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To never speak to this friend again?

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ArgyMargy · 15/04/2015 22:31

She has just outed herself on Facebook as a UKIP supporter. I always knew she was a bit racist but she lives in a backwater. What the hell do I do now?! Should I just never speak to her again?

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BuzzardBird · 16/04/2015 12:44

It's clear that some people are living in a bubble and not seeing or hearing what they don't want to hear about UKIP.
Luckily most so called 'kippers' won't bother to vote, it was interesting to see in the last local elections how the Kipper flyer was the only one with instructions on how to fill in the ballot paper.

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x2boys · 16/04/2015 13:13

But that's my view uncertain smile because I worked in the NHS for many years and I saw it being destroyed under labour and education but that's my view right? And I,m entitled to it?

Icimoi · 16/04/2015 13:16

I never know why, when people are challenged on their views, they come out with all that stuff about "That's my view and I'm entitled to it" and free speech and so on. Of course anyone's entitled to their view. The point is that others are entitled to disagree. Just repeating that you're entitled to your view is meaningless.

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x2boys · 16/04/2015 13:23

Because icmoi I was told my view was bullshit just pointing out that if you don't agree with it there's no need to be rude about it!

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Mamus · 16/04/2015 13:28

I drop UKIP voters. I have no desire to share my life with them. Voting ukip, they clearly have no desire to share theirs with me, so I doubt it bothers them anyway. If you're going to vote for a party which espouses things I find vile, why the fuck would you imagine we could be friends?

Icimoi · 16/04/2015 13:35

But, x2boys, UncertainSmile went on to say "Do you know that the Tories were vowing to match Labour's spending right until the crash? That the crash was a worldwide event, not some fault of Gordon Brown?" and posted links to evidence to support that. Simply repeating that something was your view and you were entitled to it (which Uncertain wasn't in any way denying) doesn't advance your case, does it?

UncertainSmile · 16/04/2015 13:41

Yes, I provided sources to back up what I said. You can believe what you want, but as on other threads Right wingers tend to get very grumpy and go nuclear very quickly when challenged with actual evidence. If you want to play NHS Top Trumps, I can offer 27 years service. If you thought Labour ran down the NHS (except the PFI debacle), I suggest you weren't paying attention.

IFinishedTheBiscuits · 16/04/2015 13:49

I'm against the burkha. As a feminist rather than a racist. And I do think obscuring someone from society by covering them head to toe goes against British values of equality.

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UncertainSmile · 16/04/2015 13:55

You can challenge Islamism from the left as well as the right. I agree about the Burkha.

x2boys · 16/04/2015 14:00

From a personal point of view services in the NHS were being cut long before conservatives came into power I saw. This as worked in mental health for many years I was redeployed several times under labour as wards and day units closed down sure its still happening now but it started under labour I saw many ,many more tiers of management being formed whilst important services were cut and patient care going downhill whilst nobody on the shop floor has any idea what these managers actually do and what their increasingly fancy titles actually meant all of this under labour my original statement was just pointing out that just because you don't agree with peoples point of view doesn't mean that your right and they are are wrong or vice or versa.

UncertainSmile · 16/04/2015 14:01

The problem with Farage is that he's a demagogue; he and George Galloway are more similar than either would like to think.

IFinishedTheBiscuits · 16/04/2015 14:03

The burkha is cultural rather than religious though, and most of the time they don't choose to wear them, they're put under pressure to.

tomatodizzymum · 16/04/2015 14:07

Either you are friends or you're not. Why only do it on facebook?
I would only unfriend someone if they committed a major crime. My friends are all different, I like that. They're my friends because of similarities, not our differences.

tomatodizzymum · 16/04/2015 14:08

You should tell her why you've decided not to be her friend though. You're clearly passionate about it. But will you still be passionate about it when politics is not the major hot topic?

parsnipbob · 16/04/2015 14:10

IFinished that's actually not correct, many make an active choice to. I know some younger Muslim women whose mothers don't wear it and never did but they choose to.

In any case we really cannot dictate what someone should or should not wear. I do understand where you're coming from, as a feminist myself, but I think to say it should be banned is a little simplistic.