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To never speak to this friend again?

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ArgyMargy · 15/04/2015 22:31

She has just outed herself on Facebook as a UKIP supporter. I always knew she was a bit racist but she lives in a backwater. What the hell do I do now?! Should I just never speak to her again?

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MilesHuntsWig · 15/04/2015 22:34

Ask her why and see what she says... Then go from there.

AJNH · 15/04/2015 22:38

Is it any of your business? ... Or is she only to support who you tell her to support?

Loletta · 15/04/2015 22:38

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TywysogesGymraeg · 15/04/2015 22:38

There's nothing wrong with that. I'm tempted. Mostly because, where I work, the people who serve me in the staff canteen can't understand me, the software developers can't understand me, and the cleaners can't understand me.
I sometimes struggle to understand what my GP is saying to me too.

Loletta · 15/04/2015 22:38

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WalterWall · 15/04/2015 22:39

On sunday my mum declared that UKIP is "the only sensible option".

It was a tumbleweed moment of epic proportions.

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lemonyone · 15/04/2015 22:40

I tend not to judge people entirely by their political allegiances. I wouldn't be thrilled if someone was, say, a National Front supporter, but I have enough confidence to challenge people with views who I find repugnant. If they still can't give me a good reason why they are holding racist views then yes, I'd drop them. But I'd at least give them a chance to explain their reasoning.

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itsnotmeitsyou1 · 15/04/2015 22:42

I unfriended someone for not only supporting UKIP, but they were also considering standing for them. They're entitled to support whoever they like, but it's obvious to me we disagree on personal values. I cannot be 'friends' with anyone who supports fascist politics.

Mypubesarestraight · 15/04/2015 22:42

A hell of a lot of people who have come into my shop have mentioned they are voting for UKIP.

They have their reasons and I'm not going to fall out with anyone over it.

KingJoffreyFanciesDarylDixon · 15/04/2015 22:44

This is why people should keep their political views to themselves...

Otherwise it just causes arguments.

(I have no political views. Nothing. Not a sausage. I have tried. But there's nothing.)

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 15/04/2015 22:44

I'll probably be flamed for this but like it or lump it. Everyone's entitled to their vote.

Seriouslyffs · 15/04/2015 22:46

Really Lemony?
I'd not bother! At the very best they're going to be uniformed and at the worse horrible.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 15/04/2015 22:47

Maybe this might help her?

To never speak to this friend again?
travertine · 15/04/2015 22:47

So you knew she was a bit racist but because she lives in a backwater (sorry, is that us stupid rural inbred sort?) it's okay. But because she supports a party you don't align to you should maybe never speak to her again. Very strong views all of a sudden for someone who was happy to be friends with someone who is 'a bit racist'

TheSkiingGardener · 15/04/2015 22:48

My parents are thinking of supporting UKIP and my brother half considered standing for them. I think the question is what has got us to the point where normally sensible people see it as their only choice?

Seriouslyffs · 15/04/2015 22:49

Joffrey
I don't consider racism to be a political view, its a moral failing.

msgrinch · 15/04/2015 22:50

One of my friends is voting UKIP. That's her right and choice. She's still the same wonderful friend I know and adore. It's up to her what she chooses and up to me what I believe and who ill vote for .

yabu.

lemonyone · 15/04/2015 22:51

Yep - if they were a good friend I'd try and discuss it with them and see if they have actually thought their views through. It's quite fun to see if they have made a connection with what happened in the Nazi era etc.

I've challenged people on things like that before - I love a good debate, me. I've never met someone who is so overtly racist that I would need to drop them, except my flatmate in uni who was muslim and really hated Jamaicans for some bizarre reason.

ashtrayheart · 15/04/2015 22:51

I don't know any ukip voters (I don't think anyway) but they would supposedly ditch HS2 which would attract voters in this area. I wouldn't put ukip into the same category as bnp for example although I would be Hmm if any friends of mine were supporters.

LurkingHusband · 15/04/2015 22:52

PelvicFloorClenchReminder

I prefer the Stewart Lee version Grin

Seriouslyffs · 15/04/2015 22:53

Lots of people are supporting UKIP and aren't racists- I'd have defriended a facebook friend for racism but would just hide a UKIP friend.

travertine · 15/04/2015 22:58

It's quite easy for people to like Nigel, I will go down the pub and have a pint and a fag with you. And isolated, some things make sense and that's when people say they're going to vote UKIP. It's a popularity game for most people that won't look much more indepth at the bigger picture (myself included to a degree) as previous have mentioned if it was BNP then we would not be friends.

TooMuchRain · 15/04/2015 23:07

I think you should have asked why. I agree that everyone is entitled to their own view but I couldn't be friends with a ukip racist, it would mean we really had nothing in common when it comes to basic world views.