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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

967 replies

Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

OP posts:
ohtheholidays · 07/04/2015 10:16

Is she still in hospital OP?

Honestly I'd be really worried that she was going to run off and leave you with her poor little boy.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 10:17

I think there may be two books: "Housemate from Hell" (in 847 chapters) and "Drinking Habits around the World" where many of us should share in the royalties.

wowfudge · 07/04/2015 10:17

Oh fgs - I'm with ordinary on this. Why in hell's name is what the OP has posted so unbelievable?

NotNowBono · 07/04/2015 10:19

forago OP has a good friend > who has a brother > who used to go out with HOUSE GUEST.

Although he hasn't featured yet. I'm struggling to see where she could have fitted him in.

forago · 07/04/2015 10:26

Oh yes! I forgot about good friend's brother!!

I am still confused about who the father of the baby is.

And where is the husband? Why isn't the 10y old with him?

Patapouf · 07/04/2015 10:28

Firstly, does the hospital know she is pregnant? She's hardly going to tell them if she's planning an abortion which explains the X-ray. Although why a nosebleed warrants an overnight stay is beyond me.

Secondly, what the fuck is going on? Ghana, stop moving the goalposts to our drinking games OP.

Sallyingforth · 07/04/2015 10:32

I'm looking out for this on Amazon Kindle.
Can anyone suggest what the title will be?
I thought it might be Around the World in 80 Days, but apparently that's already been taken.

DrankSangriaInThePark · 07/04/2015 10:32

patapouf, 768 pages back, OP said she is already visibly pregnant to the point it might be twins Shock

TranmereRover · 07/04/2015 10:32

weren't any of the boyfriends with her in Sweden, where she lives?

DrankSangriaInThePark · 07/04/2015 10:35

Sweden was a cunning plan to not reveal her identity as a GhanaianItalianSwissCanadian

forago · 07/04/2015 10:37

Wasn't Sweden a red herring in case she was reading? Doesn't she actually live in Switzerland? or is it Italy?

if this is a series of novels, the plotlines need tidied up. I also would get a whiteboard going with houseguests known movements and associates, a la TV crime shows.

Lweji · 07/04/2015 10:40

I thought it might be Around the World in 80 Days,

Or Around the World in 80 babies. (ok, maybe 8 babies, or 1 baby and 7 abortions)

Lweji · 07/04/2015 10:42

Is she definitely in hospital? An X-ray when pregnant is serious.

Does it matter if you are going to abort the fetus anyway, though?

NotNowBono · 07/04/2015 10:42

love the idea that HouseGuest might have been reading, and thought, 'Hey! This freeloading sofa surfer with the 10 year old son who keeps telling the OP how crap her house is and to shave her baby's head sounds a bit familiar... No, wait, she's from Sweden. It's not me.'

Losingmyreligion · 07/04/2015 10:49

Every time I see the world "Immediately" in the thread title it makes me go all nostalgic for last Thursday.

Trickydecision · 07/04/2015 10:52

NotNowBono
Grin

Lilylonglegs · 07/04/2015 11:11

Update: she was supposed to text me the ward last night and didn't. I got her son up and then We started getting ready to go. On the way she text me the ward and room number so I went and dropped the son off. She said that she has a blood clot as a result of the flight. I took her chargers and her wash bag and am out all day so hopefully she will find somewhere else to go.

OP posts:
forago · 07/04/2015 11:12

thanks Lil - who's the father of the baby!

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 07/04/2015 11:14

I have nothing to add other than to say that this is the most bonkers of threads I've ever read on here.

DidoTheDodo · 07/04/2015 11:15

Go Lily!
Drop off ALL her stuff at the hospital, make it clear to the ward staff that your address is not her discharge address, change the locks and RUN!!

Lilylonglegs · 07/04/2015 11:24

The father of the unborn baby is the Nigerian in Italy. The Italian is the father of the 10year old. The Canadian is an unfortunate extra.

OP posts:
backtowork2015 · 07/04/2015 11:26

the boy isn't going to be able to stay with her in hospital though. where's he going? even if shes discharged she will also need daily bloid thinning injections or warfarin and require regular inr (clotting) blood tests to monitor pulmonary embolus treatment. not even sure she can have warfarin whilst pregnant. she us going to need very close medical supervision

Yeasayer · 07/04/2015 11:30

Can you find her another friend to stay with? Your brother's girlfriend perhaps? Totally agree with Alpaca, don't lend her any money.
Next time she complains the house is too small, she doesn't like your food etc., agree with her & make plans for her exit. You're not a charity & not enjoying her company, just be honest & tell her it isn't working out as you thought it might.

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 07/04/2015 11:37

I still don't think she is pregnant

Or if she is, she will have a rude shock when she finds out you can't just pop into a doctors with a cheque book for a reasonably late abortion

rollonthesummer · 07/04/2015 11:38

Do you still have the rest of her stuff in your house?