and possibly PFB about nursery teaching DS to say "ta"?

[missmargot]

Hearing adults saying to babies and children "say taaaaaa" whenever they give them something has long been a pet hate of mine, it gives me the absolute rage.

Twice this week I've heard different people at nursery say this to DS and it's made me shudder.

This isn't about me wanting DS (15 months) to say the full 'thank you' on his first attempt, he will make whatever sounds he wants to for the words as he does with everything else and that's fine, what I hate is him being taught that the word is 'ta' in the first place.

Would IBU to say something to nursery about this? I am severely sleep deprived at the moment so fully prepared to be told that I am being PFB and be handed a grip, but honestly had I have heard the word 'ta' being used at nursery when we looked around I would have thought twice about sending him there.

lol I hated 'ta' as well, never mind, just wait til they teach him to say 'toilit'.

I hate it as well.

YANBU!

Can't see a problem. Once they are old enough you can tell them not to use it for whatever reason that is.

I think your sleep deprevation is taking over. Is he well looked after?
Mine learnt ta, belly, bum. All words I didn't use as I am so middle classes. They are now 13 & 8 and know lots of different words & can use them all! I have never heard an adult say "ta" & at least he is learning when to show gratitude.

YABU. Wait until pfb starts school. You'll get all sorts of language coming home.

What's your problem with the word? If you have a legitimate reason for not wanting DS to use it, then perhaps YNBU. But if I were the nursery staff and the best you could do is 'I dislike it' then I'd conclude you were being precious.

I personally don't like "ta" either but I decided I'd rather my ds had something to say for thank you and he uses it. In my view it's better than nothing and most people know what he means when he says it. As soon as he can, he'll be saying thank you!

I make sure I say thank you to him, so he's hearing it but he responds with ta.

You're not unreasonable to hate it, speak to nursery staff if you it will help

Yes.

But if it's veh important to you, then you could perhaps hire a Norland nanny?

YABU

They're simply teaching your child to acknowledge that he's been given something.

They can't possibly use a different word for every child they're looking after.

Ta as an abbreviation is fine. If I say 'thank you' to DD and she says 'ta' - not a problem, but I wouldn't teach her that 'ta' is the correct way to speak, as it isn't. It can be difficult for children to 'unlearn' something once they've picked it up and confusing.

My DGC can say 'ta'. She cannot say 'thank-you'. It's one of the two words she can say, and if family history is anything to go by, it's all she's going to say for a couple of years (late talkers).

She uses it in context and as a communication game. I don't care it's not 'middle-class' enough - it serves its purpose and I love it when she says it.

All 3 of mine started of with 'ta' as a first word for thank you as it was easy to say and they could all say it from a very young age. They are now 3,6 and 9 and I am always complimented on their good manners by others, and none say 'ta' now because as their speech developed, so did the words they used.

It can be difficult for children to 'unlearn' something once they've picked it up and confusing.

My children also learned 'ta'. As soon as they could speak 'properly' they managed Thank You and it's never been a problem.

YANBU, this gives me the absolute rage too.

My nursery school also teach 'mam' and I hate it. Flame away.

I have teens. 'Ta' is great, believe me.

Nanny, I was speaking generally not specifically, hence why I said 'can be' not 'is'.

:)

What would be an appropriate middle class alternative OP? Given that he's too little to manage thank you?

It's good manners to him to learn to acknowledge others' actions no? Isn't that more important?

I can't help laughing at the 'absolute rage'

Ta as an abbreviation is fine. If I say 'thank you' to DD and she says 'ta' - not a problem, but I wouldn't teach her that 'ta' is the correct way to speak, as it isn't. It can be difficult for children to 'unlearn' something once they've picked it up and confusing.

This is my issue, if DS can't say thank you and so says ta then that is fine, but I want him to be taught the correct word in the first place. Same goes for other ridiculousness such as 'din dins' or 'moo cow'. Teach them the proper word in the first place even if they can't say it properly.

I always said 'thank you' and mine said 'kyoooo!' And then 'ankyooo!' And then 'thank you'.

I hate it too. It's not a word. DD is 17 months and attempts to say 'thank you'. It's not perfect but you can tell what she means . I don't say anything when people say ta to her but I inwardly grimace!

Are the nursery using 'din dins' and 'moo cow'?

Same goes for other ridiculousness such as 'din dins' or 'moo cow'.

Fuck yes this is taking me back!

Yanbu I wouldn't like this and would say to them.
As an ex-nanny I would have expected my boss to raise it with me too.

YouMake DD yells KOO as well!