To say something about this choice of baby name

[horrifiednamechanger]

DB and SIL are expecting their first baby. The baby is long awaited and I'm delighted for them obviously.

But, SIL they have decided to call the baby Charmaine (yes, spelt like that) and to make matters worse SIL seems to pronounce it almost 'char' rather than the kind of French style 'shar'. It almost sounds like she is ordering a take away.

Anyway upon hearing this news I had to bite my tongue so hard it practically bled. I don't think I did a very good job of hiding my horror surprise.

DB and myself have rather naice upbringing and our DM was a huge bit of a snob, not quite Hyacinth Bucket but not far off. I am fully prepared to accept I have inherited DM's views and IBU.... but I am also sure this would not be DB first or last choice of name, but he is known to 'go with the flow' and 'not cause waves' because SIL can be quite strong willed.

IABU to hate the name and WIBU to say something?

Everybody has different reactions to names.

Personally, I have to bite my tongue when I am faced with yet another of the names in the top 10. It smacks of such a pathetic lack of individuality that I cannot understand how anyone would saddle their dc with that.

If I was recruiting (I have been) I would be more likely to look at someone with an unusual name (however awful) than a really common one. I would assume they have a more interesting background, and would be more likely to call them to interview to see what they are like.

However you are entitled to your views, however limited they might be. Where you have gone severely not on is in doing anything other than biting your tongue and getting used to it by the time the baby is born.

You should be seriously apologising to your brother. You had absolutely no right to express any negativity towards anything relating to the baby they have been waiting for so long and have been massively out of order.

Are you ordering takeaway mail?

Awaits OP's next thread about how her awful sil has forced her db to go NC with her.

I have 2 small relatives with outlandish names. So out there that it is incomprehensible that anyone would choose them. Every single person I have mentioned the names to, not in conversation specifically about the names as such, more as in "little did this or that", has responded by bursting out laughing.

It was quite clear from day one that this would be the general response to these names, but at no point did it occur to any member of our family to stage an intervention, cry or worry about it in any way .

No matter how much you dislike a certain name overtime you just get used to it.It gets to the stage where you are that familiar with hearing it you no longer have an opinion.So continue to bite your tongue, you'll adapt to it quickly. My DHs parents were devastated when we told them Ds name and immediately voiced their objections, my Mum told them outright it was our choice and not theirs, they had already had their turn and now it was our decision.Years later, they admitted they could not imagine Ds as being called any other than his name.

I don't usually get involved with any AIBU debacle but really OP you are being so very, very unreasonable. How do you think any parent chooses the name for their child? Most choose it out of love for their baby, a name they love and would love their child to have. Others, like you, choose a name because of what other people may or may not think of it, is it posh enough, etc etc. - I know which method I prefer.

Perhaps your SIL has had this name in mind for a very long time, as you say this is a long awaited pregnancy. Perhaps it is the name of someone she admires/admired, perhaps it is an old family name, perhaps she just heard it and thought what a lovely name, if I ever have a DD I will call her Charmaine. Then when she finally finds out she is having a much longed for DD and proudly announces her 'secret' name you come along and say sorry (or not even sorry by the sound of it) but that's just not good enough for our 'nice' family - go and find something more 'posh' and don't bring shame on us. I hope your SIL is as thick skinned as you imply because if not she could very well be the one crying about the name Charmaine now, not because she doesn't like the name but because her SIL has said such nasty things about it. Your clearly think she isn't good enough for your 'nice' family, and now you even think it is your place to say her chosen name for her DD isn't good enough. Or, hopefully, she doesn't care about your opinion at all.

Finally - there is absolutely nothing wrong with the name.

So, did you and your sister make a special visit to your brother's house for this? Sought him out specifically to slag off their choice of name!!??

It is just a name. There's nothing to be so offended about. Do you really have nothing worse than this to get so worked up over? You and your sister must have waaaaaay too much time on your hands.

Your brother needs to put his foot down with YOU, not his wife (who he should be defending). If anyone had had the nerve to come to my house and speak to me in any such way they would possibly have found my foot up their arse.

WTF.

YABU

As someone who waited a long time for my DC I would have stuck two fingers up at anyone who >>tried

OP, you sound horrible and you are being massively unreasonable. It's not your choice and not your place to say anything more than you already have--which was too much.
Get over yourself and leave your DB and SIL alone, why don't you?

I don't understand the spelling comment - I've never seen Charmaine spelt any other way?

I don't especially like the name but I don't dislike it either. I guess it's a bit dated but so are lots of names at the more unusual end of the lists.

If my sister had chosen it I would probably tell her it's pronounced 'shar-mayne' but that's only because I never heard 'char-mayne' - if I was then told it was a valid alternative I'd shut up.

I called my first child Savannah 12 years ago. I have since seen a lot of people call the name common, new age-y, chavvy, tacky etc etc. But I love it and hey - if it's good enough for the queen's great granddaughter, it's good enough for me!!

What are your children's names OP?

manicinsomniac
I like the name savannahs (bit off topic)

Shouldn't be an S on the end, auto correct does the strangest things!

Very Very Very rude, unless the name is clitoris or vagina, no need to say anything and then even then it doesn't need to be said rudely, just to point out, oh did you realise what this also means? You are simply being classist. HELLO KATIE!

Just to add I was thinking about the name Isadora, and I loved it but a friend immediately said OMG and started singing "Wizadora" Having never watched kids programmes before I had no idea what she was on about, and she told me that the name was perfect for being teased. I actually appreciated the advice, but then I'm sure if I had said thats the name and thats it, she would have just kept her mouth shut!

This has got to be a windup surely!

YABU

I would hope it is a wind-up.

Surely nobody could be this self-obsessed and stupid.

God I LOVE Savannah but am not brave enough!

El Cid's wife was called Charmaine.

awww, thanks Bigfam and Binkybix

Anyone who claims that they had a 'naice' upbringing and yet still thinks this is grammatically correct:

DB and myself have

doesn't have the right to be snobbish about anyone. Start with yourself, OP, before criticising others choice of language.

or others'

Well quite Dory .

As if this thread is real

This is a wind up.

Well done op you've generated 17 pages of frothing.

Not a bad effort 7/10.