To be ashamed dh is voting conservative

[Jacobsmum1972]

I'm very left wing dh is centre right Aibu to not want friends or family finding this out.

Dh doesn't know what he's voting. I suppose I'd be surprised if he voted conservative but not disappointed - it's his choice! We voted differently in the Scottish referendum. Not a big deal.

yy fairyfuckwings, on huge chunks of policy there's no discernible difference between Labour, Conservative and Lib Dem.

YANBU. I'm not sure I'd want to be married to someone who could support them.

Littlejohnny I will try my hardest to change his mind.

I hate what the Tories stand for, but individually as people some of them can be quite nice. The quite nice ones don't seem to be the ones that end up in Cabinet though - isn't that always the way?

I think littlejohnny has hit the nail on the head. My DH has never done anything that has made me feel ashamed of him. We worked out stuff like religion, politics, work ethic, aspirations, how many children, before we got engaged - even though it was love at first sight at a Conservative Party Ball .

No doubt you would be deeply ashamed of both of us if we were related OP even though DH's grandad was a miner but walked out on his 18th birthday and vowed he would never allow a child of his into such a God forsaken hole

YANBU. If my DH voted Tory it would definitely diminish my opinion of him.

(He's the son of a retired miner, so it's unlikely to happen)

It is none of your business how other people vote. I might not agree, but I wholeheartedly agree with their right to do so. And for that reason, Yabu.

Sorry, I'm as left as they come but the glory of democracy is that you have a right to vote for anyone who features on the ballot

Absolutely right but clearly lost on a significant number of MN's judging by recent threads.

To be ashamed of your partner implies that you don't respect him or his views, which I find quite sad.

Surely if you love him you'd respect him and his political leanings, even if you don't agree with him?

I think I will have to accept it at least I'm not the only left winger in the house (dss is left wing).

Sidge this thread is half lighthearted

My DH is free to vote for whoever he likes, of course.
But he's also wise enough never to tell me if he did vote tory.
And I'm wise enough never to ask him.

YABU. Perhaps best not to discuss!
I tend to think anyone that votes liberal is a bit weird but I wouldn't vocalise that!

Obviously a person can vote for any party they want, but it's not unreasonable to be disappointed that your spouse is voting for a party you dislike. Your political preferences are part of your character so they are relevant to what somebody thinks about you.

If someone said AIBU to be upset that my DH is voting for the Death to Fluffy Kittens Party would she be told she was BU because that is his democratic right? I doubt it. The question is just - is it as bad to vote Tory as to vote for the Death to Fluffy Kittens Party?

Personally I don't think so (my DH leans that way, as do approx one third of the voting population) but maybe the OP does. If she hates her DH's political views then that matters.

i would dump someone for being tory. Absofuckinglutely

Everyone has the right to vote the way they want to otherwise we might as well be a dictatorship. But I've told DH not to vote Labour but he is. No telling some folk.

YABU, but I get it. One of the little pleasures in our lives is when both DH and I simultaneously shout obscenities at the TV screen whenever Dave comes on.

Oh. Ok. It didn't come across like that.

(I could understand being ashamed if he wanted to vote UKIP )

Sounds like grounds for divorce to me!

we just found out my FIL is voting UKIP. My DH is bereft he can't even talk about it he's so disgusted

YawnyMcYawn wins the argument for an MN "Like" button to be introduced. OTH MN would probably introduce a "Dislike" button .

Ha....a thread designed to get loads of positive answers I think, knowing that there are so many Tory bashers on here.....
Wonder if he's made a similar thread about you elsewhere?

DH is a very staunch Conservative. I'm his polar opposite when it comes to politics, and we openly argue discuss it regularly in the run up to an election. It's one of those things like having red hair; it's part of you but not your whole self.

Despite being a Tory he's also a wonderful Dad to our boys, a lovely DH (mostly) and makes me laugh like a drain. I wouldn't let his politics put me off him. Unless he voted UKIP.

I would be ashamed if dp was voting Tory. What kind of sociopaths want a tax lock and a repeal of the human rights act?