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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

967 replies

Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

OP posts:
TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 16:58

Just be grateful she didn't say Lesotho or Rwanda.

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 17:12

Shhh, Tali - don't give her ideas! Are there any continents we haven't covered yet?

Lweji · 06/04/2015 17:14

Antarctica?

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 17:15

We haven't had Oceania/Australasia. Asia. South and Central America and Antarctica.

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 17:24

Oh, lots to go then.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 17:28

I don't know how many times Italy has been mentioned but I'm keeping up with the game.

Fxckedmywayuptothetop · 06/04/2015 17:55

I guess you could offer to look after the son (as you said he's really nice) while she leaves and tries to find accommodation and offer to look after him until Friday and then they will both have to do as its too impractical? I'm sorry OP this is a deep hole you're in!

Missymum6 · 06/04/2015 18:31

Don't offer to look after the son! Blimey op already said guest is thinking of dumping the boy to run off with the Canadian. Would she leave him and not return? I seriously can't belive this is still on going

KatieKaye · 06/04/2015 18:38

We've not had the International Space Station either.

Hmm, so we have a semi-nomadic woman, who appears to enjoy a good time at parties, is partial to inviting visiting females into her bed, despite being widely travelled and having lived in Italy for some years is impervious to European lifestyles with the excuse reason she is originally from Africa and merrily insults hosts, has no visible means of supporting herself and child other than payments from various men and is quite gregarious.
Did I Miss anything out?
I'm just waiting to hear she was in Switzerland because of the Hadron collider. Either that or she is a chocolate addict.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 18:59

Lily. Can you get on her on that program, that is aiming to send people on a one way trip to Mars in 2022.

SignoraStronza · 06/04/2015 18:59

Actually, I knew a Columbian woman living in Italy, who became pg by a Maroccan guy. He got married and so she met an total sucker old Italian guy and persuaded him to 'recognise' (put his name on the birth certificate of) the baby.
Once 'recognised', it is totally impossible to 'unrecognise' a baby in Italy (or it was, not sure if the law has changed). Consequently, when the Italian guy left her and the tiny baby, she was able to remain in his apartment. She was also granted leave to remain and so free to work and travel in the EU, soley based on her dd's citizenship.

PivotPIVOT · 06/04/2015 19:43

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TenerifeSea · 06/04/2015 19:46

"Can you get on her on that program, that is aiming to send people on a one way trip to Mars in 2022."

I snorted, like the lady that I am. Grin

Lweji · 06/04/2015 19:54

I know a few Colombian women. One got married to an Egyptian and the other to a Danish man. One went on to live in Tanzania. Another returned to Colombia and eventually married an American man.
No Moroccans, though.

I also know an African man who went to an European city for a party and got an ex gf there pregnant. I believe he is now charming Brazilian women. I hope he carries condoms, having learnt his lesson.

I work in an field that lends itself to get to know globetrotters.

backtowork2015 · 06/04/2015 19:55

who suggested she was ghanian? have I missed something?

YouTheCat · 06/04/2015 19:58

The OP said HG is Ghanian.

Eggynuff · 06/04/2015 20:07

Did I Miss anything out?

She has the ability to persuade strangers to give her the shoes off their feet.

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 20:10
Grin
Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 20:22

Right, so what do they drink on Mars? Something red-coloured? Definitely chilled, possibly on the rocks.

Topseyt · 06/04/2015 20:28

Blimey, took the kids out for a pizza this afternoon, and by the time I come back and try to catch up with this thread the woman is now a Ghanaian national??

Is it true? Must be. You couldn't make it up like this, surely. Confused Grin

Was she born to some sort of nomadic tribe in Ghana?

Trying to keep up with this thread just makes you dizzy! Shock Wink

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 20:39

There's no time for pizzas on this thread, Topseyt.

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 20:45

This thread is a full-time occupation. Blink and you miss a vital bit of imagination information.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 20:46

Has she tried to get into Gliese 832c? I've heard they are really lax with immigrantion and its only 16 light years from Earth.

She can sponge of them Aliens.

Chippednailvarnish · 06/04/2015 20:51

But more importantly, what do Glieses drink?

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 20:54

Flaming blow jobs apparently. Absinthe, Baileys and Sambucca served up in a fleshlight.

That's just what I've hard, don't ask about the name either.