and possibly PFB about nursery teaching DS to say "ta"?

[missmargot]

Hearing adults saying to babies and children "say taaaaaa" whenever they give them something has long been a pet hate of mine, it gives me the absolute rage.

Twice this week I've heard different people at nursery say this to DS and it's made me shudder.

This isn't about me wanting DS (15 months) to say the full 'thank you' on his first attempt, he will make whatever sounds he wants to for the words as he does with everything else and that's fine, what I hate is him being taught that the word is 'ta' in the first place.

Would IBU to say something to nursery about this? I am severely sleep deprived at the moment so fully prepared to be told that I am being PFB and be handed a grip, but honestly had I have heard the word 'ta' being used at nursery when we looked around I would have thought twice about sending him there.

Well it bothered me with pfb and not with psb (I even say it too now) so I think yes you are being pfb. In the nicest possible way.

It must be horrendous for controlling people to have to put their children in nursery.

Probably a big factor in why I stayed at home with mine.

Yabu I'm afraid. Very controlling. Baby will learn so much worse than that, glo'al stops, din dins, ta... unless you want to home educate until 18 you have to let go. You can discourage it at home though, works until age 6, thereafter they say it to wind you up.

Where did the OP mention class?? She just doesn't like the word ta! It's allowed. I don't either and I can assure you it's nothing to do with class. I just don't want to teach DD a word that I then have to teach her is wrong, when there's no need to as I can just use the proper word in the first place!
Can't for the life of me see how it is snobby. On the other hand, some of the inverse snobbery on this thread is ridiculous.

Din dins I would definitely draw the line at!

Am with you op. And don't get me started on "pardon"

YABU and a little PFB. If that's the worst complaint you have about nursery then the next few years will finish you off!

Wait until they start school and come home swearing...

Ds (4) learned "mingin!" At nursery!!!

Yanbu "ta" grates on me

The only reason the OP objects to "ta" is because it has working class connotations. Otherwise it's just a word. Why else would you object?

There are loads of words that aren't the proper word and you don't have to teach children that they are wrong Poo, wee, tummy/belly, even worse bellybutton! Wellies, telly...

I hate it too, I always taught dcs, thank you, when they are able to, they will say it properly.

I am a nursery nurse and never encourage children to say ta. There's no need.
I have told all of the nurseries I have used with my own dc and pulled them up if need be.
Neither of my children have said ta.

KERALA1

I'm with you. (See my post of 13.23)

Actually I have more of an issue with the word 'say' as a command than 'ta'. Nothing puts a child struggling with communication off more than telling them to say something. Merely modelling ta/thank you will have more effect.

In answer to the question. Yes you are being pfb. You do what you want at home and the child will learn register. An important communication skill that helps us to select the appropriate language in any situation.

Just say something! I would.

I had to speak out when SIL and MIL kept trying to get DD to say "Pardon" or "Pardon me"

They were when I used to jump in with "No...we say EXCUSE ME!" with a manic grin.

"Puh-dun"

This reminds me of the day a lady berated DH for letting tiny DS say ta to him. Apparently ta was very rude but getting in the face of a man innocently feeding his wee boy a
yoghurt in a cafe wasn't

OP, even if your DC does pick up the word its likely he'll grow out of it. DS sounds like a 3ft BBC newsreader these days

YANBU

I was the same with "Ta"

Now we've got "toilet" "poohead" and dropping the middle part from all his words ("boh um" instead of "bottom" "li uhl" instead of "little"), so it only gets worse

I wouldn't be happy about this. I was unaware that it had working class connotations, actually (is that true?). To a non-native (like me) it sounds absolutely ridiculous.

Whilst being perfectly capable of saying "Thank you", I do sometimes say "Ta" instead (not "Taaaaaa" though!). But I am a bit Cockney.
(I also say toilet, I am probably beyond help)

This has really bugged me for my pfb and all subsequent dc. Nursery taught them ta and belly instead of tummy, hate both. HOWEVER, it was a great nursery, they were extremely happy there and made the transition to school with ease. So I just let it go tbh and always just said thank you and tummy at home. My four year old now only says belly as a wind up as he knows I dont like it. None of them say ta.

If this is yout pfb I'd say pick your battles, not worth getting in a tizz about or upsetting the staff. There is far, far worse to come from the school playgroud. Save your energy.

Why on earth is belly vs. tummy an issue?

The Op didn't mention class at all. I did! (said I was too middle class in a tongue in cheek way).

I don't like ta either. Mine were taught it at nursery too. But you have to let it go. It won't "stick" if he doesn't hear it at home. He will speak like his family in the end. But if the nursery is nice you will have to put up with it, or else look like a loon. Try to see it as the first step away from you - they come thick and fast you know!

You are not paying enough fees for a posh nursery! Get a better job to fund them perhaps.

Always just said thank you to mine - dd1 was an early speaker but couldn't say it so said her version which was "tee too" which developed into thank you. I never gave it a thought until I overheard a friend with her ds telling him to say ta. Dh was there and afterwards he shared how much he hates ta instead of thank you. I'm just happy if a child has manners so not too bothered what other dc say but it didn't occur to me to teach them ta.