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To think friend should have been grateful for this free mini-break and not bring a man into our bedroom?

142 replies

GuestCat · 25/04/2015 09:49

Friend has been going through a hard time, so I paid £120 for her to join me, DP and 18 other friends on a 3-night mini break.
DP and I were looking forward to some romantic time together. Day before the trip, friend said she isn't comfortable sharing a room with anyone other than me, as she doesn't know anyone else on trip that well. Friend asked to share with me. I said she could share with me and DP. He was a bit miffed but didn't complain, and when we got there he kindly dragged a camp-bed into our room for himself, so friend could share double-bed with me. Room had no lock, so we agreed we'd use a piece of wood to jam the door if friend or DP were getting changed, and that we'd all knock.

Second night, party in full-swing, friend was downstairs chatting with other friends. DP and I decided to have a quickie in room. We jammed door and started having sex standing-up (away from bed and fully dressed). 10mins later friend starts trying to open door, I shouted 'wait we're getting changed' friend ignores this (she was quite drunk) and forced door just as DP is doing up his trousers. Friend doesn't notice anything, she's come to find her lipstick and is happily chatting away!
Next morning I explained to her we'd been having sex in corner when she burst in. She seemed surprised and not pleased. Later that eve, she said she and a male friend wanted to have a 'private chat' in bedroom, we literally thought they meant a chat, thought maybe something romantic was developing so said fine, agreed not to disturb them. 3 hours later I knocked on door, was denied access. Another hour later friend and male friend came out, when I asked her why they were so long, friend smugly informed me they'd been giving each other oral sex and cuddling naked in bed! It was a one-off, she has no plans to see him again.

I didn't say anything to her but feel really really let down by this. We kindly let her share our room, paid for her accommodation etc, yet she brought a man (someone we didn't even know) into our bedroom, got naked with him in our shared bed, and shut us out of room for 4 hours while they went down on each other! AIBU to feel shocked, disgusted and let-down?

OP posts:
LumpenproletariatAndFearful · 25/04/2015 10:05

Why is everyone whittering on about not sharing in the first place?

Some people on here are very odd, and must not be very close to their friends.

And yes where did the wood come from? (The wood that held the door open, that is......)

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 25/04/2015 10:05

Grim.

ADishBestEatenCold · 25/04/2015 10:05

Inviting your friend to share the room with you and your partner is way too weird. When you paid £120 for her break, did that not include a proper single bed in another room?

The rest of your post suggests such weirdness is not unusual among you and your friends.

balls2DWall · 25/04/2015 10:05

exactly Haklyut. ive taken shits that last longer than 10 mins lol

mrsdavidbowie · 25/04/2015 10:07

No.lock on the door? What sort of place was this?

NerrSnerr · 25/04/2015 10:07

Why on earth did you agree to share with her in the first place?

The company must have been shit if everyone kept disappearing for a shag.

SanctimoniousWitches · 25/04/2015 10:08

Sounds mad! you and your p had sex in the room! you andd your P 'lowered the tone' first (by having sex with other people around).

I would rather have a small single room than share with another couple!

SanctimoniousWitches · 25/04/2015 10:09

(if monney was the issue I mean). I'd prefer a big room with a great view of course!

ParkingFred · 25/04/2015 10:12

Weird. And seedy.

And, if this is for real, what sort of friend would want to share a room with her friend & her husband? Just slightly intrusive..

Sheitgeist · 25/04/2015 10:13

I felt like I needed a bath after reading that.

ClashCityRocker · 25/04/2015 10:13

The whole arrangement was a bit odd.

anothermakesthree · 25/04/2015 10:13

Wow. Were you at some sort of swingers hotel? I can't believe your hotel bedroom didn't have a lick on it??? Sounds odd all round and a bit comical with everybody sneaking off for sex with only the block of wood to give them privacy.....

Momagain1 · 25/04/2015 10:14

I hope you kicked her back out to the room she was sharing with a stranger before, as that is obviously a load of bullshit.

Tiredemma · 25/04/2015 10:14

A door with no lock? in a hotel??

Really???

anothermakesthree · 25/04/2015 10:14

Sorry, meant to say a lock on it not lick. Even my phone is getting into the spirit of things....

Shakirasma · 25/04/2015 10:14

I've got no idea who is BU. the whole set up was so fucking weird I just can't empathise with any of you!

Sparklingbrook · 25/04/2015 10:15

This isn't the first thread the OP has had regarding sleeping arrangements.

WelcomeToMNMadness · 25/04/2015 10:16

You share not just a room but a bed with a friend, leaving your partner to sleep on a camp bed beside you? Why would you do that when there were rooms with beds available? Does the word "no" not exist in your vocabulary?
What sort of weirdo asks to share a room with someone when it's clear that they have a double room with double bed and a partner to share it with?

Are you all still in high school or college or something?

TracyBarlow · 25/04/2015 10:16

This whole scenario is very odd. Hmm

HemanOrSheRa · 25/04/2015 10:16

I must be getting old. Just reading this has made me come over all unnecessary Confused.

pictish · 25/04/2015 10:17

Not sure what to make of this. Why are you all diving off from the main company for a shag?

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 25/04/2015 10:17

This makes perfect sense if the OP is 18

Fromparistoberlin73 · 25/04/2015 10:17

What a highly sexed bunch you are !

WelcomeToMNMadness · 25/04/2015 10:18

I'm guessing this was a holiday house or chalet thing and not a hotel.

It's still weird and so are you OP.

Tiredemma · 25/04/2015 10:18

Day before the trip, friend said she isn't comfortable sharing a room with anyone other than me, as she doesn't know anyone else on trip that well

But comfortable enough to give a stranger a blow job

She breaks down those boundaries reasonably quick though eh?

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