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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

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Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

OP posts:
Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 21:01

I think we should all go.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 21:08

Yeah, mumsnet space trip.

Lweji · 06/04/2015 21:09

Is one of her children an alien half-breed too?

I forgot the name. Where's that amazing link?

Off to look for it.

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 21:13

Hahaha - perhaps not! Just looked that up! I'm so innocent!)

Very glad I've got France now, not Gliese 832c.

Footle · 06/04/2015 21:17

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 21:17

Blame the Aliens, not me Grin

Maybe the OP can find HG a nice Alien to settle down with.

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 21:21

The alien would have to be very tolerant. And it would give the rest of us earthlings a bad name.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 21:26

That's true. It'd probably start an intergalactic war.

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 21:27

It's not just the destinations though, Footle - it's the constantly changing nature of the story and the em, complicated relationships of the houseguest that are creating the intrigue.

Lweji · 06/04/2015 21:41

Oh, here it is:

about Indigo children

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 21:45

Fuck me. I think my DD is an Indigo child.

Iflyaway · 06/04/2015 22:02

Well, it's been a fun few days over boring Easter to read this, but I can't keep up with the plot any more.

First, all over Europe, then - via Canada - to Africa...

Had a wonderful colleague from Ghana, but we did raise an eyebrow - simultaneously - when she turned up for a 5 day conference with two huge suitcases - yes, she was high maintenance, as many people are Grin

I just don't get (LP) that OP would even put up with all this bullshit with an 8-month-old really....

I would've told them to sling their hook the day after complaining about everything in my house if I'd invited them to stay. Which I wouldn't do with a baby in the house. That's 24/7 already anyway.

Oh yes, and at one point OP says "she said she's coming over for 6 weeks".
Haha. in my world you ask if you can come for 6 - 72 hours but only if you are going to do the housework while I deal with exhaustion, leaky tits, sleep-deprived etc. with an 8-month-old.

Hmmm, dropped the baby?
Mediator just happened to have a pair of shoes that fit the HFH? Grin

Oh, and I've never heard - travelled lots in Africa - of them ever shaving a girl's head. Basic survival is much more important.

SouthWestmom · 06/04/2015 22:04

I am actually a bit confused now.
She's from Ghana and came to Italy ?
She has an ex husband who is the father of the son. Is he from Ghana? Or Italy?
She has an affair, gets pregnant, moves to Seitzerland, moves back.
Then comes here?

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 22:14

The houseguest is definitely an indigo child!

The most alarming phrase in that description is : "..eventually the Indigos will replace all other colours."

BigRedBall · 06/04/2015 22:16

This is the thread that just keeps on giving Grin...we've made it to Africa. Just Asia and South America and we'll have hit all the big continents! I pick Brazil and China!

Oh and that indigo children link: wtf? They don't like staying in line? Well tough shit! Indigo children my arse! More like creating yourself a nice little narcissist to pollute the human race with.

Chippednailvarnish · 06/04/2015 22:21

People, I'm running out of drinks...

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 22:27

That describes my child in some way. She is a nice little girl though, so maybe shes half indigo half purple.

Someone really needs to take the Amaretto away. I keep looking at pictures of Ed Miliband.

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 22:28

That is fatal, Chipped - drink is absolutely essential on this thread.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 22:31

I've drunk 250ml of Amaretto.

ManicPixieDream · 06/04/2015 22:31

Easter Hmm place marking in an Easter style since I have no actual booze to join in your festivities.

Topseyt · 06/04/2015 22:41

I think that the unborn baby has been fathered by alien from a visiting spacecraft which landed in Ghana.

The woman has been especially selected by the alien species to explore the entire planet.

DrankSangriaInThePark · 06/04/2015 22:52

Tali....funny you should say that....I haven't taken drink myself this evening as am on antibiotics and also want to keep a clear head for the next UN summit revelation, but I've been watching Once Upon A Time in America and thinking how the young Robert de Nero looks like Ed.

Indigo child is middle class apologist talk for spoilt brat isn't it?

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 22:53

Yes.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 22:57

Drank, I keep thinking all the things I'd do to Ed, could be considered to be Treason.

I've just told my friend about this fred. I think her head exploded.

BaronessBomburst · 06/04/2015 23:02

Can we get in Holland somehow? I want a margarita with blue Bols in it. It looks so much better than bog standard triple sec.