical as them is right wing. And in their view, right wing means horrible, selfish and uncaring.

It's not that they want to control how others vote. It's that they have an opinion and that the way they see people changes if they realise they're a Tory or in our case Labour voters (currently in Scotland 'red Tories').

The ballot is private and I would never consider voting any way other than the way I want to, that's what the system is for. But yes I admit to feelings of embarrassment about my 'right wing' DP. I try to show my family that he is caring and community minded despite their views.

So the fact the Tories have spent more in 5 years than Labour did in 13 means they are good at managing the economy?

The Tories supported Labour's spending plans while they were in opposition.

Green's want to borrow to invest in housing which will eventually pay for itself, they want to level out equality in our society so we are all better off - not just the wealthy.

Sounds far more sensible than Tory rhetoric about hard working families and their tough decisions!

I find that left wingers are every bit as closed minded and prejudiced as right wingers. Certainly doesn't make you nicer or better morally to be left wing.
Pick the policies you agree with and hope for the best.

So the fact the Tories have spent more in 5 years than Labour did in 13 means they are good at managing the economy?

Is this really your summary of government spending over the last 5 years. A headline grabber from the Spectator. Completely ignoring how much has to be spent to tackle both the deficit and the debt!

£160 billion deficit inherited in 2010 - ignoring the debt!

Basic maths will tell you that tin order to tackle this, the amount borrowed will have to go up before it stands a chance of coming down!

Well done Jacobsmum1972, nice goady thread.

Did you get the replies you wanted?

Hope it makes you feel better.

My dad voted UKIP last time round. We are all from a strong Labour background so I was a bit .

It's all a bit subjective isn't it? When I was an active member of a union, admitting to voting Labour was sometimes akin to saying you were voting Tory! I used to keep quiet tbh about my voting preference in the end.

He votes Tory, you use the word lil.

Pot, kettle?

I'd be more pissed off with my family if their political views were so narrow mindedly entrenched that they'd allow it to cause a problem between them and my husband.

yabu
and I am anti tory

Yanbu. I would be ashamed if DH voted Tory. I would divorce him if he voted UKIP.

My husband and I often don't share the same political outlook, granted we both ended up voting for the parties which form our current government (didn't see that coming). He for the Lib Dems, me for the Tories.

As far as I am aware, he didn't feel ashamed of me for choosing to vote as I did, nor I him. It is unlikely we will vote for those same parties in the current election though.

I'm not a die hard Tory voter and will in all honesty, vote for the party which has the most appealing policies.

I don't think either of us could tolerate the other voting ukip. There are limits.

I have voted UKIP in the past and I have also voted Green. And in between too. Politics change, life changes and I vote for whoever strikes a cord with me at the time. I think everyone should, rather than stick one colour their whole lives.

DP and I discuss who we're voting for and it's not always the same. But I would never judge him whatever he chose. Same with any of my friends. I can't believe people do. If you get on with someone or love someone, who the hell cares who they vote for?

YABU.

This thread wasn't meant to be goady. Obviously I respect my dh decision, I may not like it but I will accept it. My dh can tell friends and family the reasons he made his decisions.

Why should he have to though? Surely it's his private business!

But in my opinion you should have good reasons to vote for who you vote for. If he doesn't want to share with family than that's his choice.

If you get on with someone or love someone, who the hell cares who they vote for?

I care. For me, it isn't like supporting a football team or something. It's about basic values.

I could not live with someone who voted for UKIP as I would despise them, and a relationship in which there is no respect cannot be a healthy one in my view.

If DH voted Tory, I would be very disappointed, and I would question whether our core values were compatible. However, I would not despise him as I would if he voted for UKIP.

It isn't about staying true to one party all through life. I haven't always voted the same way, and I could live with a vote for labour/the greens/libdems. But there are limits.

Whatever his reasons they clearly won't be good enough for you OP. Poor bloke.

I'm Tory
DP is Labour
I'm not embarrassed by his choice and neither is he about my choice

Both DH and I would consider a Tory vote grounds for divorce. We both feel quite strongly about it.

"This thread wasn't meant to be goady. Obviously I respect my dh decision, I may not like it but I will accept it. My dh can tell friends and family the reasons he made his decisions."

Really Jacobsmum1972?

What rubbish. You came on here wanting a bun fight about labour v Tory.

You have made yourself look ignorant and narrow minded.

I feel sorry for your husband.

I have friends she is very very left wing he is a tory

they love having political debates its gets very heated but they both share the same values regards their relationship and their family and friends

but he is quite liberal in his tory views so excused

I see this thread as a little tongue in cheek with a bit of wishful thinking

Tolerance, democracy, freedom of speech?