To say something about this choice of baby name

[horrifiednamechanger]

DB and SIL are expecting their first baby. The baby is long awaited and I'm delighted for them obviously.

But, SIL they have decided to call the baby Charmaine (yes, spelt like that) and to make matters worse SIL seems to pronounce it almost 'char' rather than the kind of French style 'shar'. It almost sounds like she is ordering a take away.

Anyway upon hearing this news I had to bite my tongue so hard it practically bled. I don't think I did a very good job of hiding my horror surprise.

DB and myself have rather naice upbringing and our DM was a huge bit of a snob, not quite Hyacinth Bucket but not far off. I am fully prepared to accept I have inherited DM's views and IBU.... but I am also sure this would not be DB first or last choice of name, but he is known to 'go with the flow' and 'not cause waves' because SIL can be quite strong willed.

IABU to hate the name and WIBU to say something?

I've only skimmed through the thread but my first thought was (if this is real) they are winding you up and the baby will be called something completely different

Charmaine (yes, spelt like that)

How else would you spell it? Are you confusing it with Jermaine? Which is a completely different name.

It would not be my choice but it's not a terrible name. I agree with the poster that it's better than Emily or Lily or whatever else safe name is currently in the top 10.

PMSL...If this is genuine I am looking forward to the 'My interferring SILs wants a say in the naming of our DD, is this the way it is going be , if so shall I go NC' thread
IF this is genuine you need to get your own life, you are over invested.

You sound like the family of my DSs partner...they are seriously weird!!

I assumed the OP was confusing it with Charlemagne, but since that's a boy's name, possibly not! Unless her naice upbringing didn't include history.

At least she hasn't chosen one of those ridiculous Irish names where the spelling looks entirely different to the name eg Niamh = Neeve. wtf?? It's like a sad competition to confuse teachers!!

OMFG, loop - did you really mean to be THAT rude?? There are a lot of Irish posters on MN, that's really fucking rude!

I love Irish names
Aoife (Eepha) is a hot fave of mine ATM.

I must say, if I were your SIL I'd come back and say "You're absolutely right, thanks so much for making us realise our error, we've decided to change the name to Chardonnay-Chelseigh.

Goodness OP, you are the most deserving recipient of my pity ever to have provoked a response from my good self on MN.
I'm so unutterably sad for yourself and your family that you are seemingly so boorishly members of the aspirational middle class.
A family with any modicum of breeding is safe in the knowledge that their heritage and inherent chutzpah entitles them to call their child anything that they please whilst remaining very much U.

poor, poor you OP. seriously I'm in absolute floods at your plight.

Gosh, loop, perhaps Irish people should simplify their 'ridiculous' Irish-language names for the hard of thinking? Or we could all change our names to Jack and Sophie Smith by deed poll, if that would smooth your intellectual path?

I think Celtic names like Niamh, Siobhan and Aoife are lovely, and I'm perfectly sure teachers don't get in the least confused by them.

Loop, Irish names are gorgeous, with the most beautiful meanings. If people are so thick they are confused by Irish names then there is no hope for them.

loop are you ignorant of the fact that a lot of Irish names are in fact Gaelic, which is a different language entirely to English or just really quite stupid?

I love Niamh and Aoife, gorgeous names both.

I do not love the op. In fact throughout 18 pages of this utter bullshit she's started not once does she offer up her own children's names for us to judge and sneer at. Which makes me think she's not so confident after all. It's just easier to judge and bitch at others than to look inwards and work out exactly why your ego tells you this is any business of yours.

You've been consistently told YABU for believing your opinion is so much more valuable than that of the woman giving birth, yet you remain convinced that you're in the right. Frankly, SIL's like you are frightening. I wouldn't let you within a mile of my children, you're clearly batshit.

Aoife and Niamh are more boring than anything else. Very play-safe names.

Niamh is in the top 100 uk names in the UK too (or it was when I was choosing names). I bet Aoife is / was too. So that means they are now popular names in the UK, whatever you think of them.

My partner wanted Saoirse (sear-sha) for our dd2, but I vetoed as it would be a pain to spell. And my mum is irish! but has easy to spell name ;)

I do like the irish names, but I am not keen on difficult to spell ones, poor DD2 already has a name she will have to spell her whole life and the pronunciation is pretty much phonetic!

This thread is bollocks, but something similar did happen to a friend of mine. She named her son a very American kind of name, think Hudson. Her FiL said, 'I don't like that, I'm going to call him Jack'. And did. Always. The kid is 10 and they still have arguments about it. As far as the grandparents are concerned, his name is Jack. Just mental.

at the idea of the Irish language having been invented solely as a competition to confuse those poor poor English speaking teachers. I feel all sad for those teachers, it must be so hard to learn how to pronounce a name that's not Jack or Emma.

It has always baffled me why Irish names are fair game to some on MN and HQ allow it! You would never get away with mocking chinese names or arabic, dutch, russian etc. why is the mocking of the Irish language tolerated by MNHQ?

It's like a sad competition to confuse teachers!!

No, it's to confuse the profoundly thick. It seems to be doing the job nicely.

Same with Welsh names, Surly. It is most tiresome!

lily I love Isadora, I would have used it but DH wasn't keen.

Charlotte3333
I have not 'offered up' my own children's names because this thread has descended into mob abuse. I could post any name and posters here would be determined to attack me on my choice. The names we choose also doesn't change the fact that the name SIL has picked is quite odd.

Well i have reported my post alis because it would be great to know HQ's official position on the ridiculing of the Irish (and Welsh) language. It appears as though it is Permitted here on MN so if thats the case i'd rather know so i can spend my hours of procrastination elsewhere.