To hate it when my DP goes 'out out'

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I don't even know why it bothers me so much. Maybe simply because I dont, and I don't see why he wants to.

DP said he was going out tonight with a friend (we don't live together), I had assumed he was going to the pub after work, just text me to saying he's going out now at 1030! That means he's going 'out out' and most likely clubbing and I'm really upset.

I trust him, Im not jealous because I don't enjoy it, but I'm still really annoyed/upset.

AIBU to think grown men shouldn't want to do this? Or am I a granny before my years? (DP is 27 btw)

You sound pretty jealous to me OP

Or is it the old "I trust him, it's other women I don't trust around him"?

I'm not sure how you hating him drunk comes into it, if you don't even live together?

I can't think of anything else than not wanting to go out out every week now and then.

Yanbu. I kind of get where you're coming from op. But maybe you should go with him? Do you wish he would ask you? I'm not sure about someone going clubbing without their other half. He'll probably grow out of it at some point though.

I agree op. I don't like drunk people unless I am drunk in which case I love them. I tend to only go out if I am dragged out but I tend to enjoy it in the end. Are you pregnant? Enforced sobriety is often tedious if everyone else is going mad!

Ok OP , you just managed to insult a lot of people there. I'll join the chorus of I'm in my 40's and I still go clubbing, I'm not slutty. My partner goes and he's not sleazy.

I think you really need to examine what it is that makes you upset, and why you are so judgy.

Worse not else.

Maybe he fancies some fun?
You sound like Mary Whitehouse.

One of my DiL still goes clubbing sometimes.

She isn't 'slutty'.

I love a proper night out, me. Especially if there is pound shots and dancing.

Yabvu. Weird reaction. I'm his age, I'll be out with friends tomorrow enjoying my youth. If my boyfriend/partner didn't like it he'd be nice and single.

I have accepted IABU, I'm clearly in the minority.

I am not jealous at all, I wouldnt want to be there, and I was busy tonight so couldn't see him anyway. I trust him completely.

I'm just saying that I don't like that kind of atmosphere. And yes, there are sleazy men who think that buying a drink entitles them to something; and there are slutty girls who get off with strangers in clubs (and I don't just mean kissing). I have experienced both many times.

It's not the kind of place I would enjoy, and I honestly don't understand why anybody else would enjoy it (but realise that they do).

I have said I'm not sure why I'm upset, perhaps it's just the thought of DP being somewhere I dislike so much, and actually wanting to be there. I dont really know.

slutty girls.

What a pleasant woman you sound. I hope he enjoys himself tonight.

I actually feel really sorry for you OP. You really need to adjust your feelings, they could be the end of your relationship.

DISCLAIMER: I never said everyone who goes clubbing is slutty/sleazy, not sure where the offence of that is coming from...

He's going out clubbing at 27 ?? he should be at home in his comfy armchair with his slippers watching bbc4 and planning your children my DH hates clubs and drinking and even i find your post to totally ridiculous

Wow. If being a single girl who kisses a man in a club makes you a slut then I think 90% of the female population is slutty.

if i were him I'd run for the hills fast. any normal relationship is one where you enjoy a bit of time away from each other

I associate clubbing with dancing tbh and that's why I still do it and so does DH.

Someone mentioned not doing it without your partner but I am not sure why we need to go together. We do sometimes but mostly one of us has to look after the DC.

I understand what the OP is saying- she is not saying that men and women that go out are sluts/ sleazes she is saying that this is the impression/ feeling she get when 'out-out', its her personal response to it, not a personal attract at men/ women that do go out.
OP- YABU to not want him to go out, do you have kids??
Does he have kids??? do you go out-out together at all???
I am also someone that hates alcohol fueled nights out so I can understand where you are coming from when you say you don't like it, Its not everyone's cup of tea, however it is some peoples cup of tea and that you need to accept.
You cant expect DP to feel the same as you about everything.

I guess what jumps out from your posts (well apart from the horrible slutty comment) is your insbitu to understand that done one else can be different from you...I hate Formula One with a passion yet my DH loves it - I don't see the attraction personally ( Like you with clubbing) but I can accept we all like different things!

Okay I'm not gonna reply if people aren't even going to read the post properly, I'd be here all night!

Meloria I quite clearly said, and NOT just kissing. I mean those being fingered on the dance floor etc... Gross and slutty in my opinion.

Thanks all, goodnight!

Wow some vicious retorts tonight.

This is definitely a leave a LTB situation. Leave the Bitch.

That's what I would tell your boyfriend.

Oh, are you offended, OP? Well, what other word would you use for women who make derogatory and judgemental comments like that about perfect strangers? They are bitchy, that's what they are.

inability