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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

967 replies

Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

OP posts:
Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 11:39

The Canadian is an unfortunate extra. Grin

LividofLondinium · 07/04/2015 11:39

Agree with Dido. They've hardly got any luggage so drop it all off at the hospital and tell her (and the staff) that she needs to get a hotel when she's discharged. Stop being a martyr Lily, you've been overly accommodating to her and she's taken the piss out of you.

Lilylonglegs · 07/04/2015 11:45

She was my Close friend's brother' girlfriend who just got married in ghana. She has a "friend" that lives nearby so I'm assuming she is going there as she said this morning that was where she was going to go but couldn't call her as she didn't have a charger, so I went back and got the charger and I'm done with it. They can come pick up the suitcase when she is leaving.

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Lweji · 07/04/2015 11:46

The Canadian is an unfortunate extra.

Well, fortunate for her, unfortunate for him, from what little I gather.

rollonthesummer · 07/04/2015 11:50

They can come pick up the suitcase when she is leaving

That sounds like asking for trouble? Give her all the stuff now!

Patapouf · 07/04/2015 11:50

So you're rid of her OP? But not her luggage?

BabyGanoush · 07/04/2015 11:52

Is the boy just dtuck in the hospital too now? That is a bit grim. Willyou check uponthemto make sure they (he) are ok?

Penguinotterfoxbadger · 07/04/2015 11:53

If you are serious about getting rid of her then drop the suitcase at the hospital.

Lilylonglegs · 07/04/2015 12:00

The boys is in the hospital with her now. I'm out for the day.

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CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 07/04/2015 12:02

She has left! She is in the hospital and need never come back to you!! Why on earth wouldn't you take her case there and make sure the ward sister understands at least some of her complicated story, especially the fact she has a 10yo son in tow

Lweji · 07/04/2015 12:04

Loose ends. You should know better. Have you never seen any comedies? Or soap dramas?
Take the case.

DidoTheDodo · 07/04/2015 12:06

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Trickydecision · 07/04/2015 12:08

But if she does not come back, how will we know how the story unfolds?

AspieAndNT · 07/04/2015 12:09

Has she got a key to your home?

Sallyingforth · 07/04/2015 12:09

That's not the hospital's job. And you may be sure she has given them your address as hers.

Lweji · 07/04/2015 12:10

But if she does not come back, how will we know how the story unfolds?

The OP will have to ring her for news.

I bet she will charm a doctor by the time she leaves hospital.

Missymum6 · 07/04/2015 12:14

Strange how she got a blood clot as her flight was due.... No flying for her

Lilylonglegs · 07/04/2015 12:14

She does not have a key and has never been in possession of a key. My daughter is with her grandmother and I'm going to be out all day and all tomorrow, so when they are ready I can even take the suitcase to them as the "friend" does not live far. I'm pretty sure this saga is over. fingerscrossed

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Lilylonglegs · 07/04/2015 12:16

AND she has told me that this friend is going on holiday on the same day she is due to leave uh oh.

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stinkingbishop · 07/04/2015 12:28

I have just VERY successfully procrastinated my essay for 40 mins reading this :)

Good luck OP Smile.

Fairenuff · 07/04/2015 12:29

She will probably walk out of the hospital in the doctor's shoes.

bumbleymummy · 07/04/2015 12:30

She can always go home by train/ferry :)

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 12:39

Fairenuff Grin

NeedAnEasterEggForMyGiraffe · 07/04/2015 12:52

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Nettymaniaa · 07/04/2015 14:05

Are you telling us that yet another friend she has contacted has said they are going on holiday. This would ring alarm bells for me. I think you should have kicked her out earlier. Can you get someone else to deliver her case to send a message. My other half is Ghanain and we don't get anything like that from friends or family, her nationality is incidental but her dramatic behaviour is just too much. You must want to enjoy your maternity leave without all this and you would not be being unreasonable for hoping for that. No good will come of letting this person have even one excuse to return to your doorstep. This is not a friend.

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