and possibly PFB about nursery teaching DS to say "ta"?

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Hearing adults saying to babies and children "say taaaaaa" whenever they give them something has long been a pet hate of mine, it gives me the absolute rage.

Twice this week I've heard different people at nursery say this to DS and it's made me shudder.

This isn't about me wanting DS (15 months) to say the full 'thank you' on his first attempt, he will make whatever sounds he wants to for the words as he does with everything else and that's fine, what I hate is him being taught that the word is 'ta' in the first place.

Would IBU to say something to nursery about this? I am severely sleep deprived at the moment so fully prepared to be told that I am being PFB and be handed a grip, but honestly had I have heard the word 'ta' being used at nursery when we looked around I would have thought twice about sending him there.

Oh yes, and just wait until he goes to school...........

YANBU -I hate it too (and would beg to differ that everyone up north says it) and I would say something. I agree that some sort of noise remotely attempting 'thank you' would be a hundred times better than 'ta'.

Mine went through a phase of cheerily saying, "Fuck-youuuuuu" in gratitude.

Better than ta? Discuss.

DS was just speaking when he started nursery. The nursery nurses encouraged him to say ta.

I didn't mind. It's not a bad word. He was happy at the nursery and they seemed to really love and care for him. That was the only thing that mattered.

He doesn't say it now and I really can't remember him saying it beyond the time he could say thank you.

I know it's getting on your nerves but it really doesn't matter IMO.

Hoppity you're not the only one who has seen it. I've seen a number of people say 'ta' to a child in that same scenario! Almost as if it means please pass (said) item

Yanbu, we used and still do use proper words... I knew of a woman who's daughter couldn't say dog at the age of 3, it was a 'woo woo' as she couldn't even say woof woof life her parents insisted on. I come from somewhere quite disadvantaged and tbh known for being quite backwards with speech.

Ok I will rephrase that to be clear! In the Northern town I grew up in, my family, my friends, most people in the town and at school said it!

It was a light hearted remark hence the .

Middle class gone mad.

Edit my ds went through the same but it was generally accepted he meant thank you luckily lol

YANBU that would annoy me too.

Yes! MooMaid

Are you me OP? I even told my own Mother off for saying duck duck and moo cow! and ta is an unnecessary word to learn imo. Teach them once and teach them right!

I am not keen on slang of any type really and wouldn't use it at home. I would tolerate it though, there are much worse things the children could be exposed to. It's obviously the language that the child care workers use themselves.

I wouldn't like it either. Mine said various 'koo' 'kyoo' or 'agoo' type things, and I remember being proud of DS when he was a little less than 2 saying 'kimmee pees' (excuse me please) to a lady he was trying to pass on his trike. I Don't see the point in learning two lots of words.

However, OP, I doubt I'd say anything in your position; it does seem a little petty to complain, and at least they are teaching him manners.

I love 'ta' and am astonished by the dislike for it on here. Snobbishness is so vulgar.

I never taught mine Ta even though I say it. PIL said it to the DC as babies but they all picked up 'ankoo' quickly.
It's not the word itself it's the exaggerated Taaaaaaaaaaaaaa that grates on me. The accent where we live has an awful kind of nasal way of saying 'a'.

I wouldn't say anything to nursery though. There is no way to say it without sounding like a snob.

If you don't want horrible working class women talking to your child, maybe you should look after him yourself? Or pay a nanny an awful lot more than the nursery staff get paid?

The op didn't mention class, horrible women or 'no one talking to her DS' - she just doesn't like 'ta' !

It may have been one of those awful lower class men anyway.

Loving the inverted snobbery on this thread

It's so nasty to say that the op thinks lower class people are 'awful' when she hasn't even alluded to this.

Either leave him there and say nothing, leave him there with strict instructions re the offending word or find a better establishment that uses preferred words.

yabu. If you don't like the way they speak move your ds. bizarre snobbish attitude though imo. As for dislike of moo cow???? I have visions of people speaking in received English only to babies, completely grammatically correctly at all times... as otherwise the world would end!!

does no one talk nonsense to their babies any more? just for fun?

Yabu!!! It is just developmental and he will say thank you at some point. My MIL kept trying to 'correct' my dd when she said this instead of being proud of her learning to speak and express gratitude. It drove me insane as its snobby and I was offended as myself and my entire (well educated) grown up family say ta.

Shortening words is just another way to help encourage speech. It's quite natural to talk differently to young children, it helps them learn. Equally, as long as there's no language delay\disorder, they will still learn if you don't use shortenings so it's up to you what you do.