To say something about this choice of baby name

[horrifiednamechanger]

DB and SIL are expecting their first baby. The baby is long awaited and I'm delighted for them obviously.

But, SIL they have decided to call the baby Charmaine (yes, spelt like that) and to make matters worse SIL seems to pronounce it almost 'char' rather than the kind of French style 'shar'. It almost sounds like she is ordering a take away.

Anyway upon hearing this news I had to bite my tongue so hard it practically bled. I don't think I did a very good job of hiding my horror surprise.

DB and myself have rather naice upbringing and our DM was a huge bit of a snob, not quite Hyacinth Bucket but not far off. I am fully prepared to accept I have inherited DM's views and IBU.... but I am also sure this would not be DB first or last choice of name, but he is known to 'go with the flow' and 'not cause waves' because SIL can be quite strong willed.

IABU to hate the name and WIBU to say something?

My comment about Irish names is that I feel English people using oddly spelled names is not my thing.

Theyre not oddly spelled names theyre a different language! How can you not understand that?

Was at school with someone named Charmian pronounced Sharmian. Unusual but quite nice?

Was at school with someone named Charmian pronounced Sharmian. Unusual but quite nice?

OP, I hope this is a joke but if not I think you and DSIS need to get a grip and a life. I would be disgusted if I thought my SIL's were speaking to my DH about something as personal as the name we chose for a first child and my DH had not told her to mind her own business (i.e. get lost and never mention it again).
As for 'I had was in tears earlier, this is just an awful situation and I almost feel I have to say something to protect DN's future' words fail me, drama queen doesn't do you justice.
I don't know if you genuinely mean well or are just a snob like your DM but I am very glad you are not my SIL and if you were and I read this crap you wouldn't have to worry about the name because you would never see your 'D'N.

I don't think it really matters what you name your child. It's unlikely to predetermine their identity and if they don't like their name they can change it when they're older.

So your DB is calling his first born after a bog roll. I would be saying something to my DB.

Charmian was the name of Ronnie Biggs wife. Enough said.

Harold Shipman's wife was called Primrose, amother, what's your point?

So your DB is calling his first born after a bog roll.

Is there a toilet roll called Charmain?

Children survive odd names. Trust me, I know, I've spent time in West London.

Oh dear me! Do I REALLY have to make a case that Mary is a wee bit popular in certain parts of our Island even if the root of the name is somewhere East of Jerusalem!?!? And yes, it is "spelled" not "spelt".

Thanks for correcting my correction btw. You still didn't answer my question. Ho hum!

ODFO anothersplace.
Can't believe this thread is still going on and people are continuing to be so fucking nasty about a name. You are a disgrace as much as the OP is.

I've been on mumsnet for a few years and made some good friends here. I've always denied the 'nest of vipers' thing. This thread, more than any other, has shown me that there really are some absolute cunts on here.

Isn't that loo roll?

But Guy, there are way more of us here defending the SIL, the idiots are thankfully few and far between. I can't believe this is still going though...

OP - according to government statistics, there were 9 babies named Charmaine in England and Wales in 2013 www.ons.gov.uk/ons/publications/re-reference-tables.html?edition=tcm%3A77-318125.

That puts it on the same level of popularity as all the following names (and quite a few more):Aileen, Amelia-Jane, Bernardette, Corinne, Diane, Donna, Flavia, Gisele, Hilary, Joan, Maud .... There were 9 babies with each of those names, as well. Like Charmaine, they are are all perfectly normal names.

And, IF your DB really doesn't like the name, that's a matter for himself and his wife ONLY.

Sorry - the unnecessary 'self' seems to be catching!!!!
Final sentence should of course read 'him and his wife ONLY'.

l feel really sorry for your db and his wife, I can imagine her starting a thread about her cow of a sil insulting the name they have chosen for their dd.

Nothing to do with you, you are being totally unreasonable and a complete bitch.

loop - the name Mary is about as indicative of someone being Irish as the name Matthew is.

I know MyName, it's just really surprised me that anyone agreed with the OP at all- and it has been quite a few.

It's surprised me too! I felt sure the OP was a joke or a troll, but the replies agreeing have shocked me a bit. I spend enough time on mumsnet to know it's not a name that will ever get suggested on the baby name board, but even so I can't believe anyone thinks it's so bad as to warrant seeking them out to try and change their minds. Baffling.

Ch Ch Ch Ch Charmaine...

When I was growing up, no one would call their child George, due to the rhyme, 'Georgie porgie, pudding and pie', due to the fear of podgy-type nicknames. However, I now know lots of George/Georgia/Georgina's, and one actually has Podge as an affectionate nickname!

Do not say anything to your brother/ail. It's not up to you!

The bog roll is Charmin by the way. Not Charmaine. I've always avoided baby name threads as the snobby bitchiness pisses me off but this one seems worse than usual.

Oh well, even if the OP isn't real, it hasn't been a waste of time reading the thread as it's been a really useful way to get the twat spreadsheet up to date.

Some of the comments about council estates and chavs are disgusting.