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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

967 replies

Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

OP posts:
TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 14:19

And now wants to move to Canada.

Koalafications · 06/04/2015 14:20
Grin

Can I take a bet that the baby was conceived in Abu Dhabi and the birth will be in Russia as the father grew up in Brazil and that's traditional.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 14:20

You have a choice to stop her, if she wont leave, call the police and have her removed.

Koalafications · 06/04/2015 14:21

But where we will the Christening be? Hong Kong, naturally. I'm sure of it.

Smooshface · 06/04/2015 14:22

give her notice to quit, she should be emergency housed by social services? I'm not sure how it works now.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 14:22

First birthday will be held in Brazil. The wedding to the Canadian will be held in the Antarctic, to make the bride feel at home.

Chippednailvarnish · 06/04/2015 14:22

Any idea what the national drink of Ghana is?

PringleLicker · 06/04/2015 14:23

If she is Ghanaian she will have had to get a visa to come to UK and will have had to prove she can support herself while here. So you don't need to worry whether she's got enough money and don't need to worry about lending her any. Smile

Smooshface · 06/04/2015 14:24

oh and don't worry so much about mutual friends if she really is gonna piss off to another country, either they will listen to your side or they won't (then are they really friends?)

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 14:24

Asana or Maize Beer according to my friend google.

PringleLicker · 06/04/2015 14:25

Also can I have USA -I like southern comfort

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 14:27

America would have been my next pick, I love Southern Comfort, I just don't have any in the house atm.

SoleSource · 06/04/2015 14:27
Confused
scribblescrabble · 06/04/2015 14:28

crying at 'Who the fuck is she Phileas Fogg'!! lol :) :) :)

DrankSangriaInThePark · 06/04/2015 14:29

Is the child's father Italian? How did she manage to take herself off to Switzerland to live? How, come to think of it, has she entered the UK- ie on what kind of immigration restrictions?

Because if she's Ghanaian, then she has no EU freedom of movement, does she?

So my language perplexities are solved, but my immigration ones are buzzing now...

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 14:31

That was unfair, OP! Who's going to have a glass of Akpeteshie at hand?

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 14:31

Around the world, at mates I stay. That should be her slogan.

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 14:33

Does anyone else think the OP is sitting at home with a pin and an atlas? Grin

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 14:34

Be careful she don't destroy her passports and other papers otherwise immigration will have to let her stay while they sort it out.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 14:36

Better, I can imagine that. I call Czech Republic. Some will have some Staropramen.

BabyGanoush · 06/04/2015 14:38

I am probably a sucker but I believe all the countries stuff.

I amSwedish, met DH (English)at uni in Spain, then we moved to London then Singapore then Brazil (wherekids were born). We allspeak(some) Enhlish/Swedish/portuguese/Spanish

Lots of our friends are from different countries....

Not everyone lives UK centric lives

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 14:40

This house guest is clearly a global problem. I think it's time to call in the UN.

Chippednailvarnish · 06/04/2015 14:41

Tali unfortunately Andrew got the Czech Republic last night...

Bettercallsaul1 · 06/04/2015 14:43

But there are so many men too! All either proposing or running away from this lady!

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 06/04/2015 14:43

Ah well, I'll stick to Italy and the Amaretto.

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