To be ashamed dh is voting conservative

[Jacobsmum1972]

I'm very left wing dh is centre right Aibu to not want friends or family finding this out.

You know, more and more I see narrowmindedness, intolerance, hatred, suspicion and a complete refusal to see other's points of view.

And it is always from the Left. Do as I say, not as I do.

Now, that's depressing.

Bloody hell, I've heard it all now. Casting your vote based on your father's job? Think for yourself for a change OP.

Both of my grandfather's were South Wales miners. It was a hideous, vile job and they wanted so much more for their children, none of whom ever went near a pit, all of whom worked hard and prospered. They were terribly proud of them all, most of whom are Tories with one being a Tory councillor.

Yabu in principle as it is a democracy.

Yanbu on personal level as I have told dh I would leave him if he ever voted tory.

I wouldn't be compatible with someone who had that world view.

Erudite I agree and it's everywhere not just on here, it's all over Twitter and Facebook too. They like to publicly shame people who don't see things their way. It's really unfair and not in the spirit of democracy.

On a separate note, I wonder what a solicitor would say if you went to them asking for a divorce based on your spouse's voting habits!

You know, more and more I see narrowmindedness, intolerance, hatred, suspicion and a complete refusal to see other's points of view.

And it is always from the Left. Do as I say, not as I do.

THIS. The sanctimony and intolerance on the left is extraordinary.

Perfect timing form More here :

Yanbu on personal level as I have told dh I would leave him if he ever voted tory.

What an absolute crock of smug, trendy shite.

So many people think they are cool, caring and achingly hipster to vote Labour. The rest of us quietly vote . Which is why we have a Tory coalition this time and most likely next.

He's voting. The rest is up to him

I think most of the 'I hate UKIP/the Tories/the Daily Mail posturing is less about actually being a good person (which you can be regardless of your political party or choice of newspaper) and more about adopting a stance that's supposed to show the world how virtuous you are.

YANBU, I would be ashamed beyond belief if my partner voted Tory.

So many people think they are cool, caring and achingly hipster to vote Labour.

Really achingly I don't think so

"So many people think they are cool, caring and achingly hipster to vote Labour."

That's hilarious! Do you actually think people vote Labour because it's cool and "achingly hipster". Where are these people?

PMSL

Or is this a reverse from the Labour party, trying to look cool?!

Agreed, O huge.

It's all , " Look at me, I'm cool and caring!"

The people I know who vote Labour fall into two categories. 1) Filthy rich elite for whom mass immigration, groaning NHS, excessive public spending and bloated class sizes hardly impact or
2) People who rely, sometimes quite heavily, on taxpayer top ups and who have some envy and a drop of bitterness towards those who have done well. They always think those people are " lucky".

All the ordinary working and middle classes I know vote Tory or Lib dem.

I'm guessing the Op falls firmly into my second category .

Urgh.

This thread is just so fucking patronising.

Being "disappointed" in your partners for voting differently to you is so condescending and obnoxious.

I would be annoyed if DH voted UKIP, because that is a genuinely racist party aligned with all sorts of horrible people in the EU Parliament.

There is no "correct" way to vote, and quite frankly.....it's really none of your business. Voting is anonymous. You have a right to vote for whom you want, whilst your partner has exactly the same right. Your views are not "worth more" than his.

I am a life-long Labour supporter (although wobbling towards green this time).

But achingly hipster is not exactly the first thing that springs to mind when I think of them!

i am absolutely delighted my DH is voting tory as I am - at least we have something in common :)

Come on wiggly are you not achingly cool

Wigglylines - in my experience, absolutely yes.

ALL the Labour voters I know are champagne socialists. All of them live in a manner incompatible with socialism - private schools, buy to letting, intolerance etc.

They genuinely believe that simply putitng a cross next to Labour means they don't actually have to live by their principles.

erudite do you believe labour voters are "rebels/anti establishment"? They really aren't.

YABVU, my father was also a miner, but the world moves on, I feel I should vote for what is right for todays political scene, not what was right for the 1980's.

No indeed, Blar.

But all the metropolitan wealthy ones think they are . When they aren't fretting over the hired help or worrying whether to move for the best catchment or just go private .

There's a lot of Labour bashing on this thread too...

But is that ok? That's more acceptable is it?

I live in an area where mining was pretty much the only job option. DH is from here and his family worked in mining. The area was very badly affected when the pits closed (many years ago).

I still think its bizarre though how people use this as the basis of their political view. Its a shame more people don't actually listen to what the parties are actually saying (when they are talking about their policies and not slagging each other off and playing up to the media circus).

I am "liberal" in my views. I am not racist, sexist, homophobic, I am not religious, I lived with DH before we were married (and had a baby), I am not from a privileged background, I went to a comp on a council estate, I was the first in my working class family to go to university. My grandfather lives on his own in a large three bedroom council house with a very good sized garden (in London), my DSis is a single parent on benefits. My DM, DSis2 and DBiL all work in the public sector as did DPiL before retirement.

I will still vote conservative because I genuinely believe that their approach to managing the economy is the correct one. We cannot and must not spend ever increasing amounts of money that we do not have.

YABU he's exercising his democratic right to vote

YABU and a bit of an idiot to be ashamed of your DH in front of friends and family OP. He is voting for the current government after all, not some despot revolutionary regime likely to debase human rights. Maybe you need to be a bit more independent from your family?

Mind you, I saw a man interviewed on tv yesterday who, when asked how he was going to vote, came out with the line "probably the same as my family". As if he had no independent thoughts of his own on the subject.

The myth that miners rule the world and most of them didn't want to get out of it and do something else still predominates in some circles I see. Many miners despised Arthur Scargill and were simply doing what they needed to do to provide for their families at the time but got out of it if they could and certainly didn't want their children to work in mining.

And as a feminist, I'm really against this notion that a male dominated workforce should be provided with jobs for life on their doorstep, and not have to go out into the real world, with real skills and qualifications and compete on the marketplace, as most people do.