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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

967 replies

Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

OP posts:
TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 23:04

I think Holland is available.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 23:09

You know you want some of this Ladies....

To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?
TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 23:28

I must apologise. I've drunk too much, I'm meant to be going for a McDonalds breakfast in the morning and I'm driving.

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 23:35

That is what this thread has driven you to, Tali. I blame the OP.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 23:37

Yeah, OP. You've driven me to Miliband lust. I'd shag him sober

Lilylonglegs · 06/04/2015 23:40

She is Ghanian by birth but an Italian National with an Italian passport so she didn't need a visa.

Update: she is now in the hospital overnight and I have the son. I'm dropping him off at the hospital tomorrow morning. She Said that she has been having nosebleeds so went to a and e.

OP posts:
TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 23:46

You sure shes coming back?

mathanxiety · 06/04/2015 23:47

They are keeping her in overnight for imaginary nosebleeds?

mathanxiety · 06/04/2015 23:48

How much do you want to bet she has done a runner and abandoned her son in your house?

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 23:50

Math, I'm thinking the same thing.

Lweji · 06/04/2015 23:51

Google SS's number just in case.

Mouldypineapple · 06/04/2015 23:57

Well I'm impressed. This is great stuff! OP you may now be the proud parent of another child! Until his alien father swoops in on his spaceship and takes him away..
Did she look ill? Seems a bit unlikely they kept her in for nosebleeds, especially if you haven't witnessed any.

Lweji · 07/04/2015 00:03

Don't you people know that nose bleeds are a sure sign of a very serious disease? at least on tv

Mostly likely the alien wants to come out.

Be careful, if he doesn't want to kill you when he comes out... that means... you are infected... too...

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 00:10

Omg, I bet the Village of the damned is coming true. The alien is going to control the human race. Its those people from Gliese again.

BunnyFint · 07/04/2015 00:13

Imaginary nosebleeds? Really? I worked on an ENT ward for two years, we were the ward 'on take' for emergencies, we never admitted anyone with an epistaxis, unless they were actively bleeding over a period of time, and all attempts of cautery, and packing, in A & E Failed.

Hmm
Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 00:13

Hospital? Does that mean we have to swap our drinks for jugs of water? (too late for you Tali Grin )

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 00:14

I'm telling ya. I bet shes done a runner.

PunkrockerGirl · 07/04/2015 00:16

A&E keep someone in with a nosebleed? Confused

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 00:18

I'm sobering up now. I cant stay drunk. But still..... Grin

Lweji · 07/04/2015 00:20

We could always add a kick to the saline in the bag.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 00:30

Maybe a margarita or tequila?

Mouldypineapple · 07/04/2015 00:35

sambuca! Colourless..

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 00:37

Vodka, That's the right kind of kick.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 00:39

But would that go with saline?

MmeMorrible · 07/04/2015 00:42

Really confused - have been out all day and suddenly HG is from Ghana but has Italian passport and has been hospitalised for a nosebleed??

And OP is left with the 10yo.

Can't see the NHS admitting her for a nosebleed. Can imagine an overnight stay may be necessary after a medical abortion.