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AIBU?

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To think friend should have been grateful for this free mini-break and not bring a man into our bedroom?

142 replies

GuestCat · 25/04/2015 09:49

Friend has been going through a hard time, so I paid £120 for her to join me, DP and 18 other friends on a 3-night mini break.
DP and I were looking forward to some romantic time together. Day before the trip, friend said she isn't comfortable sharing a room with anyone other than me, as she doesn't know anyone else on trip that well. Friend asked to share with me. I said she could share with me and DP. He was a bit miffed but didn't complain, and when we got there he kindly dragged a camp-bed into our room for himself, so friend could share double-bed with me. Room had no lock, so we agreed we'd use a piece of wood to jam the door if friend or DP were getting changed, and that we'd all knock.

Second night, party in full-swing, friend was downstairs chatting with other friends. DP and I decided to have a quickie in room. We jammed door and started having sex standing-up (away from bed and fully dressed). 10mins later friend starts trying to open door, I shouted 'wait we're getting changed' friend ignores this (she was quite drunk) and forced door just as DP is doing up his trousers. Friend doesn't notice anything, she's come to find her lipstick and is happily chatting away!
Next morning I explained to her we'd been having sex in corner when she burst in. She seemed surprised and not pleased. Later that eve, she said she and a male friend wanted to have a 'private chat' in bedroom, we literally thought they meant a chat, thought maybe something romantic was developing so said fine, agreed not to disturb them. 3 hours later I knocked on door, was denied access. Another hour later friend and male friend came out, when I asked her why they were so long, friend smugly informed me they'd been giving each other oral sex and cuddling naked in bed! It was a one-off, she has no plans to see him again.

I didn't say anything to her but feel really really let down by this. We kindly let her share our room, paid for her accommodation etc, yet she brought a man (someone we didn't even know) into our bedroom, got naked with him in our shared bed, and shut us out of room for 4 hours while they went down on each other! AIBU to feel shocked, disgusted and let-down?

OP posts:
Whatthefucknameisntalreadytake · 25/04/2015 14:56

Why wasn't she in the campbed and your husband in bed with you??

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 25/04/2015 15:06

I'm sure there's a word for a party with lots of couples where people keep going off to have sex - sometimes with a random stranger Grin.

Sharing a room with a friend = not weird.

Sharing a room with a friend and your partner (when another perfectly suitable bed for the friend is available elsewhere) = weird. Or for people who like to share everything.

toldmywrath · 25/04/2015 15:13

clam Bloody hell, if dh had to lift me up, sex wouldn't happen very often. And he'd have to be stretchered out.
I am really enjoying these responses, the thread has gone off at a tangent about stand up sex (can you really get pregnant standing up then ? Grin )
Now orca is suggesting sitting down- how would that work?? Wink

IHeartRosPoldark · 25/04/2015 15:14

Wow, I am sat here feeling really dull right now .....

ChasedByBees · 25/04/2015 15:58

If the hotel had a key card access, that might have over-ridden a lock.

WienerDiva · 25/04/2015 16:14

Eh?! I can't even think of the point of this post for he amount of initiation I've had to digest. I think I need to take a shower (and not a cold one). I feel yucky.

debbriana · 25/04/2015 16:18

This made laugh. I

winewolfhowls · 25/04/2015 18:41

Lol at the lock jaw comment!

OfficerVanHalen · 25/04/2015 22:48

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TrulyTurtles · 25/04/2015 22:58

Stand up sex? A, I'd need to stand on a box and B At our age? Fuck off.
Oh and Biscuit

FeijoaSundae · 25/04/2015 23:31

OP....?

SirChenjin · 25/04/2015 23:37

£120 for a 3 night mini break?

That's actually very good value. Was that dinner, bed and breakfast, or just bed and breakfast?

Behooven · 25/04/2015 23:38

What an imagination. grim

mooth · 25/04/2015 23:48

You are all, clearly, barking. I'm so glad I don't know anyone who would behave like this.

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 26/04/2015 00:29

Was the hotel under a bridge by any chance? cough

ElizabethHoover · 26/04/2015 00:51

Ew
are you all like 18?

ElizabethHoover · 26/04/2015 00:52

OH THE OP HAS GONE

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