To wonder why parents let their children go out dressed inappropriately

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Now I know the weather is warning up, and you expect to see chidkren in shorts, t shirts, skirts etc etc but why oh why do parents allow children, I'm talking Young children age 8-9-10 go out dressed in belly tops and shorts that are that short they are exposing some of their bum? It really grates me as surely young girls should not be going round dressed like this, it's inapropriate imo and I wouldn't dream of letting my own daughter walk round in such a state.

If it's ok for your DD to wear clothes which happen to expose her bum and belly why don't you do it with your DS?

My ds was out today (and he will be for the rest of the good weather) wearing no top and his shorts slipping off his skinny ass. Whats your point?

Lets face it boys stripping off when its hot or girls just wearing shorts in the pool is not the same.

Just wanted to make a point, am not going to argue.

If you look at a child and see sexualisation in her/his dress you really need to look at yourself in the mirror.

Horrible thread.

My boys strip off ad soon as their is hint of sunshine, and all of them will be topless at times when playing. As long as they have sun protection it's fine.

What's not fine is adults making judgements based on a child's appearance. You are the ones with the problem attaching adult values and judgements to a child's clothes. And as usual its judging girls for their appearance.

NO, you need to look at GQ mag and see similar on the front page.
Stop trying to turn the thread against this.

Have bellies become the new genitalia or something? wtf is wrong with kids bellies?

Girls are being told as usual that their value or not is based on their looks and their body. Know your place girls, you are only allowed to dress how society dicttes. Too much flesh equals tart. Not enough equals frigid. Abd it's starting when they are little children. And then turns into victim blaming ad they get older. What a fucked up world we live in.

I had to google and im completely missing your point.

Have some ryan gosling with your cheesecake though ladies

I get this. In swimming pool there were girls 7+ in full on bikinis with proper adult style tiny bikini tops. Just wrong

Haven't heard the word 'tawdry' for years. Love it.

I don't have any DS's, so I can't comment on my non-existent DS going out with his belly or bum showing.

If I did have a DS I would care about it the same amount as I care about DD wearing shorts or crop tops - ie not at all.

(Oh and according to our thermometer it was 25 degrees here at 2pm - is that warm enough for shorts? - actually, scrub that, DD can feel hot at an ice rink so she'd have worn them whatever the temp)

5madthings I wore 3/4 jeans for the first time this year. I apologise for showing not just my ankles but my calves as well :(

I get this. In swimming pool there were girls 7+ in full on bikinis with proper adult style tiny bikini tops. Just wrong

Why is it wrong?

Meh. Any cheesecake left?

Boys are wearing cut off t shirts? And short shorts?

I am just arguing about the defending of girls wearing stuff which is a copy of what women wear. Posters are being argumentative with the OP, I'd rather they just said well, DD likes what's in fashion or what they see in magazines or on YOutube. Which is no doubt the case. Even if it's not deemed 'appropriate' by some.

The op is the one sexualising little girls AND being a snob

Is she?

Is this what everyone is touchy about?

I am just arguing about the defending of girls wearing stuff which is a copy of what women wear.

I can't think of a single garment DD wears that I don't wear. She has tops jumpers dresses skirts shorts blouses jackets wellies sandles calf high boots for winter bikinis kaftans and everything else!

And if I had a son, no doubt he'd have an almost identical wardrobe to his dad with shorts jeans shirts shorts trainers etc.

I thought that was because every human is a basic shape, and theres only a limited number of garments you can create that will fit that shape.

Its not that DD likes whats in fashion or whatever, its that she goes to the shop and says "mum can I get this" or I see something I like and suggest it to her. I suppose theres an element of fashion involved but thats cause its what the shops sell. Except that time I had to get the sewing machine out to make her a mini Katy Perry ROAR ensamble

I hate seeing children dressed in shoes which they cannot run, jump and climb in.
As a Guider, yes, this is what I hate. Do not send your child to an active meeting in crocs or open toed sandals.

Shorts and crop tops are ok, unless they say 'hot chick/babe/I'm a princess or some other crap on it.

They are ok if it isn't either sunny or cold, and if the former, they are only appropriate if your child has the maturity to reapply sunscreen frequently and not lie that "I've done it already". They also aren't appropriate for climbing or assault courses.

Don't get me started on parents who don't know what a coat is (hint: they have sleeves) or who looked out of the window and saw sun so didn't send a coat, hat or gloves (hint: it's the north of England in March).

Yes boys wear short shorts. And often no top.

I haven't seen crop tops for boys, but Ds4 keeps growing so his t shirts get too short. There is nothing wrong with showing tummy, girl or boy.

I don't much like bikinis on young girls that don't have breasts but dd wore a ranking lots the other year, it was practical when she was newly potty trained. This year she has a uv protective set of t shirt top and short bottoms. But will often wear only the bottoms.

My only concern with uncovered flesh for my kids is the sunburn risk, but that is what suncream is for, or cool baggy tops for very sunny days, it's their shoulders etc most at risk from burning.

Why are girls judged for clothing yet no boys, we don't get threads moaning about them fflashing their flesh or comments about them looking inappropriate or strutting do we. These are all value judgements placed on girls.

I remember the summers of '76 and '77. (old) We used to pull the bottom of our T-shirts up through the neck, & tie a knot to make a crop top.

DM had a fit of the vapours. but only because she thought I would stretch the T-shirt.

Um is there any cake left?

So i guess what i'm saying in direct relation to your post is, so what if its a mini version of what I (or women in general) wear. I don't see my clothes in terms of how sexualised they are, just that I like them, and DD obv does too. Whats wrong with that?

How many boys go round wearing really short shorts and cropped tops though?! They're all in knee length shorts and t-shirts round here.