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To never speak to this friend again?

203 replies

ArgyMargy · 15/04/2015 22:31

She has just outed herself on Facebook as a UKIP supporter. I always knew she was a bit racist but she lives in a backwater. What the hell do I do now?! Should I just never speak to her again?

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pinningwobble · 16/04/2015 08:25

Millie my point exactly!!!

Owllady · 16/04/2015 08:28

My neighbour has put two massive ukip billboards either side of his farm
My 7 year old keeps shouting no to ukip as we drive past Blush

I'm surprised at farmers voting for them though (a lot of farms have the massive signs up) I thought farmers had been well supported by this government and previous one?

RuthAaaghhh · 16/04/2015 08:31

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workadurka · 16/04/2015 08:33

I think UKIP would absolutely solve the immigration and indeed population issue if they got in power.

Because leaving Europe and cutting off foreign aid would leave the country so fucked on the international stage no one would want to live here.

Bunbaker · 16/04/2015 08:37

I suggest you grow up and accept that not everyone has the same political views as you. There is no way I would support UKIP, but I wouldn't defriend someone if they were a UKIP supporter.

I agree that being racist is a moral failing, but MIL is a homophobe and has what I would consider racist views, but I am not cutting contact with her because of that. She does have many redeeming qualities though.

Quitelikely · 16/04/2015 08:45

It's got nothing to do with you.

Imagine if your friends cut ties with you over who you vote for in the election.

Confused
maliaki · 16/04/2015 09:07

Wait so she used the vote marcher which came out with ukip on top? Has she actually said im voting ukip or has the result just uploaded on fb? I know a few including myself who've had ukip come out as a possibility-it was my second choice though with only 25% match.

It's up to her who she votes for, you can chat to her about it so long as you keep your own agenda and choice pushing out of it. Ukip appeals to a lot of elderly around my nans way have had enough of the other three main parties and they are the majority turnout to vote.

Im curious why ukip voting makes you want to cut her out but her previous racist views/behaviour were acceptable enough to keep her?

Timetoask · 16/04/2015 10:07

I am foreign, I arrived here 16 years ago (multinational work transfer, then met dh, settled here). I have seen a complete transformation of the population in England, although I wouldn't vote ukip I can completly empathize with people who want to see their country go back to its roots. It is not racist. I find it incredibly sad for example to see the rise in visible Muslim (covered women for example) population, sad because British values are being disempowered obliterated.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 16/04/2015 10:21

Why on earth do you find it "incredibly sad for example to see the rise in visible Muslim (covered women for example) population"?

And how can you possibly say that's not racist??!

parsnipbob · 16/04/2015 10:23

I find it incredibly sad for example to see the rise in visible Muslim

Er. What?

x2boys · 16/04/2015 10:25

I personally can't imagine why anyone would vote labour I think they pretty much destroyed the country when in power but get those are my views and everybody's entitled to their own views and entitled to vote for who they want I wouldn't fall out with somebody over their political views .

Owllady · 16/04/2015 10:26

Do you mean the rise in the bhurka? Rather than Muslims themselves
I fear I'm about to open up a can of worms here Confused

Seriouslyffs · 16/04/2015 10:28

Ruth
Seriouslyffs if someone really isn't racist but chooses to support UKIP then they are a very stupid and ignorant person.
Yep! Grin
TimetoaskShock
I don't really know where to start with that! So I won't.

UncertainSmile · 16/04/2015 10:39

x2boys, the idea that Labour 'destroyed the country' is such bullshit. Do you know that the Tories were vowing to match Labour's spending right until the crash? That the crash was a worldwide event, not some fault of Gordon Brown?

UncertainSmile · 16/04/2015 10:42

"Former Conservative peer Lord Skidelsky launched a ferocious attack on the Tory manifesto today.

He said his former party's claim that they had rescued the country from 'Labour's great recession' was "the mother of all lies."

In a post on his website, Lord Skidelsky said: "The Great Recession was caused by the banks. Governments, the Labour government included, by bailing out the banks and continuing to spend, stopped the Great Recession from turning into a Great Depression."

nickersinaknot · 16/04/2015 10:49

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RebootYourEngine · 16/04/2015 10:50

My friend has expressed an interest in voting for ukip. All because of immigration. I agree that the country is over populated and our services are struggling but I wouldnt vote ukip. But i also wouldnt defriend them.

Some people are just fed up with the way the country is, no school places, stretched nhs, no housing etc, and think that ukip will sort this.

Icimoi · 16/04/2015 10:52

There's nothing wrong with that. I'm tempted. Mostly because, where I work, the people who serve me in the staff canteen can't understand me, the software developers can't understand me, and the cleaners can't understand me.

Sounds like the place where you work would collapse if UKIP policies were put into effect.

Has it occurred to you that if all these people can't understand you, maybe the problem lies with you?

PisforPeter · 16/04/2015 10:53

I wouldn't unfriend anybody for supporting any mainstream party. That's a bit bonkers IMHO. Everybody is entitled to their opinion...

Icimoi · 16/04/2015 10:54

Owllady, I suspect your neighbour with the massive billboards is breaking planning rules. Could be fun to report him.

Icimoi · 16/04/2015 11:03

Timetoask, precisely what British values have in your view been disempowered and obliterated because of the alleged visible rise in the Muslim population, and what's your evidence?

IKnowIAmButWhatAreYou · 16/04/2015 11:05

I think the "If you like UKIP you're a galloping racist" views are very outdated.

It's a bit of a tired generalisation that lazy people throw out there because they can't think of their own rationalisation.

Not decided who's getting my cross yet, most likely to be Tory, faint chance it could be UKIP. As for the rest - cat in hells chance!!

Moonatic · 16/04/2015 11:15

"There's nothing wrong with that. I'm tempted. Mostly because, where I work, the people who serve me in the staff canteen can't understand me, the software developers can't understand me, and the cleaners can't understand me.

Sounds like the place where you work would collapse if UKIP policies were put into effect."

Hardly, since UKIP are advocating a points-based Australian immigration style system where skilled workers such as software developers would be able to get visas for occupations where there are shortages.

If there were limits on the numbers of unskilled immigrants, then this would ease the downward pressure on wages for unskilled jobs, making it easier to recruit locally.

"The available evidence suggests that immigration has had a small negative impact on the lowest-paid workers in the UK...In the short term, immigration creates winners and losers in economic terms. The biggest winners include immigrants and their employers in the UK.... The losers are likely to include those employed in low-paid jobs and directly competing with new immigrant workers...."

" House of Lords Select Committee for Economic Affairs

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